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I do not have a Mental Problem. I have a neurological disorder! I am average or above in intelligence! I live on my own! I pay my own bills! I buy my own groceries! I cook my own meals! I do my own laundry! I do my own cleaning! I take public transport without assistance! I'm looking for a job! I can go on the Internet and do E-mail! I've graduated from High School, on the A-Honour Roll! I am an Aspie and I am proud!

Sid :O)

KevinLA in the process of your own denial you are asking others to forget the beliefs that are more than likely holding them together as individuals. I don't think that the AS ruined your life, but I believe with all my heart that you do. If you're a failure it's because you are unmotivated for whatever reason. Life is chance. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. It seems like to me that you are using your AS as an excuse/crutch. If you are wallowing in the idea that the AS ruined your life, I don't know what to tell you.

I think the problem here is attitude. You deny all help and advice and seem content with your unhappiness. It has nothing to do with AS; as other people have said, there are people with AS who are successful, and some who still struggle it or try to come to grips with it. AS may just mean something inevitable that happens--you don't need to worry over the fact that it happens, so much as what you should do when it happens. No point in mulling over something you can't change; you'd just be wasting your time. Then you blame other people for being less experienced than you and therefore can't understand you--but I ask you--what does "life experience" have to do with anything? You concede that you have no friends and no job for 36 years, yet you have learned nothing from it. If you had spent most of your life trying to find friends and trying to get a job, perhaps you would have learned why you couldn't get a job or have some friends, and figured out how to deal with it--perhaps that's what you should have been doing for 36 years instead of complaining about how you have AS and can't have friends or a job and pretty much stop trying. And please, please, please, don't tell me that it's impossible for you to get a job or have some friends; there are people with AS who do have jobs and friends.

Instead of complaining and trying to make other people believe dealing with being an Aspie is impossible, perhaps you should be seeking the advice of other Aspies who are much more successful and possibly have more "life experience" as an Aspie than you do. Which also means you shouldn't judge them by their physical age.

I don't speak for anyone else in the thread but I understand where Kevin is coming from.

I have seen people that complain about how people treat them ,yet the appear to do nothing, or think that it's the NTs that are the problem.
I say to these people that they should try counceling, therapy and seeing a doctor for advice and guidence.
I am a person of the strong feelign that people should not complain about something they are not willing to take action against.
I have shown certain threads in this forum to my Non-Aspie friends, and they are, quite frankly, disturbed by the seperationist, almost militaristic attitudes of some people here.

I say to those who think they cannot change that you CAN.

I have changed, I have overcome my weaknesses and disabilities.

If i can do it, there's no reason you cannot.

I say to anyone who considers Aspergers a difference, DON'T.

DON'T consider yourself different.

DON'T condemn yourself to an Us/them mentality.

you are all human beings, you are all people.

I have Aspergers, schizophrenia, Agoraphobia, and a severe Anxiety disorder BUT I concider myself no different from my fellow man.

Despising Neuortypicals is the same as Racism and Sexism. It is self-segregation, nothing more.

If you have a problem that holds you back, you should FIGHT it.

Fight your social inabilities, fight your ideosyncracies.

Change and learn, learn and adapt, adapt and evolve.

*waits to be shot down in a ball of flames*

yeash.. this has turned into quite a debate. personally, i'm all about self-acceptance. i don't need to pretend to be NT in order to have friends or be successful. in fact, i have quite a few NT friends that have learned to accept me as an AS person. the way i see it, if an NT can't accept me having AS, they're not worth knowing in the first place.. i mean, i don't expect NT people to become more like an AS person in order for me to be friends with them.. lol. so why would i think it's ok for them to make me change who i am before they'll be friends with me?? just because someone has AS doesn't mean they'll never have friends or get a life unless they pretend to be NT...