A little vent and possibly advice?

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I had to do this course of the job center. I really did not want to do it, spend two weeks being socialible. But regardless, I went there with the best intentions. My plan was to completely "fake it" be socialible and friendly, bla bla bla. It went well, very well, infact I was told by this person she was glad I was there, as I was the ony normal person. (not usually how it goes) HOWEVER. There was this guy there, clearly had ALOT of social problems. May have been autistic, I dont know. But he acted oddly and it was very soon picked up on by the "pack" and they really tore into him (verbally). Seriously, these people were cruel. Not so much to his face so I dont know how aware he was he was being bullied as it was teasing to his face and down right cruelty behind his back. Regardless, its not right.

No wonder I'm anti-social if as soon as I leave the house I'm confronted by *****. And I have too more weeks of this. I told the ring leader she was being nasty and she said "yeh I'm a right b***h" I said "yes, you are". If I say any more then I'll probably get bullied too. My mum said if I dont report it, she will. I'm not entirely sure what I should do. I wish I didnt have to go back there.

It sounds like something must be done, since there are two more weeks.

Since this was at the job center, I assume work-place etiquette would be expected, and the issue could be addressed from that perspective.

In the workplace, harassment is unacceptable, and exposes the company to liability.

Whatever you do, keep calm and rational. Walk away if things get heated. Report it if they keep doing it.

I find that my flat voice and low emotional content help diffuse situations. Saying "that's not cool" or "that's not funny" or "don't do that" in a matter-of-fact voice works for me.

When I meet with this kind of trash talk, I usually try to bring up one or more favorable points about the person. Usually the criticisms are almost entirely irrational - so I try to make my points entirely rational & practical.

For instance, if the person is being criticized for acting differently, I will point out that they probably also experience the world in such a way that allows them to think "outside the box" - which often leads to more creative problem solving.

Good advice guys, thanks. They have told us we should act as if its at work so thats a possible angle. If it continues tomorrow, should I maybe be speak to one of the organisers? I could say taht its making me very uncomfortable being in an envioment where bullying is taking place. They told a girl off for swearig and a guy for rocking on a chair and texting, so they do want a professional atmosphere.

Oh wow, that totally sucks! Why are people such complete a**holes? I think you should try to anonymous report them. Or at least tell them you want to remain anonymous. I just hate bullies, I hope there's a special place for them....!