Neurotypicals are happier than people with AS

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Say what you want.

NTs are sheople, they are robots, they are shallow, etc. But the bottom line is that they are happier than people with AS.

Is there anything is nothing more important than being happy?

All the NT bashing on this board doesn't really make a lot of sense.

Ya! Let's kill em all!!

You need to replace "NT's" with some other word. How about just "stupid shallow people"?

Hopefully that was meant to be sarcastic.

That would be a unfairly generalising, but probably true.

Sure it was.

I'm stronger than most sheeple, though.

I wouldn't be questioning my neurological status if I didn't suffer from having a very limited, depressive, lonely life. People who get enjoyment from being with others are definitely more likely to have a better quality of life.

Putting others down is good for the ego.

Sorry. I disagree.

If you really get to watch NTs in action, a lot of them are miserable.

Where someone with AS is different is that we may be more inclined to know WHY we are unhappy. That can empower us to do something to change our lot in life, or at least empower us to face it.

Most NT people I know have no clue of how unhappy they really are, but they run around in circles embracing anything that promises to fill that void in their lives that they can't identify. They possess the illusion of happiness, but few find true happiness.

i agree with zer0 looking from the outside it may seem that nt's are happier but that is only because most people will try to hide it if they are feeling unhappy.

How are they unhappier than aspies? I think they would be happier because they don't have any dramas with socialising and aren't stuck in the head all day.
They are always laughing about something while I'm there with my hand over my ears saying 'shut up shut up, why are you always so god damned happy'. I don't actually say that, just think it.

Agree. I think it's a case of 'what really makes one happy' versus 'what one believes should make one happy'.

Some NTs really are happy people and contented with their lives. Their daily activities bring them genuine joy. But just as many pursue activities and goals not because they truly want to, but because they've grown to believe that this is what equals 'having fun'; this is what equals 'being happy' and is therefore what everybody should want. If they have/are engaging in these correct things, then they decide they must therefore be happy, sometimes without pausing to consider whether they actually are. Consider also the fact that most NT people really, really don't like to analyze themselves in any depth; in fact, are made decidedly uncomfortable by it.

The bottom line is that I think there are pros and cons to both being a person with a large number of friends/acquaintances, and being a solitary person. The former person does have a network for emotional support, should they require it, and being friendly with a large number of people does quite admittedly prove very useful when requiring advice/information or help with tasks that you would otherwise be forced to try and find out by yourself and either try to do yourself or hire a professional to do (as opposed to a friend who would do it for free). On the other hand, the latter person experiences a great deal of mental freedom through the knowledge that they have no others making constant emotional demands on them, that their appearance/lifestyle/etc does not have to be a compromise between what they actually want and what their 'friends' find acceptable; that they are at liberty to live their life and pursue their interests without having to pause to consider before they make a single move whether it might cause a 'friend' to dissaprove of or reject them.

There are some miserable NTs out there. Some are going through a divorce, abusive relationship or marriage and can't leave, facing prison, got scammed, lost their loved one, their wives trying to keeps their kids away from him by making them say to the judge in court how they don't want to see their dad and they want to be with their mother and being forced to say things about their father they don't want to say.

Something not exclusive to NT experience, but true nonetheless, is that you really find out who your friend are when you are going through a crisis.

NTs with lots of "friends" who hit a bad patch in life find out very quickly that they are lucky if even 2-3 people stand by them during such times.

Never mistake quantity for quality. One solid friend is worth 1,000 casual acquaintances who will leave you in your hour of need.

OP, you're so wrong there... You should see the poor NTs who shun me, convince everyone else to despise me, mock me, bully me...then in the end trying to imitate me and find some solace in MY special interests, because they're too empty to find their own. Never ever doubt for a second that we're happier than them, with all our problems. If you ever doubt it, rent out Zefirelli's "The Sparrow" and watch it till its famous last words. Best film I ever saw about this issue, and it also has the best Photography I ever saw in a movie.

NT's are happier, full stop. For years I was able to fit in with the NT's, and I felt like an NT (no blunted emotions, that only came about two years ago) . It was great, I'll still emphasise that I was very weird but I was confident and felt like anyone else, good times

And we should really stop with the whole "NT's suck and are shallow" thing. People in glass houses shouldn't through stones, we have problems too, and many of us complain about being bullied so are we any better by furthering this "them vs us" thing? A lot of normal people are very nice, albeit difficult