All the family is Aspie, i'm the only one who knows

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23 Feb 2006, 7:17 pm

Since i know about AS i started to ask some simple questions to members of my family. I ask those who are still alive how were the other when they were young and what had happened to some other etc, and it is clear for me that my father, his father, his grand-father, my brother and at least 3 cousins all have it. Some were great musicians (i mean prodige, yes!, they are in history books...), inventors, all loner, homeschooled, living like an hermit and a lot of other details all relevant for me....

What's funny is that i am the only one who knows about AS. I didn't tell anybody yet. They all know and says WE are a bit special but throwing "autism" at them would not be appreciated, i'm sure.

Still not sure what to do, if something should be done at all :?

What you think ?



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24 Feb 2006, 12:36 am

Help organize aspie breeding so that we can rule the planet. That's what i think. It is obviously hereditary, and it looks a whole hell of a lot more like a genetic advantage than a genetic disorder, so start working on ways to give other aspies incentive to breed together.

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24 Feb 2006, 7:20 am

if you wish to bring up asd's, be prepared for lots of denial....hubby's family is chock-full of aspies....none of whom want to see that there might be a problem....anyhoo...the only person you can really help in the end, is yourself...



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24 Feb 2006, 10:41 am

Yep, as long as it is considered a "problem" we will have bad reactions.... it's not a problem, it's a difference, which i feel we're beginning to be proud of.....spread the words......



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24 Feb 2006, 10:54 am

Interesting topic.

My son is a dx of PPD. I'm sure my father is on the spectum somewhere. My brother and I have some traits but are mostly NT.

I'm sure my father would not want to hear about my son's dx so I haven't told him. THAT'S how far I am from mentioning to him that he might be on the spectum himself....

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24 Feb 2006, 2:39 pm

My husbands father died when my husband was eight, so I never met him. But I have told my family about my husband and the kids all having AS, my father can't believe that the kids have it, but does believe my husband does. My dad thinks their too smart.
I was in two minds wether to tell them but I'm pleased I did.
But I don't know what to say in your case. choose who to tell if you think they should know. if in doubt don't.


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24 Feb 2006, 9:22 pm

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Yep, as long as it is considered a "problem" we will have bad reactions.... it's not a problem, it's a difference, which i feel we're beginning to be proud of.....spread the words......


ok, so let me just explain that i don't see being aspie a problem....if i did, i wouldn't be married to someone with this neurobiological difference, nor would i be supportive of my aspie son.what i was trying to say is that several members of his family display quite a few traits, and can't seem to deal with their differences.they also can't seem to deal with the fact that they react to many situations the same way my aspie hubby does~bottom line is they all feel that they couldn't possibly be aspie and that my hubby is some sort of freak.[/i]



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25 Feb 2006, 6:06 am

Freak, I get that all the time about My hubby, people think his weird and a freak. I don't see it at all, I see is a careing loving man, a bit eccentric sometimes but then again we all can be like that.
I haven't told his mum that he and our two children have Aspergers, she's in her eighties and wouldn't understand. Let her die in blissful ignorance, she thinks she had two wonderful son's and she did, there just different. Which is another strange thing, my husbands brother is as NT as they come. Both with the same father. As far as I know my husband is the only Aspie in his family. But I do reckon his father was. :wink:


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25 Feb 2006, 12:05 pm

I know! It’s so blatantly obvious in my family my aunt calls it the “insane gene” or “insane jean” after her cousin my aunt Jeanne who has the worst social manners you would ever come across. Unfortunately no one in my family will ever get tested for even something as common as depression let alone autism. Only the children have been tested for the disorder. Including my self there are 5 of us diagnosed on the spectrum and others who are slow or just plain weird.

My grandmother’s sister my great aunt Adele was clearly an Aspie.

My grandmother always told stories of childhood antics and debacles Adele would get herself and others into because of her behavior and inability to understand social rules. She lived alone in an old house locked away from society. Even as a young woman she stayed to herself and never made time for friends, boyfriends, or any kind of personal relationships.


Then there is my aunt Bernice who was skittish and paranoid and stayed locked away in the upstairs of her mother’s home for at least 23 years. She never went outside not even to check the mail and sent her two children on all the everyday outings she herself was to frightened to do.

My mother I don’t even want to get started on. She’s at least dangerously bipolar if nothing else.

I always knew on some level that I was like these women as a small child. But nobody else saw the correlation even now I don’t think they do.



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25 Feb 2006, 5:01 pm

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She lived alone in an old house locked away from society. Even as a young woman she stayed to herself and never made time for friends, boyfriends, or any kind of personal relationships.


sounds just like my hubbys father and his great uncle...unfortunately, our families seem much the same as yours~ "only crazy people go to therapy



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25 Feb 2006, 6:00 pm

Hmmmmmm?

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PostPosted: Fri Feb 24, 2006 10:16 am Post subject: All the family is Aspie, i'm the only one who knows Reply with quote
Since i know about AS i started to ask some simple questions to members of my family. I ask those who are still alive how were the other when they were young and what had happened to some other etc, and it is clear for me that my father, his father, his grand-father, my brother and at least 3 cousins all have it. Some were great musicians (i mean prodige, yes!, they are in history books...), inventors, all loner, homeschooled, living like an hermit and a lot of other details all relevant for me....

What's funny is that i am the only one who knows about AS. I didn't tell anybody yet. They all know and says WE are a bit special but throwing "autism" at them would not be appreciated, i'm sure.

Still not sure what to do, if something should be done at all Confused

What you think ?


Hmmmmmm?

To start my thought I must say thanks for bringing up this topic.
People tend to not think of their families except for holidays? I think?
I wouldn't know since I am not close to mine. You guys are more family
to me than my geneolical family. The bad and good are outweighed
by the acceptances or our weaknesses and understanding our strengths.

But getting back to family and Aspie'ness?

Hmmmmmm?

My mother wrote:
My mother is a compulsive something, I want to say OCD.
This was expressed by my grandmothers description of her.

My mother was a wild thing and marrriage wasn't it and kids were
a consequence not planned from what I see of her past. and
I can almosssttttt say autistic in one way or another, but since
I don't really know my mother well(she kept a distance from
most of her children who wound up living with their grandparents
as a responsibility.).

•she has little or no eye contact
•choppy in speech and expression
•a bit stiff and standoffish(life experience? autism? I don't know?)
•retained much of her lifes pain to the point of ......

"Dammit Anita, these are your kids and you are going to
visit them(when I was age 10)-spoken by my grandmother"


the last time i spoke to her on the phone she had breast cancer,
She is age 60 now, and her 3rd husband said "dammit anita
this is your son on the phone, don't walk away" or something
at that effect.....I was 39 and she was 59 at that time.

Hmmmmm?

my dad wrote:
My dad Bruce was and is a recluse!
and a big mystery to me, also another wild thing.

That's all I know about him!


Visited him at age 13 and 20 and both were disappointing
visits and no connection.

My sister, age 41, reports that he hasn't shown any interest
in seeing his grandkids from her and they are 10 and 12.
She also said that he only gives a P.O box #.

Apparently, vicky, his second wife of 37 years is a controlling
reason he didn't take us, ect.......


Hmmmmmm?

my sister wrote:
My sister is 41 and we are like oil and water.
She is overcompensatively practical and
a introvert and I am 40 and a extrovert.

She can't, nor won't even help her brother,
I am a distant thing to her.


She know works with autistic children as a aide. And though
I have informed my grandmother and karl of my autism, she
won't know. I don't even know if she has a clue?
Nothing achieved by telling her.

Her son is outgoing and her daughter is like her, introvert
and I want to say autistic!

Hmmmmm?

I hope this is a appropriate response?

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28 Feb 2006, 1:39 pm

I tried to discuss this stuff with my family, and everyone went into denial-although its clear its been know and not talked about for a couple generations.
My aunt was most indignant, and she probably is the most high functioning-and snippy as a hornet, interested only in the market, rude and bossy.
My mom seems aspie, my maternal great aunt had ecolalia, there is a bunch of stuff on that side of the family.

I've basically accepted that they arn't listening., So I've tried to move on from that point.
Can I join Nomakens breeding program :D .



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01 Mar 2006, 12:36 am

I have an uncle who has ASD. No human native to Earth besides his wife is capable of spending more than 2.34 seconds within 5 meters of him (or earshot, whichever is further) without experiencing an overwhelming urge to improvise a club weapon and beat him with it, up to and including breaking off their own leg to obtain it. He has this Manza (sp?) car that he thinks is hot s**t. His ownly redeeming trait is his love of building model trqains.