List one NT thing you do not understand.
because she can relate more to your sister; that's all.
Bingo! You've hit the nail, right on the head. Perhaps, I could make an effort to put behind, her response to a loss of one of my idols, that she gave me, last Sunday. That response was just so typical of her, towards me. I know that my idols are old, and people don't last forever. I wanted the amount of empathy, and sympathy that I would have given her, if Sarah McLaughlin passed away. I would have apologized to her, and offered to take a week off work, to spend the week with her, at her upscale trailer, just comforting her.
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I feel the same way. I really hate the feel of make up on my face, and it just seems pointless. Not to mention most girls my age (14) don't even know how to apply it correctly...
Again, I feel the same way. I'm also told I'm supposed to smile while talking to other people, which I don't understand. Why would I? For the most part, socializing doesn't make me too happy, especially with strangers. My mom says it offends the other person if you don't smile. So a straight face offends people?
"Smile even if you don't feel like it: you'll be happy if you do."
I've seen this presented in College Diaries and Depression Manuals.
I really don't understand this concept.
How is enforced smiling meant to help with practical issues?
Fake smiling doesn't make workloads less heavy or extend deadlines.
If anything, it's a sticking plaster covering the real problems.
I believe that smiling causes a bio-chemical effect as well as a purely physical one. When you smile things happen in the brain and body that can make you feel better.
Fake smiling doesn't have that effect on me. If someone wants me to smile they have to make me laugh.
I didn't say fake smiling. You can smile at will if you want to, genuinely and fully.
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I'm an Aspie with shoe obsession, so i can understand that totally
I'm banned from buying shoes by bf and parents...
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Melbi wants to go back to the mountains, where she belongs.
I'm an Aspie with shoe obsession, so i can understand that totally
I'm banned from buying shoes by bf and parents...
I also have a shoe obsession, but it's a very Aspie version Before I got things under control I felt an urge to buy nearly every color of Converse. I think I had about 10 different pairs but I really only ever wore the black ones.
I'm an Aspie with shoe obsession, so i can understand that totally
I'm banned from buying shoes by bf and parents...
I also have a shoe obsession, but it's a very Aspie version Before I got things under control I felt an urge to buy nearly every color of Converse. I think I had about 10 different pairs but I really only ever wore the black ones.
LOL I bought 3 black shoes in the past three days...one per day... I could have bought more but I tried my best to control myself LOL
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Melbi wants to go back to the mountains, where she belongs.
I'm an Aspie with shoe obsession, so i can understand that totally
I'm banned from buying shoes by bf and parents...
I also have a shoe obsession, but it's a very Aspie version Before I got things under control I felt an urge to buy nearly every color of Converse. I think I had about 10 different pairs but I really only ever wore the black ones.
LOL I bought 3 black shoes in the past three days...one per day... I could have bought more but I tried my best to control myself LOL
I haven't bought any shoes in a long time. I had to get rid of a lot when I moved and I realized I have a problem
But yours is bigger than mine! Haha!
Ugh, I hate that too. And then when you try to tell them that you didn't think it was funny or that it hurt your feelings, they get all defensive and tell you to "quit being a wimp" and "take a joke".
Yeah, or they say "It's just my type of humor. You should get used to it."
I just find the whole "bless you" meme to be really annoying, especially as someone with AS. What am I supposed to say, "thanks"? Because that's what I do say, but then it seems like people look at me funny for saying that. It's gotten to the point that I actually stifle sneezes when I'm in a group of people, just so I won't have to deal with the whole "bless you" awkwardness. Why can't I just sneeze in peace?!
Of course you could always go with the Seinfeld solution and say, "You're soooo good-lookin'!"
People say "bless you" when you sneeze because your heart just skipped a beat. I'm not sure how saying"bless you" is supposed to help, but I think that's why they do it.
I'm an Aspie with shoe obsession, so i can understand that totally
I'm banned from buying shoes by bf and parents...
I also have a shoe obsession, but it's a very Aspie version Before I got things under control I felt an urge to buy nearly every color of Converse. I think I had about 10 different pairs but I really only ever wore the black ones.
LOL I bought 3 black shoes in the past three days...one per day... I could have bought more but I tried my best to control myself LOL
I haven't bought any shoes in a long time. I had to get rid of a lot when I moved and I realized I have a problem
But yours is bigger than mine! Haha!
I haven't bought anything for a long time... I'm having holidays now in Taiwan, you know how Asia is an awesome place for shopping and i lost my old shoes on the bus (stupid story...), so I had an excuse to buy shoes...
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Melbi wants to go back to the mountains, where she belongs.
I would have to say NT interactions confuse me most.
I used to be a selective mute (except when I was at home) because I simply couldn't interact with people the way they did with each other. It was like watching aliens...or maybe I felt like the alien and alienated myself.
Then, through years of observation and mimicking, and having no choice once my children started school, I became more confident and am able to interact with most people.
It still feels like a lot of hard work though, and it drains me, so going home is such a relief after being out and about.
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Nothing much shocks me...so please stop trying...yawn...
I'd have to go with small talk, especially the "How are you?" as a greeting.
As a new year's resolution I tried to go a whole year without answering "How are you?" I only got to mid January.
I've developed a special technique for avoiding this question - the delayed hi. When you see someone try and get away with a nod or a wave, and if they say "How are you?" or "What's up?" say "Hi!" rather loudly. Short circuits the whole inane greeting dynamic.
This one guy always messes me up though, he says "Hi, Rob." and after about two seconds says a very sincere "How are you?"
"Fine." (dammit - there goes my resolution.)
In the past I've tried Kilgore Trout's "Ting-a-ling!" as a reply or from the Flaming Carrot Comic books "I am riddled with pathos and awash in unctuous despair, but otherwise OK." Sadly, these often invite further conversation, exactly what I was trying to avoid.
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