Would you rather be ignored, pitied, hated or disrespected?

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Isn't that just a little bit selfish? I mean, it's like having friends and expecting that they only come over to your house and you never go to theirs.

I guess what I mean is if you can't accept thaat I can't live on your level a most of the time, then don't bother. I would rather be left alone than hated or pitied, or ignored. But if you can accept who I am, and involve me on a level I can be comfortable with, I am more than willing to come out from under my rock.

Being ignored is, at worst, slightly annoying. At best, I greatly appreciate it. And it's certainly something I'm used to and accept as a normal part of life.

The other options, on the other hand, are awful. That is if and when I care what others think of me.

To me, being ignored is the absolute worst of the list, probably cause ive spent most of my life being ignored. If people ignore me, i tend to scream at them these days.

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I'd rather be me.

Neither. Respect me as you would youself and then leave me alone.

ignored.

I voted for hated. I do not like being ignored, that'd be the worst along with disrespected. Pitied would be my second option.

In my childhood I was really hated. I have experienced some real hatred. Knowing what that's like, I would much rather be ignored. I tend to ignore others and take the easiest way. It's much less stress for me.

agreed

Just last week I thought about re-posting this thread. I think it's funny that today I came to the forum and found it resurrected .

That being said, being

ignored
pitied
hated
disrespected

still all suck, but I now think that being hated sucks more than being pitied but not more than being disrespected. Ideally, this is the course I want negative social interactions to follow:

I'm just another random guy walking down the street; people ignore me. As people get to know me, they begin to disrespect me. People get to know me even more, eventually reason that my problem is pathological, and instead of disrespecting me, they begin to pity me. Then I spit in their faces for piting me and make them hate me. Over time, if they are wise, they will realize that I am not worthy of their negative emotions and begin, once again, to ignore me.

The obvious question...why would they think you are pathological?
Maybe you aren't pathological you just bring out the pathology in others and thus respond accordingly.
I have had instances where I have totally minded my own business completely quiet and oblivious, not saying a word to anyone nor doing anything that involved anyone but myself...looking at books on a shelf at a library, for example, and I have been blatantly disrespected by complete and total strangers. They make a flippant remark for no other reason but to amuse themselves at my expense. Now, how does this equate to anyone else's pathology but their own?

my guess: either you look funny or did something funny. could be your demeanor, too.

I look funny. I am funny looking. Okay let me be honest. I live near a college. In fact, it's the state's flagship university. I live a few miles from it, practically in it's campus's backyard:)
So, one time I was at the library there because I used to hang out at the library and sleep on the couch near the restroom.
I was looking at a book on a shelf.
First, I interject with some factual information:
Not only do I live a stone's throw from the university, I live really close to this huge mental hospital that's in the same town as the college, right?
So, it's like, everyone in that town are aware of the college and the hospital and the ones at the college are, like, a little paranoid because of the hospital. Now, I, personally, am not paranoid. I have no problem with the hospital and I would like to forget it's there. It's far from my mind, okay? But I am unusual in that respect because most in that town obsess on the mental hospital and think about it all the time,
So, I was at the library on campus and this guy and his girl were there at a table and they saw me and the guy told the girl I must be a "crazy person" who was from that mental hospital. He said it to her but made sure it was loud enough for me to hear and he stared at me and said "she's crazy"
Man, that got on my nerves and hurt my feelings. For one thing, it wasn't true. For another thing, the guy acted like he was trying to deliberately antagonize me.

Fascinating. A storyline.

My general social storyline would be this:

In the first couple of exchanges, people think that I'm really impressive and great. But after a few exchanges, I offend them and they get disrespectful. Then I continue to be assertive and arrogant, so they move to outright hatred. As I continue to interact with them, some of them split into pitying me, some of them split into ignoring me, and the guy I am hooked up with thinks I'm really impressive and great (but he's the only one in the world at the time who doesn't either pity me or ignore me).

In general I'm happy to be ignored b/c then I can be whatever I want to be with minimal interference.

I picked "ignored". Honestly though, I'd rather be hated than disrespected or pitied.