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If one's Autism or AS is so that extremely "invisible" and "goes under the radar" to the extant that no one, not even the experts, can see it, then this one doesn't have any form of Autism.

From another old thread (i found its link below) I wrote things very relevant to this topic:

It is a shame that this thread went so much off topic.

Aggression does not help someone to understand the topic... I think it's time to cut Ezra some slack, no need to strengthen these unnecessarily negative associations... the relationship between the various sub categories of ASD does not need more division.

Reacting emotionally and basing what could be a rational discussion on these conditioned sensitivities is not helping matters, as there is a bigger picture.

Can anyone relate to being a prickly teenager?
I can!

BOO! I was wondering where you were.

Since we last had this conversation (which you may or may not remember,) I have been diagnosed with residual autism and bipolar disorder. So now I have one diagnosis of autism, one of residual autism and one of bipolar, not to mention associated depression and anxiety.

I read an article once from NIMH about how autism, schizophrenia and bipolar are genetically linked and I think this is the case. The characteristics blend to a certain extent.

From what I have read on here over the years, I think having any severe forms of autism or any visible conditions is easier than coming off as normal because when you appear normal, you are more likely to face abuse from your peers and school staff. That can do a toll on your self esteem and give you anxiety and depression and PTSD and make your problems worse. Plus when it's obvious you have something, you get more respect and it's easier to have friends and fit in and be accepted but when you look normal, everyone has higher expectations of you. I couldn't figure out as a kid how is it that kids who looked different and were more different than me could be "normal" because they somehow got people to accept them. One of them was even social and had friends and interacted with them and she would say hi to me whenever she passed me in the halls. We both went to the same school together when I was in preschool and we also were in the same classroom when I was six. Then we were both in the same regular school in a regular classroom. I also noticed how kids in wheelchairs got help from the staff and my mom explained to me it was because they were so different of course they helped them but because I looked like everyone else, they didn't want to help me. I had an impression they just wanted normal kids but yet I couldn't understand how they can be so kind to the wheelchair people and to a girl who had Down's syndrome and this other boy who looked so different than everyone else because he had some body deformity and he couldn't talk so he communicated using a card that had letters on it and he did his school work on the computer because he couldn't hold a pencil and write but he was smart as the rest of us. Also those kids got more respect than I did.

I am not saying that no one with obvious disabilities don't ever get abused nor am I saying it doesn't ever happen.

The way I see it...he's learning...if the first time he started this tread he was offensive....now he seems more defensive... He might not remember it but he's learning some how...

If there is nothing wrong with the person then there is nothing wrong. However in a lot of cases there are pretty severe problems that usually appear in specific areas. For me I've had major social difficulties and academic trouble despite testing very high in many areas, I just can't seem to apply. Not only that but I've missed out on some pretty major social queues and have very noticeable stereotypical aspergian traits when communicating. In fact all of us do (at least those of us who aren't neurotyp) so in most cases they're noticeable or there undiagnosed or don't have ASDs.