Do you tend to call people by their first name or last name?

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When you're introduced in social situations, NOT in school, where you usually have to call teachers by their last names.

I'll call someone "sir" or "madam" if I don't know their name. If I meet someone famous, I'm liable to call them the same as I don't know whether to call them by their first or last name. Even if you're talking on the internet and someone has the username of, say, JohnSmith. Would you call them John or Mr. Smith? I know the latter was common in the days of Usenet, back when the internet actually had some "decorum"

If you were introduced to someone of rank, would you feel more comfortable calling them by their first or last name? Or even someone of around the same age whose name you already know? I think it's quite an autistic thing to do- say Dave, of the same age as you, introduces himself as Dave Jones, I think a lot of autistic people would be more inclined to call him "Mr. Jones" and not "Dave" at first.

How do aspies generally address people?

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Well Ms Lilac, I tend to use first names nowadays, it would sound a bit silly someone middle aged calling someone by their last name.

I think there are also significant cultural differences, I notice Americans are much more likely to use surnames for introducing themselves or in general then people from the UK.

I usually make up my own names, and use nicknames.XDLike it's rare that I ever call my brother by his name, he's always been 'Dumbo', 'Stupid', 'Feo', 'el Cholo', 'Pishishis'(I don't even know where in the world I got that particular nickname ), among others. Fortunately, he doesn't mind that much. Another, one of his friends, they've been friends since they were in kindergarten, I've always called 'Don Chuy'. I would also pick random names for people I saw on the street.

Please, call me Jocund

I agree that America can be a very formal place. All these "sirs" coming at you like a honours list. "Would you like fries with that sir?" "Would you like tickets to for To Your Thighs Only sir?" I personally don't like it when I'm addressed as ma'am by some spotty supermarket worker.

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If it is someone I am just introduced to, I am VERY unlikely to remember their name...
If it is someone I am on casual terms with..I am likely to put Mr. In front of their first name..but not out of formality...just silliness...I call my main partner Mr. Flakey...
our friend is Mr. Grubbs..or Mr. Steve...and so on...

I call them by their name.

I usually call the middle-aged and the elderly by their surnames, with either Mr. or Mrs. prefixed. People my own age and younger I usually address with their christian names. As for myself, I like to be referred to by my christian name by all people, except in very formal circumstances (which I encounter almost never).

It depend on what mode I am addressed as
or how they call themselfs.

If they intro themself as Mr or Mrs Cushagan for
example, I introduce myself as Mr. Tiger.

If they intro themself as Jim I intro myself
as George.

No real names were used here that I am ware of,
its examples only.

I found I am not able to cross over, if tey
want me to call them one thing, it must be
in the same mode as what they call me otherwise
I get confused and I cannot maintain.

I almost never address people by their names or by a title, unless I am sending an email to them or responding to a screen name, and I even do those rarely.

If I am trying to get someone's attention I try to get close enough to them so that they notice me, and if that's not possible then I will yell their name. I don't want to say people's names, but I don't know another reliable way to get their attention.

I rarely ever call anyone from their user name or whatnot online. I am really smart with names, but in my Stickam chat room (a social networking site for webcam users) if I don't know the person by their username, i just say Hi there or Hi so and so. But also, the people who I remember have made the biggest impact on me as far as friendship goes. So, if I know your name but you haven't been a good friend I just am like whatever. And when in real life, which im also good with names, if I don't remember someone by their name I'm just like "hey you."