Would you chose your obsession or your romantic interest?

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If you had to make the choice, which would you chose? Your obsession/special interest, or your romantic interest/very close friend?

For me, they are often the very same thing.

I agree - if I become close enough to someone that we become friends or lovers, they (more specifically, our relationship) tend to become a special interest for me.

That said, I would always choose a person over a thing ("person" being a friend or lover - not a casual acquaintance.) Loyalty in relationships is extremely important to me.

My romantic interest often IS my obsession. Which is why rejection usually results in a meltdown.

Life was so much easier when I was more interested in black holes than boys...

Of course, it's even worse (or better?) when my romantic interest happens to coincide with my more minor obsessions. My current interest shares my love of science and Legend of Zelda. Too bad some little vixen has to sit between us and monopolize his attention. But I digress.

In short, I would actually rather become obsessed with a subject that can't break my heart.

My obsession.

More productive, and I am really not good girlfriend material.

Same here.

I'm happy to see I'm not the only one whose romantic interest is their obsession... I was afraid to answer this one.

Very close friend/love interest.
I see I'm not the only one who's 2 catergorys tend to mix

My partner has to accept my special interest. I won't give it up.

me too. unfortunately. I am too 'intense'.

This is a difficult question to answer when you've never had any romantic interest or a best friend. So, I just chose obsession.

How can you be romantically involved with someone if they don't accept that a big part of you is that you... obsess?

as an aside I feel this way too about loyalty and I find it so strange that this is one of the most glaring differences I find with so-called neurotypical people...loyalty is an alien concept to so many and they don't seem to get upset with each other for stabbing each other in the back. It's like it's an accepted part of life. For me loyalty *is* the relationship...I have always felt like I have a physical handicap when trying to discern just what frequency their relationships run on when there is no loyalty. I know there is something there, some bond, but I just can't see it, feel it, or touch it.

You don't have to be romantically involved to be romantically obsessed. It's called a hopeless crush.

I have forgotten that these exist. But in this instance, wouldn't a crush BE your obsession/interest anyway? I guess what the others above meant. I need to leave the house more.

What if they are one and the same?

Obsession/Interest. I hate romance so this was very easy to answer.