Do ALL Aspies or Auties dislike bieing hugged or touched?

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Ya, tbh I never want to get married or be in a sexual relationship, and when I tell girls that they treat me worse. Or they keep trying, which ends even more badly. It just doesn't work for me. And it doesn't help that the only girls that befriend me tend to be completely insane in the first place.

Nope, not me! I love hugs and cuddling provided that they're appropriate. :3
I think only a certain percentage of autistics may not like bodily contact due to sensory issues.

I like physical contact as long as it's someone I know well and trust, hate it with strangers though,

I am an Aspie, and I like to be hugged. Then again, I am a female Aspie, a "minority within a minority" as Rudy Simone says, and female Aspies have different traits than the majority of Aspies, who are male.

It's not that I don't like being hugged. Actually, I like it a lot! It's just that it feels quite... intimate... to me, so I really have to be quite comfortable with the person to enjoy it. I think it's not like this for most people - they can just hug anyone and it's fine. It's gradually gotten easier over time, though - as a child I didn't like being touched by anyone at all.

Are you sure about that?

I'm very 'touchy feely' apparently. Sometimes, a little too much for my friends.

What makes you think I'd be unsure? I know plenty of straight people that don't want to marry. Jesus was straight I think and he never married I think.

Oh, I wasn't referring to that, I was referring to your previous post:

Sounds more like #nohetero to me. Not that there's anything wrong with that!

Oh, and now there's also this:

I love to be hugged, cuddled, and touched, but only by certain people and in certain ways. My fiancee can love up to me, rub my back, or hug me. On the other hand, it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable when my parents show me affection, even a pat on the back.

Now even though I like affection, certain things bother me. If I'm sitting close to a person I'm comfortable with and our arms are touching, I'll constantly be trying to get away from that touch. When I hold hands with someone or cuddle with someone, I fidget constantly. It's not that I don't like the affection, in fact I love it. It's just that I'm also uncomfortable with the sensation or position. If you rub my back, don't do it for a long time in the same area or it'll feel like my skin is being rubbed raw. Light touches make me itchy as hell. Things like this usually make the person not be affectionate with me, thinking I don't like it when I really do.

I can admire masculine traits of black men and not be gay. I can also befriend guys that are more masculine than me and like them for their masculine personality and not be gay. It's who they are and I can like my friends for who they are. Just because I enjoy people with masculine personalities more than feminine personalities doesn't mean I'm gay. I read on a Christian website that some traits of masculinity are honesty, responsibility, and defending the weak. I'm kind of not very strong, so it would make sense why I like to befriend masculine people and like their masculine traits. And I said in that post that I wanted to have a polygamist relationship with a black CHICK not a black GUY silly head.

I love being touched, in fact what makes me upset is not being touched enough.

I love being touched and hugged, but only by people I know and trust. Light touch irritates the hell out of me though.
If I don't like you or know you, and you offer me a hug, you will look silly standing there with your arms wide open while I shrug and shift uncomfortably on my feet.
I hate shaking hands, especially with aggressive patriarchs. Some people use their hands for things like musicianship and surgery. I am a musician, I hate the vice grip. Feel tempted to squeeze the pressure points behind the knuckle.

I hate any form of unexpected physical contact with other people, especially being poked or tapped on the shoulder. Hugging is something I can tolerate somewhat more, as I can usually anticipate it before it happens, though sometimes it happens unexpectedly and it feels really awkward and uncomfortable. Usually though, I try to avoid making physical contact with other people, as it sort of "invites" them to make physical contact with me.

I used to really enjoy cuddling when I was a kid though, and I've realized how much I miss it now that I'm too old to cuddle with anyone, besides a hypothetical girlfriend or whatever, without it being weird. That being said, whenever one of my friends' dogs or cats cuddles up to me, I'll usually make them go away, as they always seem to choose the worst times to jump onto me.

In general though, I'm not a big fan of physical contact, and I usually only enjoy it if I willingly initiate it or allow for it to happen.

Yeah, I got that. I like some masculine traits myself (and some black chicks, for that matter), but making friends with someone because they're good-looking - well, that makes me wonder a little bit. But that post was just a bonus, I was really referring mostly to all that stuff about hugging guys being great and hugging girls being gross. I mean, pretty much everything in that post is along those lines, but especially the "hold hands and hug him and show him how much he means to me, and how much I deeply love him for who he is" bit.

I actually had a friend in high school, quite possibly aspie, who was totally obsessed with this other guy. He wrote a letter to the guy, which he let me read, and I can only describe it as a love letter minus the actual words "I love you". Or maybe he even wrote that, too, I don't remember. He still insisted he was straight and got married later (to a girl), so... either I really don't get these things or it was a one-off thing for him or he actually is secretly bi.

I wonder, is it possible to be homoromantic and heterosexual? Maybe I should start a thread to ask. (Homoromantic and asexual is definitely possible, since we have some members like that right here.) Obviously, I'm not presuming to know your orientation from a post, but... let's just say, if I felt this way, I'd be questioning my heterosexuality.

No. Its great when done by the right person!

Well idk man because my ears get blood red when I'm horny and my ears point out and they are very elfie. I look like a hot evil dumbo when I get horny and one time my ears got red when they shouldn't have but the thing is I don't think it was because I was horny I think I was just super nervous about talking to this guy and my ears confused my nervousness with horniness and ya. The guy was black btw #nohomo