People showing up unexpectedly.....

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I f*****g can't STAND my mom's parents (forgive all the swearing and the angry tone of this post, but they're here right f*****g now and I'm RAGING!). They talk over each other, I live with my parents in a tiny, tiny house, they drink f*****g coffee nonstop (and I f*****g hate the smell of coffee it literally makes me lightheaded).... there's just nowhere to escape to when they come over unannounced and then don't f*****g leave for ten hours.

Then my parents go and talk to them and the house is full of noise. I'm telling you, these people have no concept of taking turns in a conversation. I'm ready to blow my goddamned head off. I can't get out of the house because that would mean I'd walk past them.... past the noise and coffee....

GODFUCKING DAMNIT!

I need to move to my own place but I don't have any f*****g money... suicide... only option....

Suicide isn't the only option.

Why not go say to them: "Next time your turn up here can you please warn me in advance"? Hope that helps somewhat.

Yeah I do hate unexpectedly things happening suddenly as well btw.

I hate it when people come over unexpectedly. I cant stand sudden change, and I need to be aware of things well in advance. I live on coffee, though, so you probably won't like that.

Don't kill yourself, though.

yes i too hate unexpected visits their the worst, but please dont do anything u will regret. is there anyway you can buy noise cancelling headphones, go find a place to listen to ur music, or have a video game u can play away from them, or somewhere to go to get away from them. or maybe get a humidifier to block out some of the smell that the coffee makes? Something but please dont ever try to kill urself, that option is not ur only option. Either way i totally feel where ur coming from, and hope that next time ur more prepared for it. see if u can also make talk with ur parents about how this bothers u, if u leave it be, it might bottle up inside of u, dont let it, prove to everybody how strong u are, and help fix this. hope things get better for ya!

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I usually listen to my Ipod really loud when noises are bothering me.

I've been known to climb out windows to avoid people...
is that an option?

I even had a ladder by my 2nd story window.

note on door: go away. busy.

other option: do not open door.

other options: tell people it is NOT OK to just drop by.

incorporate all 3 into home life as a necessity.

When me and my partner moved in together this was a problem. Basically he was happy for people just to show up whenever they felt but I couldn't cope with this at all. It stresses me out heaps. As does people who show up early. I want to ask them to leave and come back at the time I have asked but I am told this is really inappropriate so I just have to deal with it. Anyway, now he has told his friends they have to ask first if they want to come over and then he asks me if it is ok if they come over. Mostly I try to say yes so I don't interfer with his friends visiting but he understands if I say no. This has been working really well now.

One good thing is that I live in a secured apartment block. So if someone buzzes at the gate and they are doing a surprise visit I just ignore the buzzer.

I got a call from one of the neighbours last weekend about something I was selling...

They asked if I was in all weekend...

In a panic I asked them to call first because...er...I sunbathe topless...

I haven't seen them since.

On reflection, my self assertiveness skills could, maybe use a little work?

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Yeah I don't take sudden drop ins well at. all. In fact, I am well known for not answering the door unless I know to expect you. I don't care who you are. You're not coming in unless you called first and gave me 24 hours notice.

It's not up to me whether or not people come in unannounced because it's not my house.

I don't know what happened but my sensitivity to noise is through the roof in the last week. It's always been horrible, but now it's f*****g unbearable. I'm ready to put my head through the wall. People watch their TVs with it on full blast (it would HAVE to be the f*****g weekend) then they chew food like they're f*****g eating bricks... I can't take it...

Can't climb out a window? :B
But anyway yeah, tell them to warn you beforehand and you can leave the house then.
Or put on headphones and get some mints, I eat mints on the bus because I don't like the plasticy smell. It works great.