How often do you say "I'm sorry" when it's not nee

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I have a heck of a time saying "I'm sorry" if I've said something that bothers someone unless the reason why is clearly spelled out in a way I can grasp it. I refuse to say "I'm sorry" if I don't see how I did anything wrong.

But... I find myself overusing "I'm sorry" as well at times. I say it when I call my doctor to ask a question, because I think I may be interrupting something they are doing that is important. I say it when I call my mom at times. I say it at drive-thru windows if our order is confusing or if the kids change their minds. I say it if I'm standing in someone's way and don't realize it. I say it if someone else is in my way and I need them to move so I can get by.

It's almost like I say it constantly over small things, but hardly when it's something more important.

Do any of you experience this as well?

I say "I'm sorry" about every 30 seconds. Literally. Sometimes less.
Half the time, I can't come up with a good reason for being sorry. I always have these kinda generalized feelings of guilt and anxiety. A lot of times I just don't know what's going to upset people, so I constantly need to apologize to guard against them theoretically getting upset with me. I know logically that Kris isn't going to take offense to stupid stuff I didn't mean, but there have been a lot of people in my past who would yell at me for saying things the wrong way, or would twist my words in all kinds of bizarre ways so that no matter what I said, it was somehow offensive.

I guess in a lot of ways, I'm just apologizing for being me..

Yes, often. Even to almost strangers (there was traffic, I'm late, I'm sorry) and then "you don't have to say you're sorry" comes back at me. When I was little I was told to say "sorry." Now I don't miss it much, perhaps because if in doubt I apologize. Or I'm always explaining my actions because they have been questioned in the past so it's like pre-emptive defensive statements.

I also say "thank you" or "thanks" at bizarre times, instead of good bye. No idea of where I picked this up!

Constantly! I am somehow under the impression (although I know it logically not to be true) that everything is my fault and at the very least I should be able to fix it. I have an unbelievable amount of guilt about everything.

I'm getting a bit better in recent months and as a kid I was practically guilt-free. But the years between them have been filled with ridiculous amounts of guilt.

i say sorry too much, sometimes out of not understanding when someone is only acting annoyed at something i say, like for a joke or whatever. i can usually sense when they are not actually annoyed, but i like to be on the safe side.

Sorry seems to be the easiest word topic

Far too much. I even use it when I mean to say "Excuse me."

lol, *whew* I'm glad I'm not the only one.

My boyfriend tells me a lot that this is why people seem to target me... I mean, I've had a lot of people who come around just to use me for things. He said it gives off the impression of "I'm going to take the blame for everything, so consider me a doormat".

I say sorry way too much. And whenever someone points that out, I say sorry for saying sorry so much XD
I'm not sure if it's because of my Asperger's or because of my childhood. Maybe both.
See, I've always been the only child, so it's not like I have any siblings to blame things on. And even when I did get 3 step-sisters (as well as a step-mother) when I got older, I was still always getting the blame. I guess I was an easy target because more than half of my family wasn't even related to me and because I was an Aspie.
Since then, I've always felt like everything was my fault and I always had to apologize for it.

I have the opposite problem. I don't say sorry enough when it IS needed.

I say sorry and thank you constantly and at the most inappropriate times. In fact someone once commented on the fact that I say sorry too frequently to which I replied, "sorry", without the slightest intention of being ironic.

Absolutely true! I used to do this all of the time. I would apologize for every little thing, and then not the big ones. My wife managed to help me condition off of apologizing when it was not needed, though. I'm much better about it now, though I still have a tendency to do it not around her.

Very rarely.

I used to do it extremely frequently. My partner got me out of the habit.

How did you guys get out of the habit of it? I mean, what was done to change it?