Are there some things you just can't grasp?
imagining worlds brought to life in books. Until I see a few pictures, I just cannot imagine someone else's world. For me, it's a bunch of words jumbled together, then getting detailed about how people are sitting or something, and the accuracy of how a coat looks or something.
I have a hard time imagining people in books. I don't know if I just always somehow miss the parts when the characters are described, or I just can't grasp what the author is trying to describe, but the people are always very generic looking and never have a face. Sometimes they're not even that, they're just a concept. Which I suppose is actually somewhat true of my real life relationship to people - I have a hard time remembering faces without seeing them in front of me, and I have a hard time accepting that people actually exist.
Another thing someone mentioned was reading clocks. I still have a hard time with this and will avoid analog clocks as much as possible. I don't know why I couldn't learn, I even had a special watch that's made to help you learn to read clocks and I wore it all the time. I never learned it though and it still takes me a while to figure out what time it is.
Also things like tvs and pcs... how they work. I can read the material but once I try visualising it and processing the information, I just seem to get totally stuck. I hate it when I cannot understand things like that totally.
I also often don't grasp jokes. An acquaintance the other night replied to a phone message I had sent where I had said I had been up all night and was bad. He said 'you've been bad? You murdered or robbed someone? you better go to the cops.'. I didn't know if he was joking or serious. I did wonder if he had taken me literally and thought I really had been bad.
Also, I cannot grasp most humans. I simply cannot. I watch them going about their lives when I am out and about. Shopping etc, hanging about in groups, drinking on friday nights and shouting stupid things out and generally acting like idiots... I just don't get that sort of thing.
I agree on the final one; I usually refer to them as "fly-by-nighters". What I mean by that is they grasp onto the next big fad, then they leave just because it's no longer popular and go on to the next big thing. It seems exceedingly one-dimensional to me. And they'll just go out and dance, drink, and act like idiots, then bone the opposite sex. Then they'll go to some job they hate, then repeat the process..
I don't get it.
Oooh! Me too! I completely agree with the "pragmatic" thing. Some words are just, like.. what? There are several words that other people use sort of regularly but that I totally avoid because I don't know how to use them, and it's almost like their definitions are non-things. Or something. D: Like, I had a lot of trouble with "irony". I think I understand what it means better now, (I mean, I understand the things that are called ironic, just not the word and what COUNTS as "ironic") but there are other words I don't get, but I can't remember them, heh.;;
Concepts like love and anger seem to be non-things too. I mean, I get what they mean generally, but when you try to put a finger on them, it's like they don't exist. (Maybe they're syndromes like ASD... made up of several things.)
And another thing I don't get is aaalllll the "isms". Like socialism and communism and all of that. Although I think I finally get communism because it's one of the most commonly used ones. (FINALLY, even though I'm 23 now and I only got it like last year..) But they're sooo hard to keep straight, and they all overlap and some of them mean the opposite of what they seem to mean, so I was aaalllways lost in classes like history. "This man was a great _______istic leader." but to me it actually was a blank, so I never knew what type of leader he was...
Your #5, too. I suuuuuck at that kind of thing. Anything with money or paperwork or that kind of thing. It all blends into a terrible mush of WTF-is-going-on.
AND MATH. OH GOD. Even simple math like counting, (especially backwards) because I never know if I'm supposed to include the number I'm on or not, so there's always a chance anything I'm counting is one digit off.
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Things I just can't get:
1. NT's need for small talk, getting together and doing nothing but making small talk then everyone going on there way.
2. The need for people to still lie to you when you tell them if you lie to me I will think you have no repsect for me and are screwing with me. IE "I just want to be friends" line from women as a way to let you down easy. When in reality they don't even want to be just friends with you. They think its better that they lie to your face.
3. Most team sports, how people think you are less of a man if you don't like football, ect..
4. Why people feel the need to have kids. I don't want kids, can't see the need for them. I don't understand why people want to have them beacuse once you have one, you are doing nothing but taking care of the kid for the next 18 years or so. All your money goes to the kid, all your free time goes to the kid. You get nothing out of it.
No matter how hard I try I can't see the point of these things.
^ those are all good ones that I don't understand the purpose of either. I never will understand them. I'm with you, my friend.
imagining worlds brought to life in books. Until I see a few pictures, I just cannot imagine someone else's world. For me, it's a bunch of words jumbled together, then getting detailed about how people are sitting or something, and the accuracy of how a coat looks or something.
I have a hard time imagining people in books. I don't know if I just always somehow miss the parts when the characters are described, or I just can't grasp what the author is trying to describe, but the people are always very generic looking and never have a face. Sometimes they're not even that, they're just a concept. Which I suppose is actually somewhat true of my real life relationship to people - I have a hard time remembering faces without seeing them in front of me, and I have a hard time accepting that people actually exist.
I completely agree with this. I never see details of people in my head. People I know, people I read about in books, even people in my dreams - they are all concepts. They do not have faces or distinct features. I see people as entities and pay very little attention to phyiscal characteristics even when face-to-face with someone.
I'm not that good at putting things into words though, I'll state that there have been times when I inadvertently fail to properly grasp the meaning of what one says or writes..Yes, there have been times where I've screwed up in the intended meaning of an email or post often leading to a misunderstanding but, often I'm too embarrassed to ask for a clarification of such..
Driving used to terrify me. When it came time to learn to drive this caused a lot of problems between me and my dad who didnt understand my anxiety issues on the matters (this was prediagnosis). I found that I drive a helluva lot better when I'm not being taught by someone and I developed really good defense driving skills on my own.
I'm trying to learn the stock market stuff but I dont think I will ever get it.
Now my next biggest fear is the day I will have to do my own taxes. Given that I've never have a real job, live with parents, and given that I never have any idea what to put down whenever all of these stupid surveys and applications keep asking me what my income is when I have no clue...you can see why I'm terrified.
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Real estate files...I know the concepts and regulations of the Alberta Land Titles Act and various regulations with respect to real estate, but I can't grasp the whole file, the organizing, process, and anything to do with organization.
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bigdaveangell2000
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1. Anything financial. Bank and insurance documents do not make any sense to me at all no matter how hard I concentrate on them. I have gotten into alot of trouble from signing papers that I did not completely understand.
2. Ive always had trouble reading analog clocks. It still takes me 10 seconds or so to figure out what time it is
3. The need for alot of friends has never made sense to me. Im perfectly content having one friend or even being alone
It seems to cause much frustration to those around me.
This is a big one for me as well. GIVE ME SPECIFICS!! !
1.) I am able to use sarcasm. It is an unwieldy tool but I am still able to use it. Only if I could 'get' sarcasm.
2.) How to 'fake smile and make it look natural'. I've practiced all sorts of facial expressions in the mirror. Smiling I seem to not be able to get down.
3.) Why does the dog barking irritate me?
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