Possessiveness

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I find that I am extremely possessive of not only my stuff, but anything I may use frequently. I am often berated for being selfish. I understand the importance of sharing and end up doing so and suffering through it. I am not out to be selfish, but I get physically upset and stressed when I lose control of my stuff. Is this an issue for anyone else?

I can either be very prone to giving stuff away, or extremely posessive...I can go into mine mine mine tantrum mode sometimes...especially if I am made to feel like something is being taken away from me against my will..

Unless they have an engraved invitation (nnot literally...), people are not allowed to touch my stuff. I also ask permission to touch other people's possessions.

My very good..very ASish friend hates for me to touch anything in his tiny apartment.. He's funny that way...even his garbage..which is piled up in heaps for recycling...and somewhat unavoidable.
I am only allowed in my space on the couch and the path to the bathroom. Everything else is off limits.

My space is easily invaded.....I am very disoriented by having guests stay over (unless they are bands, which I am used to)

I am trying to remember the thing I last had a tantrum over....oh yeah...Flakey was letting people hang out in my room during a party...Wow...I was like a hysterical 5-year-old over that one...because I was not asked permission or given time to prepare....

gadzooks!

I will freely let people borrow my clothes...and I am often a rampant "gifter" but I am liable to snap at people who mess with my ukulele without permission...This does not apply, however to my new cheap Mahalo...so I can use that as my "dummy" ukulele that i keep where it may tempt people to play with it.

I only get posessive when I get a big emotional anchor attached to things. That almost never happens now since I usually don't give a f**k. However I get attached to people. I never say "No, don't leave me!" as they go away for short periods of time, but inside I'm screaming it. I've learned to, at the very least, appear to be my version of normal, even if I'm not feeling that way.

I am not very possessive, but I do get somewhat stressed if someone uses my stuff, and I get upset if they don't leave it where they found it or in the exact shape where they found it. This is partly a blindness issue though, since I can't find stuff if someone put it away (not that I always put stuff int he same place ).

I am not possessive of stuff or people.

I am mildly possesive of my things.

But I am really possesive of my food! If I bought it, and I put it in "my area", then I don't want anyone to touch it without asking permission and getting approval.

My laptop is another thing I am possesive about. I don't let anyone else use it except my fiance. I hate it when other people use it because sometimes they change my computer settings without my permission!
Then I have to go back and change everything to the way I had it. Ugh!

My stuff is mine!

Hmm, this one's got me thinking...

I am pretty possessive. Not so much with my physical possessions, though I'm not sure that's ever really been tested, but with things I love. Ever since I was a kid I've hated it when someone I don't get along with or even just someone I can't really relate to likes the same stuff as me; bands, TV shows, authors. It makes me feel robbed. I feel like they're taking it away from me. I don't mind if it's somebody I like, in fact I love friends that have the same interests as me. It's weird but I'm like this with people too, very much so. I hate that my boyfriend has been with quite a few women before me. He's told me a million times that he didn't like them even half as much as he likes me and I know that to be true, he's been smitten for me since we were 16. But when he mentions the tiniest thing about one of them, especially a sexual detail, a positive experience or something about why he fancied them, it drives me crazy. I just get intensely jealous and feel like killing the girl (see my failure and bottle up rage post for possible reasons).

I have no idea if or how this relates to AS.

I am VERY possessive of my things. You see, they're MINE, it's like..I protect them. I don't want anyone to break them or something. It's like no one will appreciate them the way I do. Not just my things, but my room, I don't like anyone sitting or lying on my bed, either. I never learned to share.

I get too upset when someone touches my things. Anything. I've been called selfish, egoista, fea, well, a bunch of things because of it.

Having a family, I've learned to conceal my distress. Things I can't replace - because people who use or borrow generally abuse and ruin - I keep out of the way. At work, years ago, I had drinks stolen - I don't drink the tea and coffee everyone else does, but when my cold drinks are around, the tea and coffee drinkers steal them -, so I keep them in my car. Pathetic, but that's the way it is.

I think humans are naturally territorial and will therefore instinctively feel possessiveness to anything they care about/think belongs to them.

You're just not supposed to show it for some reason. Society frowns on it.

I'm protective of my things because I don't want people to break them. This isn't an irrational fear with no grounding at all, as in my experience when people borrowed my things they ended up breaking them far too often.

I am a little irrational when it comes to kitchen things though. If someone in my house leaves my saucepan dirty, I would rather wash it up and dry it than use another one under most circumstances. Similarly I like to use my cutlery when eating. Luckily one of my housemates is also an aspie and she understands that I'm just weird like that.