What are your faults?

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As Aspies, a lot of us tend to think we're superior to "normal" people. This ought to be an interesting thread. Be an honest self-critic and list the things that make you less than perfect. For me, a number of them come to mind.

- I'm impatient to the extent that I want instant results. I don't mind doing work, but I don't like "the waiting." I don't like when you meet a girl for the first time and play a game of phone tag and pretend that you aren't waiting to hear from her even though you are. And I don't like how people in any area of life pretend they're "too busy" to get something done...too busy to hang out with you, too busy to learn a new song in a band.

- I think about the long term instead of enjoying the present. This goes in relationships or most things. I'm a Patriots fan, and I think "ok this is good, but we haven't won the Super Bowl yet." I'm one to reflect on the whole after everything is complete instead of enjoying bit by bit and not accounting for the future or end result.

- I'm very opinionated and don't tend to get along with people that aren't on the same page as me. You could say "That's everyone"...but I tend to only get along with people my age that are EXACTLY like me in morals and lifestyle, or I look up to older people that might not live my lifestyle but have other wisdom to offer me.

- Up until very recently, everything was black and white, a generalization, with no middle ground. I have an opinion on just about anything except politics, and often keep my mouth shut, but with my friends, don't mind telling them where I think I'm right and they're wrong.

- I give my all when dating or in a relationship, and when the other person doesn't open up or reciprocate, instead of just enjoying what they can offer, I end up getting into petty fights about the differences the woman and I have. From watching ideal TV relationships or friendships like the ones Roz/Frasier, Niles/Daphnee, Mulder/Scully, Jerry/Elaine have, I feel like I'm wasting my time with a girl despite the fact that we might get along more than we don't get along if the relationship isn't "great."

- I have a low tolerance for hard labor or physical pain. Some might see it as "lazy" but to me lazy implies that you're capable but just don't want to. Even when doing something fun like playing pick-up football, I run out of steam easily.

- There are a lot of things I openly hate or disapprove of and won't budge on...and it limits who I can get along with or what I can do to enjoy myself.

I'm sure I can think of more, and this isn't meant to be a self-hating thread, but more of a "I don't sh*t ice cream either" thread.

Short attention span
Laziness
Missing point in things because I focus on the little things
I talk loud and fast


I am sure there are more but this is all I can think of for now.

I'm impatient sometimes and can have a short temper (I have learned to lessen this and I am getting better about patience and keeping calm);
I sometimes get "paralysis by analysis" - where I think too much and too long before finally making a decision;
I need really, really clear instructions when dealing with something new. It takes a bit of time to learn a new routine;
I am lousy with faces and names (I have wonderful co-workers who I have worked with for years, but have trouble recalling their names - it's a good thing we all were big name tags )


I am sure there is more...

However, not withstanding my faults - I still think I am a wonderful, gorgeous human being

I have so many flaws and faults I couldn't begin to enumerate them completely.
Let's just leave it at "a whole helluva lot".

All of the above on the OP, apart from relationships. I'm too much in my head and don't open up enough.

I take things too literally. I can sometimes stop myself before I embarrass myself but sometimes I've just got to challenge people that have said something nasty in a sarcastic way.

Cannot do math above year 7 level.

I interpret what people are saying in the wrong way, so I'm constantly corrected, unless i finally realise what they mean.

I hate doing new things, like when all city buses changed to pre-paid tickets only. There was a few minutes of freaking out time for me.

I talk like George W. Bush.

I have a very bad short term memory. I like to read about facts but find it hard to remember what I've read. So my general knowledge isn't that great.

I do always think I'm right. Arguments with me go on and on until someone admits to me being right so I can shut up.

I'm easily offended by NT's who call someone ret*d, spaz, mong in a insulting way.

I hate being exhausted after 6 hours or less of social interaction. And sometimes I get so sick of it I will get away from all people, even my mother. I will be very irritated by sounds and movement.

Lastly, I take things very personally, even though I try not to and I dwell on things over and over again. Not as bad in my social anxiety days but it's still annoying.

edit: Add CanadianRose's post to my list.

I don't know if I have what could be called "faults". I'm not perfect, but who is. I am what I am.

I tend to get stuck on thoughts about things and have difficulty in letting something go (if it was that bad). I keep thinking if I done something wrong and it drives me crazy when people don't respond.

Drives me crazy when people don't apologize

I cannot remember what people have said in conversations

I interrupt

I'm impatience sometimes

I just learned I tend to cut people off when they are saying something to me

I'm horrible at remembering names (but not that bad)

*I am impatient and easily frustrated when something doesn't work how it should on the first attempt (except with technology, ie cell phones and computers, mainly because I begin with the assumption that they won't work the first time )

*I'm a bit arrogant, though I think it is warranted. I don't believe I look down on people, I just don't like to socialize or interact with people I don't feel are "on my level" in whatever I am doing.

*I am a slob, though fairly contained within my specific areas.

*I am lazy, in that I don't want to do anything, though once I am involved in the activity I am an active participant.

*I am territorial.

*more to come, I am sure.

Fault's according to my own judgement:

lazy

lack of self-initiative. I'm 19 years old and don't have a job yet. I don't have a car and I would feel weird if my parents had to take me to and from work. I have to look for jobs within a reasonable biking distance because the buses don't have stops anywhere near my house or the places I'm looking for employment at

inconsistent. Habits take longer than expected to form. I'm constantly yelled at because of this. We all make new habits at different rates. I keep a new habit up for a week or so, then fall back and finally pick it up again. My dad expects me to make new habits and never fall back on them. I can't because it's not how I work. It takes me longer than the average person to make new habits part of my routine.

lack of responsibility. I am in no way irresponsible, I simply don't notice that certain chores need to be done around my house until I am told.

Sometimes I have no idea why I am lacking responsibility and consistency in some areas. Maybe it's because I'm so used to my parents telling me that things need to be done and I expect them to do so instead of me doing them myself.

inability to ignore bullying. That fault is what made elementary and middle school a nightmare because I couldn't ignore the bullies and the teachers did nothing about it. They expected the students to handle that issue. I liked high school more because of the lack of bullies. The only thing that made it hell, was that stupid colored drink ban two years ago.

lack of focus. Along with my Aspergers, I have ADD. I know that it's now called ADHD, but I'm not the hyperactive type. I take Vyvanse for that.

Let me add a few, some that other people mentioned about themselves:

- I lose focus unless I'm really into what I'm doing.

- I can't stand or sit still and do "nothing." Would rather stay home and lay down or be on the computer than just visit relatives for 5 hours and just sit at their house and do nothing.

- I cut off people when talking to them.

- I stutter when telling a long story.

- I either really, really like something, or have no need for it. (Goes for women, tv shows, clothes, movies, anything.)

- I have a "I saw it first" mentality, especially when dealing with women. If I were dating a girl I really liked and saw a guy openly trying to flirt with her, I'd probably dump her and go back to fantasizing about having a girlfriend that told guys "F*ck off. I'm happily taken" then make fun of him with me.

Impatient and irritable

The "little stuff" bothers me

Get offended easily

Hold grudges...don't piss me off or i will hold it against you forever

I tend to say yes a lot even though i want to say no

The little things bother me and I take things to heart.

I am impatient and perfectionistic. I want whatever I am doing to be exactly right and right now and if it's not exactly right then I'm going to be very upset, and I will keep working on it for hours and hours until it is exactly right. And
I hyperfocus. Usually people aren't around when I do it, but if it's something I really like doing and someone is quiet then sometimes I can do it with a person around.

Last week I was working on something at work and I was thinking about the best way to do something and I started looking directly at someone and I was probably looking directly at her for at least 30 seconds and I didn't even realize she was there until she said "Hi Matt."

I am overly sensitive to criticism and don't understand why people praise me when I do things just the way I want them.

I have executive dysfunction. I have a tendency to start cooking food and then forget it and go to bed and wake up with my home is full of smoke(Someone gave me an electronic timer which helps prevent that, though, but it still doesn't prevent me from preheating my oven all night). Or I will start doing laundry and then completely forgot I was doing laundry and then remember hours later or not remember until it's time to leave and my clothes are still wet and in the washing machine. Or I will walk into a room and then turn around because I forgot why I went into that room and then turn around again because I remembered what I had forgotten and then turn around again because I forgot to bring something that was needed in order to do the initial thing I had wanted to do in the other room.

I have a very hard time taking directions from people. I can remember one step, and I can usually remember two steps, but if there are three things then I will usually remember only the last two steps and not remember the first steps.

I think taking directions and executive dysfunction are both problems with working memory.

I ramble. A lot. A lot a lot. When someone asks me a question I will give them a very precise answer and explain using great detail why whatever I explained is the way it is.

It's not that I can't remember people's names. I wish I could get to a point where that was my problem. I can't even remember that I'm supposed to say people's names. They will say "Hi Matt," and I will think "I am supposed to say hi." And I will say "Hi." And then a few seconds later I will think "You were supposed to say their name, too!"

Spend/waste an inordinate amount of time in grocery stores analyzing every purchase decision by comparing different brands of products I want, based on price, unit price, list of ingredients, the nutrition label, even how nice the can looks. A quick stop to get a can of tomato sauce soon turns into a major research project, taking half an hour or more sometimes. Plus I've already read all the cans, and in the end what difference does it make?

I'm shy. Fear of saying the wrong things or offending people. Fear of coming off as creepy so I'm shy.

impatient
talk too much(TMI)
focus on things to the point it interferes with things that i am supposed to be doing.
tired all of the time. any social situation drains me of all of my energy.
can't seem to connect to anyone enough to be good friends.
mindless(horrible short term memory.
etc...