Desperately seeking a response?

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Upon posting a topic I often become unbearably impatient awaiting responses, repeatedly refreshing the topics page and so on... Anybody else? Would this be an indication of an unfulfilling social life? A lot of unanswered questions here...

Not exactly continually refreshing a page but checking my emails more than often would be normal for me.

Yeah that behavior embarrasses me (or embarassed me) when I started going to forums. Sure, I'm by myself, but when I realize how self-obsessed I am, looking for some sort of conversational validation of my existence, I stopped.

Wow. The tense in that paragraph was so inconsistent I'm not even going to proofread it. Holy crap.

it's a stress relief for me to participate in several fora, and I check my email very often. I suppose when I get my legal issues cleared up and start back to school/work/hobbies that will wane and I'll be able to go back to doing other things that occupy my time and are more personally productive.

Yeah, i definitely do that too.

I don't think it reflects on one's social life if a thread is not responded to; we have members from around the world, and sometimes it takes days before I get any semblance of a full response. There are a lot of unanswered questions... but we are better for asking and considering than leaving them unspoken. It can take on an almost obsessive, fixated approach at times; those are the moments when I have to remind myself to go do something else. It is not easy, and takes practice. Sometimes the best way to attract responses is to make others aware of your presence by participating in their threads, as well. Something to consider, but I would not beat yourself up over having an interest in being responded to while seeking conversation and solutions.


M.

Damaged, I have the same feeling sometimes, but not always. It depends how important the answer is to me. I often post a thread and go on to do something else, and then come back to check if there are answers. I'd say it's totally natural to want an immediate response to one's utterances - that's the nature of dialogue, and it's natural to need it.

I sometimes get like that. But like someone said, there are people all around the world on here, so when you post something, there may be some people who will eventually answer, but they can't read it right now because they are sound asleep.

I read a lot of things on WP that I find touching, or I relate to, or something like that. And I feel like I would like to respond, but I can't quite think of the words to say.

I write a LOT of responses that I never send. I have a tendency to put three paragraphs of personal anecdotes in my responses, but a lot of times I stop and go, "Ewwww, people don't want to read all that." So I don't send it.

hm...something to to consider for me too..... *tend to submit faster than I write*

Here’s some that are like us in that they haven’t had a response either.

http://setiathome.berkeley.edu/

I'm the same. Many times when I read something I want to reply but usually other people have already made similar points which are much better worded so I don't say anything. When I do write topics and responses I wonder if anyone would find them interesting enough, or if I would get any replies at all which is why I have a low post count.

I'm the sort of person who's leg jumps up and down whilst fiddling with my hands while waiting for a response. REALLY IMPATIANT!! !

I get very impatient waiting for responses. I try not to place validation on replies, but sometimes it feels like I'm unwanted or unimportant when no one responds.

i do this too. mostly it's because someone else said what i was thinking of saying but put it better than i could. sometimes it's laziness. soemtimes i get distracted, etc..... i can definitely relate to the impatience though, especially if it's a sort of crisis moment for me and i'm feeling emotionally overloaded. it can be really hard to pull myself away and find soemthing else to do instead of obsessing about responses.

LMAO!! ! cute! I remember back in '98 or so, I wanted so bad to be a part of SETI, even more so, I wanted to be the part that GOT the response!

I am REALLY bad about this! I check back on my threads every 30 minutes to an hour, compulsively, on this forum and on another one and on Facebook. I get insecure and frantic for response. This is my only means of communication with people, besides 2 people I email and my dad that I call every day.