Did/would you take advantage of people's ignorance...

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about your AS?


It irritates me how stupid people are about aspies. Aspies do the wrong things and they full well know it's wrong and people excuse it blaming it on the AS. But I think all that does is encourages them to do the wrong things knowing they get away with it because people are too stupid to tell the difference and are too stupid to not excuse the behavior.

When I in high school, I was under estimated. It was like anything I did was part of my condition. Because my aid was so over protective of me, I could do anything (not literally) and get attention and I mostly did it to get my teacher's reaction. I was frustrated about the treatment I was getting I actually had my fun with it. I did silly things and got away with it. Then when I finally started to get treated like everyone else, I stopped. The fun was over.

If someone kept excusing your bad behavior because of your AS, would you keep on doing it?

I wouldn't be surprised if most school age kids are like that though..
I went to a special middle school and my friends and I would always try and get away with bad behavior. My mom hadn't even told me I had an ASD at that point, all I knew was that I was in a school that was a lot more easygoing and that I wouldn't stand out against the bad behavior of the other kids, and I took full advantage of that, lol. All they did was put us in a quiet room to calm down. Even if you broke stuff you never got suspended or sent home. Every day someone would be acting up and taunted the aids and hiding or running away, etc. I think kids like to see what they can get away with, that's all. And many would use an ASD as a tool for that, which I understand. It's kind of a game.
But once you start realizing you should be a responsible person, it changes. I try not to take advantage of the situation anymore. I am determined not to blame anything on ASDs. Sometimes it is hard though, because sometimes the ASD really does cause problems. Sometimes it's even hard to judge if you're using it as an excuse or if it's justified.

My situation in life doesn't seem to matter to people. My difficulties mean little to them, because I am "smart" therefore I should be able to function and do everything just as well as them.

I wouldn't even get the chance to abuse my diagnosis. I get no understanding at all! It kind of sucks, because I really dislike people like my brother for the hard time he gives me, as if I can just change and be normal.

it's people like you who cause neurotypicals to support autism speaks, having fun reinforcing negative stereotypes?

i was refering only to those who currently do so, not those who used to.

I try to stay away from the government and "authority" types simply because I don't want to deal with their b.s. However, I try to act like a good, responsible adult. If I am forced to deal with "authorities," I will use whatever tools I have available to either get out of trouble or make things come out in my favor. In other words, I try to be "good" but when I come up against a bully with power, I will used any tool, diagnosis, religious status, race, etc to try to come out on top. I don't necessarily consider such tactics as being fair, but they are the tools that I may have to deal with the situation. Then again, the rules, courts, etc are usually not fair either.

I wouldn't use my AS as an excuse for my behaviour. I might say to someone to tell me if I do a thing wrong though, and if asked for an explaination I would say about my AS and a desire to learn more social skills. Would this be excusing myself via AS? or expressing myself properly?

If I just say to anyone I have autism, they think of Rain Man, so I can have fun with people in that case

On a more serious note, though, I hate people underestimating me, but I hate people overestimating me even more. By "overestimating", I mean that people who know about my AS think I'm using it as an excuse. There's a science teacher in my school who acts like a complete b***h about me using a laptop in class, and always accused me of playing games for no reason at all (I never have in class). If I get the displeasure of having that teacher again, I'm reporting her for disability discrimination.

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