Migraines, perfectionism, control and anger

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I've noticed that when I get angry at order being disrupted or things being destroyed, I lose it big time and get a migraine.

In my temper tantrum, I turn off all other noise makers (TV/ radio), open the blinds, so I can see exactly what is going on and control it, by shouting down everybody and everything else into submission and obedience. I don't want to hide in the dark. I don't want to relax. I don't want to be reasonable or listen to other people's points of view - I just want what I don't want, to stop. I turn into a monster because that is the only thing that works.

I'm quite happy to put up with others and their ways of life most of the time but if we didn't have a dishwasher I wouldn't let my wife put down the plates for the dogs to lick because I know ordinary washing doesn't get the slime of their dog bowls. This and other sloppy NT stuff gets right up my nose and in the final analysis 'Unto thine own self be true' is one of my mottoes, not 'compromise'.

What do you take to help? I have to take medication and sleep it off. Had maybe five or six bad ones, but they're happening closer together now.

Yes. Wow, those can be painful afterwards, when you review what you've said, but it sure works.

I've managed to tone down my tantrums, mostly to avoid physical injury (not necessarily mine), but I also would blow up at seeing someone getting their dogs lick off their plates. That's just wrong.

Then again, I wash my dog's food bowls frequently too, because they can also get sick.

I think that our perfectionism, order etc. is a sign that we actually are not only highly intelligent (not that important) but also are highly optimistic. I think NT's are more relaxed, sloppy and disorderly because they are more depressed and depressive than we are: Being elated means getting your life together - it doesn't mean being sociable because you don't need to be (misery likes company as they say - happiness is content in its own company).

My attacks used to be really bad, lasting 3 days on average and leading to vomiting in half the cases. I'd have two attacks a month, for a period of several months, then it would settle down again. Now they are treatable with Imigran and going to bed for a few hours. Recently I've noticed that I had an 'almost' attack, which is like a sneeze or cough that gets caught in the nose or back of the throat, so that it never quite comes out as an explosive reaction.

That's an interesting perspective. (As an aside, I enjoy hearing what other people think and see, because of that minor mind blindness thing .)

I'm not sure I agree about the degree of depression in NTs, speaking from personal experience, but of course with mind blindness I could be very wrong. Depression is very subjective after all. It's like physical pain: you think stubbing your toe is painful, until you experience a broken limb or root canal.



I've felt nausea every time and I cannot see, which makes driving home interesting if I'm at work (happened three times). I don't know what medication I use because I'm married to a doctor and that means not having to worry . I know that it works, so even if it's a placebo, I don't mind!

The 'almost' attack you describe is also interesting. I have never experienced that, but surely feels weird for you?

I get migraines, they are horrible. They make my eye sight go weird and twice it's gone completely. I don't know the reasons for my migraines, I assume they are from stress though. I am a perfectionist too it's so frustrating sometimes to get things the way I want them.