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I thought that maybe with a diagnosis I might attain some patience from people, but I'm learning that this isn't the case. I express my views from a passionate perspective. I don't think in terms of emotion, but rather in logic (unless we're talking about art or music).

I tried reconciling a friendship, but she kept disregarding my situation, and saying I need to watch how I say things. If I can't recognize that my words seem arrogant, how can I change them? I'm not calling people names, or saying anyone is stupid. I'm only saying what I feel is right and makes sense from a logical standpoint. So instead of assuming that I'm being an a**hole, work with me, and be patient, because it's never my intention to sound any certain way that could be offensive. *sigh*

A friend of hers even said, "someone with autism doesn't express this way, not matter where they are on the spectrum." Express what way? In text I can say things smoothly and accurately because I have time to think about what I'm saying. In person I pause a lot. I have what you call 'blocked speech'. I could never be a talk show host without sounding like a bumbling fool. So this guy doesn't know what the hell he's talking about.

The sad thing is, she's going to believe him over me, because our views are different. She used to praise my words when we were on the same page, but now because we have a few conflicting views I'm suddenly attacking her. So, what I thought was an awesome connection really wasn't one at all. I never once pushed her away for having different views, but she was quick to push me away. No real friend does that, and no real friend dismisses something about you that you can't change. It's very frustrating and very disappointing.

Oh well.

I'm aware that people have their own thoughts, feelings, and opinions. I've dealt with AS for years without knowing what it was, so I've learned a lot. That doesn't mean that I don't still struggle with it, especially when you feel that someone is on the same page as you about a lot of issues. It's a constant struggle. The last thing I need is for people to give up on me, or to be treated wrongly because my brain operates differently. Damned Theory of Mind.

Hi Idiocratik!
It is easy to assume that some others are of like mind as ourselves especially if we have interests in common.

I find is is safer to assume that nobody is of "likemind", although I struggle with not letting myself con myself into feeling " kindred spirit" mode.
We all want/or like acceptance hence we are susceptible to assumptions which may have very flimsy basis.

As I'm relatively new here I have no idea who you are referring to and I have no desire to know.

Hope the sun is shining in your day!

Thanks. It's just someone who I met years ago and we clicked on a lot of political issues. I happen to be very Libertarian (or Objectivist, even) in my views. Here in America I see a lot of things like gay rights and abortion as being extremely minor in the face of things like national sovereignty, socialism, etc. So, because I didn't share in her passion for something that isn't even her battle I'm suddenly a hateful person who needs to say things that aren't so hurtful. I didn't say anything insulting at all. I just said that worrying about who can or cannot get married is a distraction to real issues. I thought she was on the same page as me since she doesn't like Obama and is a 9/11 truther. So much for me thinking I know someone. But then I find that out quite often...that I didn't know someone as well as I thought.