Have people not like it when you suggest their kid have ASD?

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It happened on yahoo answers. Some mother posts a question about how her baby doesn't like to be held and it squirms when she holds it and it can't stay still on her and I tell her it's one of the early signs of autism so I would look it up and keep an eye out for more symptoms. I didn't really say her infant had autism, I just told her it's one of the early signs so I would keep an eye out for more symptoms if I were her. But instead she added to her question "Autism? Seriously?" and goes on and then she says I am one of those worry warts over a baby sneezing.

Heh, back when I worked at Bradlee's many years ago, I suggested to a mother her kid might have ADHD, and she went into ultra-denial mode; I don't think Autism would be that much easier to get thru

My Dad's brother thinks being Autistic that I'm "severely crippled", and my late Mom's brother nearly freaked out when I told him I'm mildly Autistic. He was actually under the belief that I'm different cause "I have a Jewish soul"...and I also have no desire to tell him I'm only half-Jewish for that very reason.

surprise! Autism is considered a negative trait in the world. . that is why we are considered by those that don't have it as 'suffering' from it.

Yeah, cause despite what is always said in the PSAs and by teachers and all that( even though they themselves don't believe a single word of it), being "normal" is so much more rewarding, beneficial, and interesting, now isn't it?

Indeed.

Duh, If I had a dime...

I once suggested to someone on Yahoo Answers that they may have Asperger's, based on how they described themselves, only to get an email from the asker about how they don't appreciate me trying to be offensive.
I don't know why people ask questions on there if they are just going to get offended if you don't tell them exactly what they want to hear...

Most people think that autism = mental retardation.
If you say that AS is mild autism, they figure it means mild mental retardation.

"Let's get this straight.
A. You have a problem
B. You were asking for advice regarding this problem
C. I happen to know a lot about one possible reason for this problem
D. You only wanted to have somebody console you, so now I am at fault."


I think that's not even a problem between NT/Autism spectrum but between personality traits/socialization, as there are both a lot of people who want other people to help them fix their problems, as are a lot of people who want other people to tell them everything's going to be alright.
In real life, people are supposed to know each other before they ask for help with a problem, and that includes having made a guess at what the other person will be actually asking for. In the interwebs, you can't just assume that the other person knows you well enough to know that you weren't actually asking for a solution, but for consolidation or pity. So people will react to what another person is saying and their own cultural stereotypes, as far as they have them.

Well, at least now somebody has said "autism" to her, maybe she won't be in complete denial if it does turn out to be autism and her doctor has to say it to her.

I think the mother just wanted to hear other mom's saying their babies don't like to be held either because those were the other responses she was getting and I was the only one who said flat out "dislike of being held is one of the early signs of autism, I would look it up and keep an eye out for more symptoms."

Then after I mentioned being on the spectrum, she seemed more cool and thought I didn't read her whole question through and said she was half joking about her baby not liking to be held. Then she said wouldn't I think she take her baby to a doctor if she thought there was seriously something wrong and that concerned.

Well parents can miss symptoms and I didn't know normal babies dislike being held too. I thought lot of them like to be held because I've read babies with autism may not like to be held. I guess another baloney thing doctors threw about autism; dislike of being held as a baby. I just thought she was a clueless mother so I thought I tell her something so she look into it. It's possible all those other moms have babies with autism too and they don't know it and dislike of being held really is an autism thing and not one normal baby would dislike being held unless they have sensory issues or have other problems that would cause that trait.


Funny how people change their reaction when you tell them you have that condition in this kind of situation. They go from defensive to understanding.

Welcome to my world....

Where I have to suffer greatly for mentioning the fact that ever since I discovered I'm Aspie, I started suspect that my son has Asperger since he is showing a lot of behaviors/traits associated with AS, and my wife hated me for it. Because of that, and some other stuff, we had a conflict which led to her placing a protective order against me (effectively kicking me out of the only place I have in Alaska), then got me to go to jail for 36 hours for violating the no-contact clause by trying to reconcile with her (she never gave me a chance to do that ), then I had to get a tooth extracted due to intense pain the day after I left the jail, then had to live in the car for two weeks until a court date which the judge only continuances the order for no reason. I had to get the hell out of Alaska before stuff could start to go my way.

Some people... ok strike that, MOST people are NOT very understanding about autistics at all. I'm autistic and to think I had to go through all these stuff amounts to water-boarding torture, IMO. Even now I'm amazed I'm still alive and getting on with my life.