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My older sister invited us over for steak tonight for dinner. I asked do you have steak sauce she said no I don't think so. I then sat on the couch and told my dad he said I was wrong since she invited us over I should not criticize everything (which I tend to look at the faults) IMO WHY have steak and NO steak sauce! (I criticize alot) So fellow Aspies do you see my point as wrong or how could I handle things without criticizing?

What you can do:

1. go to the grocery store

2. when inside the store, find the aisle with the condiments

3. find the smallest bottle of A-1 or Heinz they have

4. Buy it.

That way you can bring your own steak sauce with you everywhere you go. You can put it in the glove compartment of your car (if you have a car or your mom and dad's car if you don't) and get it out whenever you know there's going to be steak and the presence of sauce is questionable. That, or tell your sis to get a bottle of steak sauce just for you, or leave the sauce you bought at the store at your sis', instruct her that no one should touch it because you need it for when you eat steak at their house.

LOL! Good idea actually we were at the grocery store today but didn't know she was cooking steaks or inviting us perhaps next time make sure she has all the essentials.

Probably have to have steak without sauce...?

It's wrong to serve steak withougt sauce... IF the steak isn't all that good to begin with. Y'know, those bland, flavorless steaks.
Eat a really good, flavorful steak, and you'll find that sauce isn't needed. In fact, sauce would only ruin it.

I never had a truly good steak until I met my fiance, lol.


Find someone that makes really, really good steaks!

A bit rude maybe, depending on how you asked. I mean maybe (I honesty don't know) it's a bit rude to bring up something that is missing to begin with, but it's not really that bad if you simply politely asked for steak sauce.

It is generally bad manners to complain about a meal when you are dining as a guest in another person's home. It wouldn't even occur to me to ask for condiments if they were not offered to me.

I can be quite weird about dining etiquette, though. When I am dining in the company of women, I can never begin my meal until the women are seated and begin their meals. It seems vulgar to me for a man to start eating while the women are waiting for their plates.

I didn't find it rude. Maybe it's just me? I would have asked the same thing! It's like asking for salt for your potato or ketchup for the fries...imo anyway. It's a condiment!

I never have steak with steak sauce. XD;; It wouldn't have occurred to me at all in her position.

I'd say it was kind of rude. Asking for a condiment is acceptable, but reacting like that when it's not available is bad manners. After all, steak tends to be expensive, and takes a lot of time and effort to prepare. What you should have done is said "oh, that's OK" and proceeded to eat steak without the sauce. Sitting on the couch and not at the table (which presumably meant that you didn't want the meal) showed disrespect to your sister because you were rejecting her food due to something she could not control.

As alternative, you can stop at a grocery store along the way, and buy a bottle. But don't get the cheap generic store brand. Get the the really good one, and give it to your sister when you come over, as a small hostess gift of sorts.

Well, I wasn't there to see what happened, so it's hard for me to say.

What I can say is, I don't think that you were wrong to feel that it was inappropriate not to have condiments appropriate to the food available. But I have learned over time that even when I am not wrong about something, I can still be wrong in the way that I express it.

I think I'm missing something here. Was it rude (or not) that you asked for steak sauce without being offered? Or is it something else that happened after that?

Wasn't it that he 'criticized' there not being steak sauce, not that he asked?

I believe zeldapsychology is a female Aspie .

After asking about having steak sauce I said oh ok then told my dad who was sitting on the couch "Wow she doesn't have steak sauce" (he replied I shouldn't criticize everything.) I then ran to the bathroom upset (I tend to do this alot I'm VERY emotional.) He took it as me criticizing which he said is something I always do.

I didn't think you were criticizing, interestingly, just asking if she had something. Oh OK was a fine response, surely?