Maggiedoll wrote:
What's worse for me is watching myself continue to do socially ret*d stuff, but whenever I'm in the moment of the interaction, I can't seem to help it. I can think about it later and be like "darn, I should have said _________".. but at the time, something dumb always comes out of my mouth.
This is so very me, too! In that social moment, even with my internal coach constantly issuing instructions, I can't manage to keep any consistent social smoothness going... I run out of energy, lose focus, screw up the timing... and because I dread those dumb things spilling from my mouth I so often just freeze up and say nothing, which is usually wrong, too.
But for me, awkward silence is preferable to the alternative.
SplinterStar wrote:
It takes me days to figure out what I do wrong and even after all that, I still manage to do it again. I don't try as hard to be socially acceptable because it's just not going to happen.
mgran wrote:
I avoid this problem by having no social life.
There are situations in which I know how to behave... mainly work related, etc. Outside of those situations, I don't bother to go. I've learned at least that I never learn.
Boy howdy to both of these ^ I avoid and evade to the best of my ability. But sometimes those damn social occasions come and find me wherever I'm hiding.
I've learned a lot about 'how to do it' in all my years, but it always amazes me how the 'execution' of that knowledge never seems to get any smoother or easier.