I can't do anything RIGHT!

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With how good I did in school getting A's writing research papers (once during the 2 week holiday break) I can't make up a bed right and when given simple directions (spray a water bottle in ONE spot or hold a board in ONE spot) I can't do it right!! !! !! !! I mess up the most basic things!! !! and yet unlike others I get A's and love learning and school!! !! !!

I'm going to get needlessly semantic and picky with you and point out that if you are getting A's on papers, then clearly you are capable of doing something right.

I think you have fallen into the trap of believing that just because a majority of people can do something, you ought to be able to do it to. When we think of things like playing a piano, throwing a ball or giving a speech, we understand that some people are more talented and have better training than others.

I think the same thing is true of other tasks as well. It might seem ridiculous to compare playing the piano with making a bed--but I think that is all falls in the category of learned skills. Perhaps you can't follow 'simple' directions. But I am prepared to wager that you can look at an object in its present state, visualized the desired state, and then develop an approach to change the object.

If the desired state for the bed is to be made, then instead of following someone else's directions for making a bed, develop your own method of making the bed.

As for tests of physical dexterity, we would never expect a person with, for example, Parkinson's to be able to hold a board in one spot. Perhaps, in time, you can learn the fine motor control to spray a bottle in one place--perhaps not.

Why should we expect the same of every person? At some point every person comes to the realization that one cannot do everything. Celebrate the A's, think of new ways to put the bed in its desired state, and don't worry about the spray bottle!

I know how frustrated you are. I am quite similar in that I am aiming for a B or an A in my English GCSE but I can't do really simple things self-care wise. Maybe you have a bit of dyspraxia (common amongst us) and you struggle to coordinate whilst doing your bed. That's my problem. It is not an excuse not to try and so the other day I actually DID my own bed and I was quite proud of myself but everyone was too bothered about a small mark on the floor to notice... WTF is the point?

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Thanks and I also think doing mundane small stuff is laughable when you're aiming for a degree screw water bottles,and making up beds I have a DAMN P.H.D!! ! LOL! (I wish!! !)

I *hate* making beds. I think I should get a hammock...

I know what you guys mean. It was like that for me growing up. The only difference education wise, is that the work bored me so because of how simple it was, so I would never turn work in; and still ace the tests. It frustrated my teachers to no end. I could never do my class work the "right way if at all," yet I could ace the tests. I couldn't and (even though I am in the army now) still have trouble making a bed, and things like that. It is one of those things that when you accomplish something and are proud of yourself everyone pretty much says, "yeah, yeah, good for you; but you forgot to fold that undergarment and your towels the right way," or something. Don't let it get to you though. While people may not understand, it is quite evident that you did your best, and you should be proud of that. NEVER, AND I MEAN NEVER sell yourself short or think for one minute that you can't do anything right when it is quite evident that you can. Take it from a guy that learned the hard way. Remember what Emile Zola once said, "The artist is nothing without the gift, but the gift is nothing without the work." later.

I feel that way from time to time. I don't even sleep between my covers, anymore. I just have a heavy blanket over my bed that I cover up with. I'm sure that things will improve for you, with your schooling, as well.