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Does anyone else have this problem? When I was still in school and someone would try to talk to me I'd just stand there not knowing what to do, my mind blank. I don't know how else to explain it, they'd try to make conversation and I'd just sit or stand there trying to figure out what to do. It's like I'm a computer that hasn't been programmed to respond. Like my brain is trying to search for a response file and I'm getting an error message 'Error 107 File not Found'.
Maybe it's just the inablility to do small talk, but it's happened when discussing detailed topics too.
Also when I was playing a video game, it took me twenty minutes to realise that I actually had to talk to someone to move the game forward. Don't know if that counts or not.

A computer that hasn't been programmed is simple to reproduce...Anyone can try this. Shut down the computer, unplug it, then use it...(keeping it unplugged is the key to reproducing it)

You probably have an auditory processing problems. Being taken in as sound, then having to convert it to speech, then into English, then understanding the subject, then onto replying.

Yes and actually had one yesterday while on phone, it was like I was receiving a signal from the outside but inside it was a void for quite a few (at least one advantage it was actually relaxing since it stopped the train of thought I normaly got going on all the time)

But I can hear and understand fine, I just don't know what to say in response!

yeah, i've often felt very similar. i first noticed this at a young age when i didn't really know what to say so i just blurted things out - and often got teased for saying a bunch of things that were nonsensical. I figured out that it was best to keep my mouth shut to avoid the pain of being made fun of.

later in life i just felt like i was a mute. i'd sit in AA meetings and just pass when it came to my turn to share, because I just couldn't gather a complete sentence much less sort out something in my experience of drinking that related to the topic (I didn't drink for very long, getting sober at 16).

often I had a hard time with conversations with people, not really being able to keep it going and having lots of long awkward silences (especially on dates). once i start TRYING to think of something to say, it just gets worse as I feel even more like my head's just gone totally blank, and I'm lucky if I don't just blurt out something really dumb. sometimes i wonder if being so shut down has only made it worse as i've gotten into my mid 30's, and still feeling like a little kid when it comes to conversations.

thankfully, there have been a few people i've been able to really click with over the years, maybe because they either are quite similar or just haven't lost their childhood innocence yet. these are few and far between though...

Yeah, I have that problem.

Also, @pedobear picture.

Yes. For me, I think at least part of the problem is programming-related. One of the techniques I use to handle social situations is to mentally rehearse possible conversations. I think of things to say ahead of time. I don't think I've ever had a real conversation turn out the same as one of my rehearsed conversations, but there's usually enough similarity, or the responses I'd come up with were applicable, that I was able to handle the situation. Other times the conversation involved something I was interested in at the time, or something I was working on, so I was able to communicate about that. However, there have been a number of times where I was left unprepared, and tried to think up some response on the spot; sometimes it worked, sometimes I just kind of froze up with analysis paralysis.

Other times it's happened where I took the other person a little too literally. For example, one time a person asked me as a way of greeting, "So, what do you know?" My brain froze up trying to sift through everything, trying to figure out what she was asking for specifically, a sort of mental log jam.

I basically try to learn from these situations and add them to my social skills tool box.

Yeah, that's how it is for me too. I think that's still some kind of info processing problem. It's like you have to figure out what to do with all that stuff they're saying, but it's taking way too long and it's hard to focus on the options in your mind, right?

Does it still happen to you?

Exactly! So, it's not an auditory issue then?