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Do you ever wish you lived alone?
Yes, all the time 65%  65%  [ 37 ]
No, I rather be stuck with whoever :) 7%  7%  [ 4 ]
Sometimes? 28%  28%  [ 16 ]
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26 Nov 2009, 8:19 pm

Do you ever wish you lived alone?

Yes, I feel like that all the time as I all the time feel like I need alot of space from people and the crowds and the people out there in today's society... Also because I don't feel I can do anything that I want to do and basically I just feel I want to be FREE!!

The other reasons why I wanted to live alone is that I wanted to avoid too many troubles, I don't hate my family at all.... Personally I just want to find a retreat spot and at the same time feel flexible with what I want to do in life as I feel dependent on my parents.

Also I wanted to be independent and feel as weird as I can possible can and speak to myself so much more and have more autistic side of me, (I know but that's rather insane)... But at the sametime get to know myself even more and bring myself away from the depressing world that it feels like today.

Does anyone else feel the same?


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26 Nov 2009, 8:24 pm

No. I love my husband and we want to have kids.


Back when I lived with my parents, oh yes. Then I was real happy when I was on my own.



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26 Nov 2009, 8:46 pm

superboyian wrote:
Do you ever wish you lived alone?

Yes, I feel like that all the time as I all the time feel like I need alot of space from people and the crowds and the people out there in today's society... Also because I don't feel I can do anything that I want to do and basically I just feel I want to be FREE!!

The other reasons why I wanted to live alone is that I wanted to avoid too many troubles, I don't hate my family at all.... Personally I just want to find a retreat spot and at the same time feel flexible with what I want to do in life as I feel dependent on my parents.

Also I wanted to be independent and feel as weird as I can possible can and speak to myself so much more and have more autistic side of me, (I know but that's rather insane)... But at the sametime get to know myself even more and bring myself away from the depressing world that it feels like today.

Does anyone else feel the same?


im exactly the same. i still live with my family, but i would love to have my own place and live by myself. i have nothing against my family and i still love them but i would rather be by myself. for a year i lived with a roommate in an apartment but that caused me more problems then it was worth.

i think a lot of the reason i'd rather live alone would be because i need control over my environment. all my belongings are in my room and there is barely any trace of me in the rest of the house. in my room i can control where everything goes and how my stuff is used, outside of my room things are moved or used and its not in the same place as where i left it. if i had my own place i can always say "this goes here" and it would be there the next time i looked for it. after i finish with the lease on my car i'm going to look into buying my own house. i dont want to be in an apartment again because i always feel awkward knowing that there are strangers living all around me. the anxiety gets so high that i become afraid to drop stuff or make any kind of sound because i don't want to be a nuisance. i also like to move around furniture at random times in the day i dont like keeping the same layout all the time because i find different ways to make things more efficient. unfortunately i usually get inspiration to do this at like 11 o'clock at night and you cant move around heavy furniture when other people want to sleep :cry:



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26 Nov 2009, 8:53 pm

I like living alone rather than at home or with flat mates. But I'd rather live with someone I really loved.



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26 Nov 2009, 8:54 pm

You get on a lot better with your parents when you don't have to live with them. I live alone and I love having my own space; my kitchen cupboards are full of retro computer equipment and I have a collection of over a thousand DVDs and videos in my living room.

The downside to living alone is that you miss out on traditional family events like playing Monopoly or Christmas Dinner. I will most likely never experience another family Christmas.

You're still young. Enjoy family life while you can.



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26 Nov 2009, 9:21 pm

Yes, people are tiring. My home is meant to be for me to relax and unwind. Living with people automatically puts the pressure on me to be more normal, because some things I do at home can be potentially bothersome to people. I tend to vocalize a lot, knock or hit things, sometimes throw things around, and it's very irritating to have people ask whether I'm ok and why I am doing these things. Most of the time, I don't know the reasons myself.

I also become very detached when I'm at home, which really upsets people (my mom). I don't want to hurt their feelings. Hopefully someone else can explain to her in the future why I am like that, but I just can't do it on my own.


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26 Nov 2009, 9:26 pm

YES, All the time!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !


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26 Nov 2009, 9:45 pm

EnglishInvader wrote:
You get on a lot better with your parents when you don't have to live with them. I live alone and I love having my own space; my kitchen cupboards are full of retro computer equipment and I have a collection of over a thousand DVDs and videos in my living room.

The downside to living alone is that you miss out on traditional family events like playing Monopoly or Christmas Dinner. I will most likely never experience another family Christmas.

You're still young. Enjoy family life while you can.


Thank you :D I never thought of me missing out on family fun, but the thing was that I didn't really join in much games unless if it was the xbox with my brother and sister.
I do occassionally though. The Christmas dinner would of been my favourite part too.

I'm glad I'm young but I won't be young forever... :)

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I also become very detached when I'm at home, which really upsets people (my mom). I don't want to hurt their feelings. Hopefully someone else can explain to her in the future why I am like that, but I just can't do it on my own.


That sounds exactly like me there, i tried explaining but it just doesn't work :( and plus I don't know anyone that understands... Plus I had depression when I was 16. That's when I started becoming more detached... :( but now I'm trying to rebuilt my life and start fresh but nobody would really know why unless I tell them who I think I trust... :)


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26 Nov 2009, 11:50 pm

While I of course am excited about the prospect of eventually moving in with my girlfriend once we get married, I've come to realize having room-mates isn't all it's cracked up to be.

Most of my friends are thoroughly incompetent, and unreliable.

And from what I've noticed, they're no different from most anyone else. 8)



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27 Nov 2009, 12:41 am

I do want to live on my own. I have lived with my parents, with various roommates and currently with other family, and in each case, I spend most of my time shut off from the others in my room.

Living alone doesn't have to be socially isolating. I honestly think I would get out more if I were on my own. I would then be spending time with people on my own terms and not simply having them always around compelling me to hide out to detox.


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27 Nov 2009, 12:43 am

I have lived with my family as a child, I have lived with communities and with roommates and in dorms and woman's residences. I have lived with old bachelors and old maids, I have lived with all of my husbands, I have slept on shelving in greenhouses but I always enjoyed living by myself the best. :wink:

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27 Nov 2009, 1:30 am

I often wish that I could live alone. But I also know that it would not be a good thing - I would self-destruct without people around me to keep me anchored in reality.



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27 Nov 2009, 2:00 am

Yes. More privacy and no more intrusions from parents would be the big bonuses for me. Plus I could live the lifestyle I want (but that wouldnt stop people from telling me how I should live).



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27 Nov 2009, 2:09 am

I live alone, and it's a godsend. I am more capable and independent now than I ever was when I lived with a group of people or lived with my family, and both confidence and skills have shown a slow but steady increase since I have been living on my own. If you are at all capable of independence, your own apartment is probably going to be a huge benefit; and even if you're not, living by yourself with people visiting to help when needed is often preferable to living with family.

This isn't true for everybody; some people do like living with their families or in a group setting; but I would wager that most of these people, who enjoy living in groups rather than alone, do require a reliable source of privacy, and more often than a neurotypical would.


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27 Nov 2009, 2:34 am

Both have had good and bad points
Living with others
good....
Finding that there is a meal
finding that the shopping is done
security
help
less expenses
Bad...
not having all the space to yourself
having conflits in plans
having someone else there!
having ti answear to another pesron.

Living alone..
pretty much the flip side


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27 Nov 2009, 2:53 am

I live alone