Have you had meltdowns in the middle of a store before?

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I have like today I asked my sister how her back injury was doing if was she feeling better she said no not really I said maybe it'll get better she said no it's something I'll have to live with, when asked of her asthma and inhaler (was it helping) No not really. I then cryed because I try to be positive and optimistic and she's all negative. I tend to cry if someone says something that I interpret as rude/harsh. I know it's weird (not embarrassing though I don't CARE if you look at me SHEESH!) but my family hates it and says I need to get out of it.

I've done it before... same reason as you. Probably because I'm not too interested in others a lot of the time, so when I DO ask questions or try to make someone feel better, it's extra hurtful to feel like my comments are shoved aside or not taken to heart. I would rather get no response in those situations than a negative one... because it takes me quite a while to actually ask others how they are doing, or feel like I know how to approach a situation and all.

Makes me feel that no matter how hard I try to be caring and show it to others, they will think no different of me or don't acknowledge the effort being put forth in the first place... but they sure do notice when I'm not doing it and will be the first to point it out to me.

If crying is your only way to release bult up emotions... Ask them if they would rather you act out instead.

Stores, Class, While Driving

Little warning if you have a breakdown while driving park the car as quick as possible non't be like me and rear end the guy in front of you

OMG! OMG! This is 100% how I feel like why did I bother saying anything to you type of feeling!! !! ! I was just being caring!! !! or in some cases trying to help etc.

Unfortunately, I have no ideas on how to get past that feeling... I usually fixate on it, cry for hours sometimes until I'm just too tired to be upset anymore... then something will catch my attention and I'll forget all about it-emotionally. I wish I knew a quicker solution rather than just breaking down though

There have been plenty of times that it's happened due to things I just have no control over too, or feel that others have completely ignored things about me and built me up to be something I am incapable of being...

This example might just be a normal response to the situation, but I do feel that I took it to the next level of frustration/pain/being upset from what most would do.

I have a LOT of female health issues and have decided to get my tubes tied. I've had one miscarriage already, and am considered very very high risk when I am pregnant. They were amazed my first 2 made it okay. Well, after the appointment and scheduling to have it done, I was thrilled, because it is a major concern. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years now, and after making the appointment, he immediately asked the doctor if it would be reversible. Not too much of a shock, because I knew he'd been tossing around ideas and all...

But when we got home, he opened up a bit more about it. I just broke down immediately, because I may never be able to have more children regardless, and considering the risk factors, was upset that he was so gung-ho about the idea.

Now, where a normal person might just feel that they are inadequate and may express it to their partner, or may want to take time to discuss it, I became quite irate immediately because of how long he's known all of this about me, and the feeling of inadequacy on top of it. I freaked out, told him that if that is what he's looking for, since I can't provide it he needs to look elsewhere, was mad at him for being with me for 5 years already, etc. I was MAD, and then I just cried... for 2 days because I was angry at him for just now starting to talk about it mostly-I was mad that he somehow changed his mind and stuff, and just couldn't deal with it or him for a week.

I'm sorry-didn't mean to throw the thread off-topic, just trying to state an example of how extremely to heart I seem to take things vs. others, which is consistent with what you were talking about too... I just felt a need to throw in an example with it, lol... maybe just in a way to try to let you know that you aren't alone in feeling that maybe your reactions are too much taken to heart and all.

Oh I take things to heart 100% ALL THE TIME!! !! !! What someone might not see as an issue I cry over.

Same here... if it's any consolation, if I ever figure out a good way that helps that feeling, will let you know for sure.

Otherwise, if I'm not crying, I become confrontational about things like that... then cry, lol. So I prefer going straight into crying sometimes really... that just makes it a lot worse when I try to explain my behaviors and all, and the other person always takes it as even more selfish than they would if I said nothing.

Do you ever have issues with just taking normal criticism as well? I take that to heart at times also, mainly because I'm like "well, crap, I can't even be myself the right way".

I think this is why I'm still depressed at times over my college suspension I mean really I was just being happy and being myself and THAT'S a BAD BEHAVIOR I MEAN COME ON REALLY!! !! ! I also don't like ANY criticism at all I remember at Mcdoanalds working I was told get the ketchup when it's low (I did this during lunch rush and the owner yelled at me) (I then preceded to go cry in the bathroom which I was doing daily anyway since I missed and STILL MISS College very very deeply.) YA! I found someone on WP like ME! YA!! !! ! Thanks!! !! !!

lol, yep it's a good feeling isn't it? ^^

I've had too many meltdown sin stores to count. Usually for things related to the shopping, eg. overload from the crowd, the goods I need not being there, etc.

I haven't had anything dramatic happen in a store since I was... hmm, I guess around twelve or so, probably younger. My mom's got a way of going in, grabbing things, and getting out ASAP that I imagine has to do with her having Aspie traits same as me, so we always ended up getting out pretty fast, before anything could get to me (or to my littlest sister, who is also probably Aspie). That's a benefit of having another Aspie in the family--they don't like noisy echoey big stores with fluorescent lighting any more than you do.

'Course, once I got on my own, I ended up not being able to get in and out fast like my mom most likely learned how to do; so sometimes I still get confused and annoyed, and shut down for a few minutes before I get moving again. When that happens I know I've pushed too hard and I either get to the checkout as soon as I can or else just drop the groceries and get out. It's only afterward that I tend to realize just how badly my thinking has gotten messed up, apparently when I'm overloaded like that I don't even notice how little sense my brain is making.

Also, I just got confused and mistakenly gave a $20 instead of a $5 to some kids collecting money for their school fundraiser... but I guess there's way worse things that can happen when you get confused. I'll just skimp on extras this month to make up for it.

yeah, i got super overloaded from the food fest. the square was packed worse than rush hour on the long island expressway and the sun was beating down... the food was good, however. i bet looked really weird with a half-dazed look on my face, grabbing at my mom's bag like a six year old. lol. but who cares, right? finally, there was loud, yet good, music, then we got to go home. it was good for the experience, but i'd rather dine in.
yeah, my mom was good like that, too. when i moved out, i spent forever, just wandering aimlessly, checking out all the stuff (a lot of distractions, you know. ^_^). or if it's crowded, i tend to get very anxious, like above. this is why i do most of my shopping in the middle of the night.

What you are talking about is plain and great sensibility, the kind of thing is not supposed by some people to be found in aspergers

But you have aspergers and also sensibility.

Yah, one always thinks the past is better and the things could have gone the other way round. Don't worry about it, indeed I think it worsens with age.

I think there is no problem there. Your regrets about the (temporarily) missed College come just because you think that your crying behavior is somehow wrong. But I don't think so.

Just got back from shopping with a friend. Emotional and sensory overload, because she talks very loud while in the store, and I get embarrassed because people look at us. I walked away from her as soon as she started, saying I needed stuff on the other side of the store, but it was still overwhelming, because it was crowded. I am always grateful to get a ride to the store, but I wish it didn't have to be so overwhelming.

Sorry I didn't quite understand your post. So the meltdown over what my sister said was ok? I also agree thinking the past is better etc. What do you mean it worsens with age? (Being upset over the past?) Also overall the crying over College is ok? Sorry your post confused me.