aspie women and boyfriends

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Ok Im not trying to say that aspie women don't deserve to date or to have a good husband or that these single attractive nt women are better than any of ladies. I don't know why you ladies think that?. Now since you now know that Im a male not a female. I can now somewhat explain from a male view.

So I watched and read alot of article on succesful women who are single. And just thought it was so interested on how so many of these ladies are single but yet they tend to be ''above'' social ladder than alot aspie women here. Not saying they are better people just social they are more ''important''.
So when I read on wrong planet I keep reading on how so many women here on wrong planet have boyfriends or husband. Not just bf/husband but a very good and loving one as well. So I just wonder that if some of these succesful women who also were very attractive had a very hard time ''getting'' or staying in a relationship. I just assumed That aspie women should had a more harder time. Because alot of folks with asperger have more tougher with social skills then these ladies did. And not just these succesful ladies . There are alot of nt women who's in their late 30's that never been on date. So I assumed that since nt women had better social skills than alot aspie women and if they struggle in relationship. then shouldn't aspie women also have a hard time as well. to a point where even alot can't ''get'' or ''keep'' a man.

interested on men and women view their partner. Women like men who are outgoing, confidence,
but men really seem look past alot of things and more open to dating all type of women.

so Im sorry if I got anyone upset here. I was never trying too. I don't think aspie women are bad people. I don't think nt women are better people.
I just trying to figure this dating thing.

Ok Bill,

seems you are not so smart, like, say, we aspie ladies.
Let me then try to explain you this in simple terms.
English is my third language, but anyways, I hope you will understand.

Maybe that can come as a surprise to you,
but aspies are people too.
You know, two eyes, nose, arms and all of that.
Now, as human beings, they date other human beings.
What most want from relationship?
Love , closeness, sharing, loyalty...right?
AS is no obstacle for that.

Now, if you want some extra stuff, like money , success or great looks,
not all AS people have that, not all NT people have that.

Maybe some successful NT women with money and looks are too picky?
Maybe they scare men?
Maybe they simply do not have time for men, as all their time goes on making money (you know, money do not come from bank, you actually have to earn them, usually)
being successful (you have to spend lots of time for just that)
and beautiful?
( say 2 or more hours a day into the beauty care, like make up, skin treatments, gym, preparing healthy food not to get fat, ect)
As you can imagine, there is not much time left for man, relationship and all that it represents and that can men resent.
Or sometimes they are so busy, that they do not have time for even getting to know a potential partner.


Bill, you need to get laid, seriously.
Stop worrying about single women and make one happy.
Just do that.
And you will see you will have more fun and learn more than from trolling.

I have a fiancé - been together for 10 years. But I don't really have any friends.

He found me on the net - I don't know how to pick up, flirt et. Don't go to clubs, bars etc. so I may well have been on my own otherwise.

I mentioned this topic to my bf. he says he dated the hot girls, but they were high maintenance, selfish etc. he wanted someone in the middle - proactive, aspirations, go getter etc. This fits in with my aspie qualities of high achiever, perfectionism, smart etc.

We talk about everything and anything. I find it easy to talk to guys - cars, bikes, computers/tech etc. he understands my shortfalls and tries to help me, it's very sweet of him.

I I don't get along with girls at all really. All the things they like, I'm not interested in ( clothes,babies etc).

I suppose we click especially well as he isn't really social either and likes working on his own projects. I would not get along with a super hot nt as we would have different values and life goals.