Men with autism more 'chivalrous'

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Here's the thing. There is one constant comment on me all my life. Childhood on. "You're very intense." Don't know where that comes from.

But, I lock onto things for two reasons. One is the stare where I lock on and can't break it because it's uncomfortable and I freeze. A bit of the 'deer in the headlights' thing.

But, I also get lost in features many times. Male or female. I see them as living paintings and I am studying by way of observance of anatomy and structure, planes, color, proportion, deviance from 'classical' features that we almost all possess...all of that. On the one hand, I can see that as a form of objectification because at that point, they become an object of art and interest. A face that is not classically attractive, but exudes something that I wish I could capture on canvas, or just an attitude or something. So much variation and texture to the human species. Even within homogeneous populations, the variance is amazing, contrasted to the incredible homogeneity we all share.

But, it is not objectification of them sexually, or desire or anything negative. But, a form of objectification nonetheless and that may come through as well.

But, if I am disappearing into special interest land (Anatomy/art) I will get intense.

So, If I am intense when I am not trying to be, actually relaxed many times and having fun, then what the heck do I project when I really am intense and just staring?

Kinda one of those reasons I'm a bit freaked about being around people.

I separated this because I thought it was so subtle in its implications by this one change:

I have never seen one pull any act off, even if he seemed to be trying.

There are those that are much better, obviously, so I speak of those of us who are just learning. Until then, I think this change would apply to most any social situation I've been in.

Dunno about where you are, but in America, it seems that everybody is walking on eggshells about everything. People are getting to where they are offended over everything and anything. Even if there is no real rationale.

I was just trying to be funny.

I thought it was and also true.
We're just taking it to an absurd level in America. Why? Because for a country that says people should be able to say things freely, we sure have a lot of people telling everybody what to say.