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Spokane_Girl

29 Jul 2009, 1:14 am

I want to do other things like play a game or something but then when I try and do it, I don't feel like doing it even though I want to but at the same time I don't want to so I end up staying at the computer browsing the forums bored even though I want to to do something else. Then I don't feel like it when I get up. That's why I spend most of my time online. I need to just force myself do other things. Anyone else have the same kind of problem?



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29 Jul 2009, 1:27 am

Yes, I feel the same way when I want to play my Nintendo. I want to play but then I have to hook it all up, which doesn't take too long but I never get around to doing it.
The same with writing I have to force myself to do it. A coffee usually helps because I know it makes me write better for some reason, so after the coffee I usually sit down and write.
But it's hard to just get motivated to it. Even sometimes when I go out I don't want to.

Is this executive dysfunction?


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29 Jul 2009, 1:35 am

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29 Jul 2009, 2:16 am

Reminds me of a Tolstoy quote I posted here awhile back:

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The truth lay in this – that life had no meaning for me. Every day of life, every step in it, brought me nearer to the edge of a precipice, whence I saw clearly the final ruin before me. To stop, to go back, were alike impossible; nor could I shut my eyes so as to not see the suffering that alone awaited me, the death of all in me even to annihilation. Thus I, a healthy and happy man, was brought to feel that I could live no longer, that an irresistible force was dragging me down into the grave. I do not mean that I had an intention of committing suicide. The force that drew me away from life was stronger, fuller, and concerned with far wider consequences than any mere wish; it was a force like that of my previous attachment to life, only in a contrary direction. The idea of suicide came as naturally to me as formerly bettering my life. It had so much attraction for me that I was compelled to practice a species of self-deception, in order to avoid carrying it out too hastily. I was unwilling to act hastily, only because I had determined first to clear away the confusion of my thoughts, and, once that done, I could always kill myself. I was happy, yet I hid away a cord, to avoid being tempted to hang myself by it to one of the pegs between the cupboards of my study, where I undressed alone every evening, and ceased carrying a gun because it offered too easy a way of getting rid of life. I knew not what I wanted; I was afraid of life, and yet there was something I hoped for from it.


Your deep procrastination problem is just a fishbowl version of his ocean of despair but the same contradiction lies in both: I'm tired of livin' and scared of dyin'

I've had bouts of these spells on and off and I've found that the solution is as simple as it is hard to take: just get off your ass and do something worthwhile. Better yourself, better your neighbor -- just put some real and earnest effort into something. That should at least keep that fear-of-life bug at bay for a time...



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29 Jul 2009, 2:16 am

^ wha

transition problem with me. have to prepare myself for switching tasks and when I do it's hard to get back to something else so I mostly just do what I always do-- computer.



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29 Jul 2009, 7:12 am

yup



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29 Jul 2009, 8:09 am

Yeah. There's a lot of things I want to do (I mean, nothing difficult; I might want to play a game or something), but just staring at pictures I find on the 'net and reading up on facts is all I can often do.

It's quite frustrating.



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29 Jul 2009, 8:43 pm

Same problem.
I can go to work, though, because it's built into my routine. Apart from that...


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29 Jul 2009, 11:22 pm

I can do things that need to be done like getting money for a bus fare for when I have to work, picking up my medicine, going to appointments, paying my bills, taking a shower but other things that don't have to be done is harder to do so I end up slacking or procrastinating. I tend to wait till the last minute to to things that need to be done though but this month I paid my bills early for next month.



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29 Jul 2009, 11:56 pm

Spokane_Girl wrote:
I can do things that need to be done like getting money for a bus fare for when I have to work, picking up my medicine, going to appointments, paying my bills, taking a shower but other things that don't have to be done is harder to do so I end up slacking or procrastinating. I tend to wait till the last minute to to things that need to be done though but this month I paid my bills early for next month.


Great Idea :idea:

Time's not wasted, if you schedule it to be :lol:

I like to call it Pre-Medi, Premeditated Educational Input :arrow:



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30 Jul 2009, 12:34 am

Sounds like depression to me. That sort of loss of interest but still needing the joy/relaxation of your activities is one of the first and most difficult to remedy symptoms for me.



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30 Jul 2009, 12:43 am

Can you be depressed and not even know it?



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30 Jul 2009, 12:46 am

Malsane wrote:
Sounds like depression to me. That sort of loss of interest but still needing the joy/relaxation of your activities is one of the first and most difficult to remedy symptoms for me.

There are also other symptoms of depression though; a low mood for a period over two months.

I'm like Spokane Girl. I can do what needs to be done like housework, buying medicine, shopping but the things I want to do but don't need to do are a lot harder to get into. I'm writing two books and it's hard to start writing, so I have a coffee which makes me more focused. But sometimes I just force myself to do things.
I think I remember watching a video on inattentive ADHD and they mentioned this type of symptom.


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30 Jul 2009, 1:17 am

I start lots of computer games, I rarely finish them. They either get boring/repetitive, or cease to be casual/relaxing. It is anxiety just to start playing them.

The best ones for me are online multiplayer games where there isn't any major time required, or overall commitment, and I can come and go as I please. Then it becomes actual relaxation as opposed to a chore.

Home projects, if quick, I get them done. I'll spackle and repaint dings in the walls, replace electrical outlets, but if it involves ripping anything up and spending days on it, I don't do it (or pay someone to do it).

Speaking of Spokane, how does it feel to be on the cooler side of the mountains for a summer? :)



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30 Jul 2009, 2:47 am

Malsane wrote:
Sounds like depression to me. That sort of loss of interest but still needing the joy/relaxation of your activities is one of the first and most difficult to remedy symptoms for me.


It's not a loss of interest, though, for me. The interest is still very much there, it's just that I can't drag myself away from doing the same few things to do other things, even when I know that I'll really enjoy doing the other things.


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30 Jul 2009, 4:48 am

All I really care about is Wrll. The only other thing I really want to do is to write so I can get lots of money to Wrll more. I just want to the only one on earth that is about to Wrll anything. I just want to be able to motivate myself to be able to write.


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