GRRR. Why does he do this??

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My dad is such a jerk. He is very immature...He does stuff simply to bug me when he's upset with me. Like just now, he opened my room's door to ask me a question. My room is really small. His cologne was stinking it up, and I dislike his cologne a lot..It really pervades my senses and is quite unpleasant....And my room gets scented really easily, since it's so small.
So I asked him when he was done a bit hurriedly if he would close the door because his cologne would stink up my room, and he immediately opened my door really fast so it would waft in...Giving me a terrible wave of the scent..It's still not gone! This is so inconsiderate, then I have to put up with it and waste my own expensive perfume spraying it around the room.
And it REALLY bugs me, I can't explain why....I guess the combination of the scent and his doing that on purpose? It really upsets me and like, makes me stim really hard and bang my head and hurt myself....Is that abnormal?

But why does he do this!? He does other stuff to bug me. He likes opening my door a crack, shaking the handle and stuff, and then suddenly swinging it open really fast to startle me, and then slam it shut....He just does this stupid s**t JUST to bug me. And he gets mad at me, and gets too close when I get upset...And like pushes me and stuff. I HATE HIM.

thats where the lock comes in handy.

Wow he sounds like a jerk.

I'm not allowed to have a lock.
Gosh, Elderwanda, that's mean about your mum. I don't get why people are like this! Grrrr. And I don't even know if I have a right to be mad...I don't exactly know the definition of sensory issues. The smell doesn't burn me or anything...Just the situation causes unshakeable stress and frustration...And the fact that the smell is in MY room. I guess I'll need to research sensory issues closer.
My dad might possibly have AS..But if he does, he is very clearly the narcissistic type.

You really need to confront your dad about it, though I notice that you're Turkish and given the Islamic culture there that might no be a good idea.

i hate confrontation. ive tried it and also written letters...he doesnt care.

problems within himself that have nothing to do with you. My dad tormented me my entire childhood (and worse). I am only now at the stage of (barely) understanding how damaged a person can be that tormenting others is a relief. It might help to think of it as a stim, but his stim is by tormenting others. I think I attract people like this, being so empathic, people hone in on the fact that you are more sensitive than most. And if they have something they need to release, they zone in for you.

You are trapped. His behavior is wrong and unfair. You probably can't change him. You might be able to get support for dealing with the abuse. And then at some point get away from it. Hugs.

I see you're 17, try taking pleasure in the fact that you'll be a adult soon and be able to move out

DEFINITELY have another talk with him and stress that it's not funny and seriously bothers you.

i think he is trying to socialise in some stupid way. i hate him. and yes he pushes when he's angry.
he also likes to pull my hair in public, where he knows ill try hard not to make a scene, and he can get away with it. i absolutely HATE the tickly sensation, and ask him to stop, and he doesnt. i want him DEAD.
and just now, he informed me that my computer will be confiscated at 10 pm every night. i dont even know why. if its to make me sleep earlier it wont work. i told them i go to bed after they do, because they will keep me awake otherwise, ad they dont beleive me.

Ok, pulling your hair in public is really NOT normal, and neither is pushing you when angry.

I'd recommend telling someone at school.

Dealing with parents can be difficult. I found no solution, aside from moving out.

My father has Aspergers as well, and is not mild. When I was a teen, he thought the fact that I was withdrawn was a sign of depression. He wanted to fix me and make me social, yet he wasn't. He thought he was, but he would talk at people for a long period of time, sometimes as long as an hour, and never notice they weren't listening. It took several doctors stating he had it for him to even slightly acknowledge it. Even now, he won't admit it to anyone.

When he tried to fix me,he moved me from my home (with grandparents), where I had my own room, to his house, where I was stuck in the basement. I had no privacy, no door to my "room". They would come down to loudly shake the ashes from the coal stove, or use the hot tub.

Parents can be great, but they can also be awful. I just learned to deal with the pain until I could be free.