Slowly starting to realize we don't feel empathy

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The first thing that comes to people's minds when you think of empathy is "kind, caring and thoughtful". People forget that empathy is more complex than that, like the differences between cognitive, emotional and selective empathy.
If empathy only meant kind and caring, then a lot of people would lack it, because I'm sure NT bullies aren't being kind and caring, and also if empathy only meant kind and caring then this world would be a peaceful place with no bullying or animosity or rejection, the list goes on.
I'm not saying NTs lack empathy, but I do not put empathy down as a distictive difference between Aspies and NTs (don't know if other neurodiversities have this lack of empathy stigma glued to them too).

I think the world needs to be more educated or aware on what empathy really means beyond "kind and caring", so that autism wouldn't have so much stigma when empathy is mentioned.

To the OP:

If you were a sociopath, it wouldn't bother you. A curiosity maybe, but you wouldn't be disturbed by it. I read a psychologists quote: "if you are worried you are a sociopath, you're not."

And we would be better at faking emotion to get what we want like they do. Are we good at premeditatedly manipulating NTs? I haven't heard of any of us that are.

I am happy to be corrected.

Not true. I have several good friends with whom I empathize whenever they need someone to talk to. About the only people I don't have empathy for are parents who let their kids run around and act like little brats.

And for the record, I do know what empathy is. I just choose to focus on this aspect of it.