Male and Female Aspergers (Noob question)

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I did a quick search on Google (UK) for "aspergers blog" and noticed that most of the blogs (personal blogs) are by female aspies. I looked at first 4 pages and found that there were 14 blogs by females and 3 blogs by males. I just wondered why this is? As supposedly the ratio of male:female aspies is ~ 4:1. I would therefore have assumed that there would have been more male aspie blogs.

This observation is also true for a book I just finished reading: Been There. Done That. Try This!: An Aspie's Guide to Life on Earth. The contributions in the book are ~1:1.

Are females aspies just more open and more likely to share their experiences compared to male aspies?

I do think females are generally better at opening up. More women than men tend to blog anyway, especially on personal topics.

That is what I was getting ready to say. I have seen many more blogs by females than males, and the ones by males tend to be about sports.

Right from the first day of school, girls do better than boys on written language skills. This seems to be true across different populations - whether from different cultures, cohorts, or differences in neurology. So you would expect that this is probably the same in ASD populations. There are some very interesting blogs by male ASD writers, though they are often looking at things in a different way. The women tend to start with personal experience (often) and explore how that might relate to the group as a whole; the men tend (often) to start with what appears to them to be a group dynamic and discuss it, sometimes bringing it back to the personal level though often not.

One thing I have noticed is that ASD are definitely not interested in sport - on the whole - in the way that neurotypical males tend to be (obsessively!). And of the ones who are interested in sport, the sports they seem to favour are not team sports.

I am interested in sport only if it is at the level of an international final - like the World Cup in soccer - where you see the amazing skills of top class athletes. This is as compelling as seeing anything else which represents the very best of some skill or discipline. Once every four years is enough for me though. The one exception is my autie grandson who is very gifted in basketball and it is good to watch him doing something which he is so good at and which gives him pleasure and a sense of achievement

I imagine women disproportionately keep blogs, journals, diaries, and such and the spectrum doesn't change that.

Yes, I would think this is true.

The language advantage girls have appears not to be culturally determined but hard wired in, just as greater physical strength is for boys. In an evolutionary perspective, it seems to make sense that the females were better wired to communicate with offspring and males better wired to provide most of the food and protection from marauders; female and male apes still reflect these kinds of differences.

The feminist idea that everything to do with gender is culturally determined was far too extreme to be true, though in many cases it was true (eg "girls can't do science" or "men can't parent alone successfully"). These were false stereotypes; but some differences do seem to be hard-wired in.

Just one reason I really don't like feminism

Males do tend to be more interested in science though. At least chemistry and physics. Quite a lot of girls do biology. It's not that girls have sexism, it's just they prefer the humanities.

I don't understand why men and women should be treated equally if their brains are so different. Like of course they should be given the same chance, but feminists want every single course to have a 1:1 ratio of men to women otherwise it's sexism?

Anyway, back to the topic. Girls are more interested in blogging than boys because girls are social or something and like saying all their feelings. So ASD girls are... the same? I have never blogged. Never liked the idea of it.

But that's because of career breaks to have kids. If a woman doesn't ever have children then she has the same opportunity and income as a man.

Thanks for the opinions. Never thought about the diary angle. I thought that maybe the anonymity that you could have online would have encouraged more males to create blogs.

Does that sort of feminism stuff apply to being an aspie? With my black and white thinking, I don't care if your man/women. People have different strengths/skills. if I am analysing something I use logic to determine the outcome.

For the job promotion situation mentioned:
If the women had the better skill set, she'd get the job. If the man had the better the skill set, he'd get the job.

Simples.