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Alphabetania
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19 May 2009, 6:42 pm

I wouldn't describe myself as "bubbly" though. Bubbly is like "airhead". If I am going to talk nonsense, I will at least wrap it up in pseudo-logic and decent vocabulary.

I don't think other Aspies find me exhausting though. I get on well with quiet people, provided that they are nerdy. Many of my friends are intraverts.

Fortunately I occasionally lecture in Project Management. It is a job in which I am permitted to spout energetically for several days on a topic I find interesting.


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19 May 2009, 6:48 pm

I am now an EMBARASSED extravert Aspie with ADHD. This message was supposed to appear under the subject Do you find extraverts exhausting?.

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19 May 2009, 7:11 pm

You hit "new topic" instead of "reply". They're right beside each other and I have done that on more than on occassion, so don't worry about it. :wink:



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29 May 2009, 4:41 am

Me too... but most of the times I have the feeling that I'm boring people when I'm not, or that what I'm talking makes a lot of sense while no one is understanding what I'm saying.


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29 May 2009, 5:57 am

Dianitapilla wrote:
Me too... but most of the times I have the feeling that I'm boring people when I'm not, or that what I'm talking makes a lot of sense while no one is understanding what I'm saying.

Hehe, I think that sometimes happens to me too. But sometimes people do listen, because we get into a kind of intellectual teasing game, which is fun for me. A matching of wits.

Other times what seems to happen is a kind of vague, glazed-over look which seems to suggest that the guy wants to say, "Yeah...whatever... I don't understand what you're saying, but I don't mind, because I just wanna gaze at you 'cause you're kinda cute and when you finally stop talking I am gonna say something to flatter you and then you will shut up and want to kiss me." Except, I never do want to kiss him.

I also dance, and then there isn't much talking. If someone pays me too much attention on the dancefloor, I sometimes take the tactic of out-dancing them, by filling out the entire floorspace, and by keeping going once they get tired. I am nearly 44 and I can dance for hours once I get into it (probably due to ADHD and a sort of hypnotic state working together). The average young person at the places I go is a smoker, and not very fit, so they can't last as long as I do on the dancefloor. In these places where it is usually quite dark and people have often had too much to drink (not I; I don't drink at all), they somehow don't notice that I am a lot older. Especially if you dress younger and have long hair and act very jumpy.


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29 May 2009, 5:59 am

Dianitapilla wrote:
Me too... but most of the times I have the feeling that I'm boring people when I'm not, or that what I'm talking makes a lot of sense while no one is understanding what I'm saying.

PS: And what DO you tend to talk about? (I am now curious to establish whether I would be bored by it too.)


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29 May 2009, 11:00 am

I also have ADHD, HFA/AS and extroversion.


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29 May 2009, 11:05 am

I'm an extrovert with NLD.



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30 May 2009, 1:59 pm

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I'm an extrovert with NLD.
What's NLD?


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30 May 2009, 2:09 pm

I'm an almost ridiculously extroverted Aspie. I'm just tactless to the extreme, almost completely faceblind and I don't understand spoken language when there's a lot of background noise, but I do talk a lot and I actually have a lot of friends and acquaintances, even for NT standards. I'm someone who organizes social events instead of avoiding them. :lol:



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30 May 2009, 2:28 pm

Eller wrote:
I'm an almost ridiculously extroverted Aspie. I'm just tactless to the extreme, almost completely faceblind and I don't understand spoken language when there's a lot of background noise, but I do talk a lot and I actually have a lot of friends and acquaintances, even for NT standards. I'm someone who organizes social events instead of avoiding them. :lol:

Is faceblind when you can't remember who people are when you look at them? I am a bit like that too. I also sometimes organise events, but sometimes only two people come when 20 are invited! Perhaps because I do it all at too short notice.


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30 May 2009, 3:04 pm

Alphabetania wrote:
Lightning88 wrote:
I'm an extrovert with NLD.
What's NLD?


"Non-verbal Learning Disability"

I'm learning and remembering a bit too much from this site.

I've been hanging round here too long I know :lol: 8O



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30 May 2009, 3:40 pm

Alphabetania wrote:
Is faceblind when you can't remember who people are when you look at them?


It's when you don't recognise them from their faces.

You might entirely miss them walking towards you, you may not recognise your parents, spouses or your children and friends (from their faces) until they talk to you, you may not recognise that you met a person before (if it's a stranger you don't know well and can't identify by clothing, voice and so on) - all because you can't see and recognise faces accurately.

You can have it mildly but also severely.


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30 May 2009, 4:54 pm

Sora wrote:
Alphabetania wrote:
Is faceblind when you can't remember who people are when you look at them?


It's when you don't recognise them from their faces.

You might entirely miss them walking towards you, you may not recognise your parents, spouses or your children and friends (from their faces) until they talk to you, you may not recognise that you met a person before (if it's a stranger you don't know well and can't identify by clothing, voice and so on) - all because you can't see and recognise faces accurately.

You can have it mildly but also severely.


That's it. I can identify people I know and care about, but I won't recognize people I rarely talk to from their faces. I suspect my propagnosia would only be mild under other circumstances, but what's making matters worse is my total inability to read facial expressions. A face that's smiling looks totally different from the same face while frowning or making any other expression, so I have actually difficulties to recognize them as the same face/person. :/ I cope with paying attention to their style to identify people, but of course that's not very accurate, and a new hairstyle always takes some getting used to.



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31 May 2009, 2:45 am

Alphabetania wrote:
What's NLD?
Lightning88 wrote:
"Non-verbal Learning Disability"

Does that mean you're OK with learning language stuff but struggle to learn things like maths, drawing, knitting and tennis?


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31 May 2009, 3:31 am

Me too. :)


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