Women who have aspergers: A non-issue for them

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23 Jul 2010, 1:31 am

Anyone notice the OP quickly abandoned the topic?



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23 Jul 2010, 1:55 am

:roll:
It's hilarious what some AS guys think AS girls live like.
They seem to think girls with AS should have no trouble dating, because they would date a girl with AS.
But lots of NT guys are turned off by AS traits, or mistake you for a neurotic biatch.


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23 Jul 2010, 2:16 am

hale_bopp wrote:
Anyone notice the OP quickly abandoned the topic?


I wonder why?



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23 Jul 2010, 3:12 am

What can I say, you know more about women than they know about themselves. I have only had one brief relationship with a guy who was abusive. Before that, I never dated or had any friends. To this day, 5 years later I am still alone and without a man or a friend. I suppose you like so many guys who have a bone to pick on women assume any attention is better than no attention. Well all I can say is you can't know unless you've been in the other person's shoes which is obviously impossible for you. My experience with "attention" has both been rare and often rude. For instance I'll be walking on a road for lack of a bus service just to go grocery shopping. As I'm walking on the narrow shoulder of the road, I'll have a guy scream at me slut! Sometimes it's much less abrasive than that with a honk and a whistle whilst they pass me by. It is the kind of attention I don't look forward to while walking on a non pedstrian road.

So you see, my experiences have gone from one extreme to the next. I'm invisible most of the time with guys and clueless. On the otherhand, I feel like I have to put my guard up against the kind of men who were just as possessive and mean as my ex was. It has been anything but easy for me. I'd rather be alone than in a miserable relationship.

And FYI women do not have it easy, we go through a lot of s**t. I get so sick and tired of these threads started by miserable men who have to vent they're anger out on a gender of folks who had nothing to do with their misery.


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23 Jul 2010, 3:16 am

Now I feel silly for responding to your other topic seriously. I sense shenanigans.



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23 Jul 2010, 3:47 am

flyingkittycat wrote:
Now I feel silly for responding to your other topic seriously. I sense shenanigans.


Still I think there's no harm in giving personal insight. I'm amazed by the amount of AS posters who have experienced abusive relationships. I always thought I was the minority when it came to attracting psychopaths. Ironically I also use to make the same general judgements about women getting into abusive relationships like they were all stupid. When I first dated my ex, he didn't come off as the typical a**hole or type of man who was controlling. I think unlike many women with self esteem issues or whatever, I knew right away I had to break it off before it got worse. And I was right, after I told him we were through, he knocked me from behind with his fist.


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23 Jul 2010, 4:07 am

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Aspie girls get partners easier because they need it more than us males. They need it more, so they fight more. Being male i can go anywhere i want and have fun alone, i can have a fulfilling life without people, i can devote my life to science, make huge discoveries and be happier than any N.T.


I feel like you're talking about NT girls NOT aspie girls at all. I don't appreciate the generalization and complete separation which you have made between men and women who have aspergers. Yes, some women put forth a lot of effort because they need the contact. Some men do the same. It's not gender to the degree you're making it seem -- it's more personality type and introversion versus extroversion...


I didn't say that. Fernando did. You've quoted me by accident.



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23 Jul 2010, 5:15 am

I am an aspie female and happily living single.

I don't need a husband or a boyfriend to be happy. I can go out alone to places like movies, the zoo, a basketball game and have a good time doing it.

People that think that romance is the answer to all problems in life need to get in touch with reality.



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23 Jul 2010, 9:17 am

Its about time these people realised hating women isn't going to get them women.

Some peopel call me a "man hater" and yes I sometimes have low tolerance for the things many males do but heres the catch: I don't care. I am not trying to score one.

And THAT is the mark of someone who is TRULY content on their own. Someone who does not care.

This man(Fernando) does, or he wouldn't have posted his two cents on how hes the same in the first place, So all this crap about how he is "content on his own" is a BIG RIPE STEAMING PILE OF FLY LADEN RUNNY TURD



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23 Jul 2010, 10:05 am

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I am a handsome, in shape man who is 33 years old. But because I have aspergers, I am alone.

But if you're a pretty woman with aspergers, it just doesn't matter. In fact men might even like you MORE because of it.

I find this to be so unfair, and so cruel, to the men who have aspergers. There is an old aspie joke that says "whats the difference between an aspie male and an aspie female? answer: the aspie female is married".

How do you cope with the fact that you'll be alone the rest of your life? I'm having a hard time accepting. EVERY WOMAN treats me like I'm the plauge' and I'm so sick of it. They approach me because of my looks, flirt a little, then realize "oh hes different, I dont like him anymore".

I dont even try anymore. Its such a losing battle, and in the end it just brings more and more pain.

You read these websites on how to pick up girls. You have to be the fuggin' "alpha male" b.s. because God forbid you are like me, women just wont like you.

I really have contemplated suicide over this. I'm sick of being alone. Here I am a handsome in shape caring guy, and Im all alone. This world is so fugged up. I dont even want to live anymore. I cant wait for death.


Another weirdo that's pissed off because he can't get a Heather Kuzmich lookalike into bed? Grow up. There's something called online porn. You can see women do anything and you don't even have to be close to them to see everything.
Both nt men and women and Aspie women are genetically programmed to have kids, Aspie men are not. Get over it!



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23 Jul 2010, 10:08 am

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Its about time these people realised hating women isn't going to get them women.

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You know they'll never realize it though. They'll say the women deserve to be hated because they won't give a "nice guy" such as themselves a chance. They'll say it's the womens' responsibility to date them so that they can finally give up all that hate. And that until women live up to this responsibility, they will continue to hate women.



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23 Jul 2010, 10:18 am

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You need counselling. Odds are it's not just your Asperger's that's causing the problem, but some other issues such as poor self-esteem or extreme social anxiety. These are not inherent to the Syndrome, and can be dealt with.

I'd watch out, in your post I'm seeing similarities with the attitude that the guy who shot up that gym had. Blaming women and the world for his own problems. I'd look into dealing with the situation in a more constructive manner than blame.


KaiG, he needs porn, not therapy! What he wants is sex, not a relationship.



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23 Jul 2010, 10:44 am

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You need counselling. Odds are it's not just your Asperger's that's causing the problem, but some other issues such as poor self-esteem or extreme social anxiety. These are not inherent to the Syndrome, and can be dealt with.

I'd watch out, in your post I'm seeing similarities with the attitude that the guy who shot up that gym had. Blaming women and the world for his own problems. I'd look into dealing with the situation in a more constructive manner than blame.


KaiG, he needs porn, not therapy! What he wants is sex, not a relationship.


You're doing it again. Projecting yourself onto other aspie males! Yeah the guy is a muppet but you need to stop generalising.



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23 Jul 2010, 10:58 am

hale_bopp wrote:
Lonermutant wrote:
KaiG wrote:
You need counselling. Odds are it's not just your Asperger's that's causing the problem, but some other issues such as poor self-esteem or extreme social anxiety. These are not inherent to the Syndrome, and can be dealt with.

I'd watch out, in your post I'm seeing similarities with the attitude that the guy who shot up that gym had. Blaming women and the world for his own problems. I'd look into dealing with the situation in a more constructive manner than blame.


KaiG, he needs porn, not therapy! What he wants is sex, not a relationship.


You're doing it again. Projecting yourself onto other aspie males! Yeah the guy is a muppet but you need to stop generalising.


Do you really think he really wants a girlfriend?! He's just another pitiful misogynist virgin.



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23 Jul 2010, 11:20 am

I do not know what he is doing wrong. When I worked at the resteraunt I was exposed to waitresses who asked me out several times over the nine years I worked there. When I asked why because I cannot trust anyone they always told me it was because I seemed lonely and would be happy with them. I never believe anyone could love me so I turned them down or gave them reasons why I can't be with them. They would say it was because they had kids or because they were over weight but really it was because cannot trust anyone and I do not liked being touched or to touch someone. I could not tell them that they would have thought I was crazy. When I told one waitress it was because I do not like being touched she asked me if I was molested as a kid I told her no but she then said I must be supressing it. :roll:

This guy has to have at least one women flirt with him or at least ask him out. I have even been asked out by gay men and if you ask me they are more choosey then NT women. I try to avoid being around people and I still had chances at relationships if I could get over my issues. He must give off some sort of vibe that others seem to pick up and he is not noticing.


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23 Jul 2010, 12:50 pm

EnglishInvader wrote:
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englishinvader wrote:
Aspie girls get partners easier because they need it more than us males. They need it more, so they fight more. Being male i can go anywhere i want and have fun alone, i can have a fulfilling life without people, i can devote my life to science, make huge discoveries and be happier than any N.T.


I feel like you're talking about NT girls NOT aspie girls at all. I don't appreciate the generalization and complete separation which you have made between men and women who have aspergers. Yes, some women put forth a lot of effort because they need the contact. Some men do the same. It's not gender to the degree you're making it seem -- it's more personality type and introversion versus extroversion...


I didn't say that. Fernando did. You've quoted me by accident.


Apparently I can't get quotes correct .My bad, my bad!