I'm just sick of my mom right now...

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I love her, but she annoys me intensely sometimes!

Just now I got two e-mails from her, both forwarded from an alternative-medicine site. One warned me about cell phones apparently frying your brains, especially if you wear a headset (!?!) and the other warned me about how flu shots are supposed to cause autism (same old, same old).

That wouldn't be so bad; it's just that I've discussed both these topics with her before, and explained exactly why both urban legends are patently false; and not only has she completely ignored me, despite being unable to either refute a single one of my points, or clearly explain why she believes these things, she still keeps sending me these e-mails!

It makes me very, very glad I wasn't diagnosed autistic as a little child. She might very well have put me on the biomed roller-coaster for good. My mother will apparently believe anything, as long as somebody tells her it is privileged information that THEY don't want you to know about. She spends such a lot of money on alternative-health supplements. I remember her sending me $50 seaweed pills. Literally, seaweed. They were supposed to magically make me skinny.

Why are people so gullible? My mom is not dumb! She's an occupational therapist, for heaven's sake, and that means she had to take some pretty heavy-duty exams just to get her license. Is it just that I'm her daughter and because she changed my diapers, I can't have anything worthwhile to say?

I want to know everything about the seeweeds pills.
Placebo works wonderfully on me

unfortunately weight loss is one of the areas it definitely wont work need a tasty recipe for placebo pie.

Mothers are like that. They constantly try to fill your life with things they feel you need; sometimes they're right, sometimes they're wrong. At the end of the day, you get on a lot better with your parents when you don't have to live with them.

I think the worst thing my mother did to me was telling the warden (a not altogether unsexy female warden) that I had AS on the day I went to university. At the time, I was very sensitive about my condition and felt I had earned the right to make my own choices without interference from other people.

As a mother, I will do anything to make my child's life better and happier. It is really hard to be a parent and there is no real way to get an idea of how to do that because every child, and every family is different. We do what we think is best for our kids and if there is something out there that "may" help, why not give it a try if we believe it won't hurt our children. There are a lot of people out there who passionately believe that this kind of stuff is true, and people believe it because they want to help their kids. (unfortunately, there are also people out there who will exploit this) I know it's annoying, but if it makes her feel better to at least give you this information through email, indulge her. She disagrees with you and that's OK. Know that she does it because she loves you and wants you to be happy and live the best life that you can. If she is an OT, she probably works a lot with autism, and has this stuff crammed down her throat daily. I'm sure the "natural" approach is also a large factor.

EnglishInvader is right...you do have a different relationship with your parents when you don't live with them. Once you are on your own it's a more mature adult one hopefully. While you are living there, she is going to do everything she can to help you before your gone.

Hang in there! At least she is paying attention to you.

Hmm, well, I have been on my own since I was seventeen... I'm twenty-six now... If I were at home, I'd have seaweed pills on my GF/CF breakfast plate most likely.

Try to tell your mom how you feel. It's nice that your mother cares but just tell her that you know about these things, have read about these things, and it's enough.

Sometimes it takes a mom some time to realize to back off. My stepson has ASD and has a bedwetting problem, so I pleaded with my husband to take him to see a urologist, ok this started a year ago, whenever he wet his bed. He is 13 now. Well, he wet his bed 4 times in the past month. Maybe more because he lives 1/2 time with his mom and she wouldn't mention it to us if he wet the bed at her house. After the last 3 times, I pleaded again with my husband to take him to a urologist. I even told him 'ok well just put the protective covering back on the bed or the mattress (which was starting to smell like pee) will be ruined'. He didn't.

Well, he wet his bed last night and you know what? I'm not gonna say anything. The mattress now reeks of urine, he weighs 150lbs, sure he has a large bladder. I've only now realized I've said what I've wanted to say, anything more is just more regurgitation of the same old same old.

Sometimes it takes awhile for a mom to realize now is the time to back off.

BTW I have read the vaccine debate, a long time ago. I am not convinced about it's association with autism but I am almost 8 months pregnant and I won't have any flu or swine flu vaccine while pregnant because there are other dangers to the unborn or young children for other medical conditions, such as nephrotic syndrome. My 2 kids, 6 and 8 now, got the big megashots and they are NT but I wouldn't repeat that, I would space the shots out just because I do think it's a bit much for a young body to take. I didn't have as much knowledge when my first 2 were born, I became a nurse after they were born, so now I'm more cautious.

The mercury compound you find in vaccines, at the dose you get from vaccines, doesn't bioaccumulate--we process and excrete it normally, just like any other toxic substance we might ingest, like the car exhaust from walking to the store or the traces of biotoxins that your organic broccoli naturally produces to keep away disease and pests. (Bioaccumulation happens when you take in a substance at a greater rate than you can get rid of it, like mercury in shellfish.) Mercury is a neurotoxin, yes; but only in a dosage your body can't handle, and for that matter, only in certain compounds. A dangerous dose of ethyl mercury (thiomersal's metabolite) is many thousands of times what's in a vaccine. There's more mercury in our food and in the air--just naturally--than we'll find in vaccines. (Present even in unpolluted areas. Trace quantities of mercury are naturally found everywhere. And there's the fact that mercury is an element, and is present in many compounds, each with its own chemical properties, that are very different from mercury itself.)

That is what toxicology is all about. Just about any substance is poisonous, including seemingly completely safe things like water, salt, or oxygen. What makes a poison isn't some intrinsic quality of the substance, but two major factors: Dose, and how fast your body processes the substance. Your body is made to get rid of all sorts of toxins, from aspirin and alcohol to formaldehyde or, for that matter, the entire contents of your chemistry lab's "highly poisonous" locked cabinet. Whether a poison affects you in any negative way depends on how well your body is equipped to process it, and how much of it you've ingested. When you take a poisonous substance called "aspirin" to deal with a headache, your body easily gets rid of the substance. When you take it in an attempt to kill yourself, you've taken too much of it for your body to handle, and your body goes off-balance biologically, creating the symptoms of aspirin toxicity.

Even the most poisonous substances in the world have a dosage at which you can be exposed without ill effect because your body can handle that amount of the substance and easily get back into homeostasis. Granted, of course, that dose is vanishingly small--VX, the nerve agent, is probably the most toxic substance we know of, and a lethal exposure is a matter of less than ten milligrams on your skin, less than that inhaled--but even that has a dose to which you can be exposed and suffer absolutely no ill effects, because your body eventually replaces the acetylcholinesterase that the VX has inactivated and goes back into balance.

Goes for ethyl mercury, too--which, by the way, is NOT the same thing as elemental mercury any more than ethanol is the same thing as methanol or ozone is the same as oxygen or... well, go back to chemistry 101 if you need to. It doesn't build up in your body because your body sees no use for it; so the only thing you need to be worried about is the dose at which it causes damage before your body can get rid of it--a toxic dose that is so much higher than what you get from a vaccine that it's like saying you shouldn't drink a glass of water because drinking a few gallons of it can kill you.

My mother annoys me because she won't take the time to research anything herself. She reads boring stuff all day at her job, and that's apparently burned her out on reading anything interesting or important.

She's also very spastic and expects people to do everything at once when she's too busy with Facebook to do it herself. She's very smart and wise, but she makes me want to scream sometimes. She overreacts to things, assumes you're treating her like she's an idiot when you have different opinions about something i.e. "okay, Landon! you know more than I do!" And she's the queen of guilt trips.

She was supportive of me getting diagnosed, yet seems to forget that I don't operate on her mental speed and has me trying to multitask. I get to the point where I want to yell, but I know if I do that she'll yell back, and I don't like that. It's a mess. I'm glad I don't live with her.