Awareness of aspie behaviours
quite the opposite for me, i think im doing not-so-autistic things but then someone will point things out to me and it will always come as a shock to me
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I think I may have had a mini-anxiety attack just now when I called my friend to tell them I tried out for the transportation police today and I ended up mentioning the wrong branch by accident without bothering to correct myself, until she pointed it out to me a few minutes later. Now I feel real bad because she thinks I was lying, even though it was an honest mistake/misunderstanding and now I can't calm down.
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I'm sure it'll be alright. If she's a friend, then she'll give you the benefit of the doubt and if she knows you're an Aspie, then she should know you can't lie
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I'm sure it'll be alright. If she's a friend, then she'll give you the benefit of the doubt and if she knows you're an Aspie, then she should know you can't lie
Yeah, I guess that's a good thing to rely on. Funny thing is right before we hung up I apologized for the "confusion' and she responded with "why are you apologizing for confusing someone?" which sounds strange since if I had just organized my thoughts right the first time there wouldn't be any confusion or feelings of lying. And yes she does know I'm an Aspie.
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I'm sure it'll be alright. If she's a friend, then she'll give you the benefit of the doubt and if she knows you're an Aspie, then she should know you can't lie
Yeah, I guess that's a good thing to rely on. Funny thing is right before we hung up I apologized for the "confusion' and she responded with "why are you apologizing for confusing someone?" which sounds strange since if I had just organized my thoughts right the first time there wouldn't be any confusion or feelings of lying. And yes she does know I'm an Aspie.
See?!?! There ya go! Nothing to worry about.
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Your Aspie score: 151 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 60 of 200
Formally diagnosed in 2007.
Learn the simple joy of being satisfied with little, rather than always wanting more.
I'm sure it'll be alright. If she's a friend, then she'll give you the benefit of the doubt and if she knows you're an Aspie, then she should know you can't lie
Yeah, I guess that's a good thing to rely on. Funny thing is right before we hung up I apologized for the "confusion' and she responded with "why are you apologizing for confusing someone?" which sounds strange since if I had just organized my thoughts right the first time there wouldn't be any confusion or feelings of lying. And yes she does know I'm an Aspie.
See?!?! There ya go! Nothing to worry about.
Uhh......thanks.
Edit: now I kinda made myself real upset when I looked back on how bad, disjointed and utterly panicky I sounded.
I love this thread! Everyone's responses are making me feel so much better about my own traits. It's good to know that I'm not the only one to feel or act this way. I started a thread a few months ago called "Things I do that I thought everyone else does, but doesn't". Some of things listed here were on my list.
And I can totally relate to carrying a bag of things with me "just in case". My mother tells me that I always look like I'm moving whenever I go somewhere. I never thought of that as Aspie until just now...
I carry my backpack with me almost everywhere
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I'm sure it'll be alright. If she's a friend, then she'll give you the benefit of the doubt and if she knows you're an Aspie, then she should know you can't lie
Yeah, I guess that's a good thing to rely on. Funny thing is right before we hung up I apologized for the "confusion' and she responded with "why are you apologizing for confusing someone?" which sounds strange since if I had just organized my thoughts right the first time there wouldn't be any confusion or feelings of lying. And yes she does know I'm an Aspie.
See?!?! There ya go! Nothing to worry about.
Uhh......thanks.
Edit: now I kinda made myself real upset when I looked back on how bad, disjointed and utterly panicky I sounded.
There's worse things in life. Really, unless you're dying of a terminal illness or looking at facing life imprisonment, you ain't really got much to worry about. Don't sweat the small stuff. It'll pass.
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Your Aspie score: 151 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 60 of 200
Formally diagnosed in 2007.
Learn the simple joy of being satisfied with little, rather than always wanting more.
I love this thread. It makes me feel so normal
When I have doubts about the aspie thing and think that maybe I've taken 2+2 and made 5, I can come in here and there you all are, listing things that I do.
I also naturally tend to panic about stuff I've said, and build up peoples imagined responses in my head.
Through years of experience, I've learned that things that seem really big to me are often so small to other people that they haven't even noticed. I'm a far harsher critic of myself than anyone else is, usually. Other people only start thinking I'm crap if I let my inner critic drag me down to the point where I stop trying because I think there's no point.
Bahaha, this is great topic because like so many others, I'll catch myself engaging in behaviors that I've called my "classics." This thread just hits the spot!
I do my best to be self-aware, but there are times where I'll be sitting in class or at work and just start rocking back and forth in my chair. If my hands aren't busy, then I am perpetually twirling my hair, playing with my eyebrows, or rubbing my jawline.
I have a spot in the library that I always go to for study time, and one day another young lady was sitting there and it threw off my day because of the interference with my schedule. I stood there for a few minutes hoping she'd get up soon, but it didn't happen, and it really irked me.
I plan my outfits by picking up the next shirt hanging in line. I had a friend tease me about it when her and her boyfriend came over. I had just came home from her and I stated that I was going to change and she comments, "Oh, what are you going to wear? Whatever shirt is next?
" And she was correct >.>
I'm definitely anal when it comes to eating--I eat a fruit and cereal bar in the morning, a sandwich for lunch, and whatever is next on the "Dinner List" for evening meals. I'll make separate things for my husband because while he'll be content with simple meals, he won't exactly eat the same thing everyday like I do.
I do believe that my social skills are adequate--I can chameleon in a lot of situations after the first 10 minutes of situating myself. A lot of my overt aspie traits fall in routine, stimming, and looking awkward when talking to someone (I stumble over my words and blank out a lot when trying to get the sentence out) but keeping a big cheesy smile on my face so no one thinks I don't know what I'm doing
All of the internal mechanisms are a little more complex to explain, as a lot of you may know (the black-and-white thinking, finding patterns in thought processes, situations, or physical things, formulated approaches to friendships, etc).
I've really enjoyed reading the posts. There's definitely a humorous side to all of this XD
My husband has commented on my carrying bags and bags with me wherever I go. My pocketbook is overstuffed and I carry a tote bag as well. I think my purse has about 13 pens, different colors and tip styles, and doubles of each in case one runs out or breaks. He's told me that people will think there's something wrong with me when they see how much I'm carrying around, but I just tell him to mind his own business and leave me alone. Because when someone needs a pen... guess who is the one who has just the right one? ![]()
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I read your post first when I was still at home in bed and planning not to go to work but then I decided I should go.
Now I'm at work reading your post and wish I was at home.
Sometimes, I just need to be away from everyone. I find this very draining - I'm mute at work most days but people don't get the message. They keep coming up and asking me stuff. Can't they see I just want to be left alone. The ones I hate the most are the ones that come to your desk and say "You're very quiet!"
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Your Aspie score: 151 of 200
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Formally diagnosed in 2007.
Learn the simple joy of being satisfied with little, rather than always wanting more.
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I read your post first when I was still at home in bed and planning not to go to work but then I decided I should go.
Now I'm at work reading your post and wish I was at home.
Sometimes, I just need to be away from everyone. I find this very draining - I'm mute at work most days but people don't get the message. They keep coming up and asking me stuff. Can't they see I just want to be left alone. The ones I hate the most are the ones that come to your desk and say "You're very quiet!"
and now I've just had one of my 'oopsies' moments as I call them. I shouldn't have opened my mouth. I shouldn't have come in today.
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Your Aspie score: 151 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 60 of 200
Formally diagnosed in 2007.
Learn the simple joy of being satisfied with little, rather than always wanting more.
