OMG My meltdowns are so embarassing for me :-(

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I've just had the worst meltdown So embarrassing and snuck up on me. I wish I could control them by taking a deep breath or something but I never remember to do so.

......We have this cardboard box in the boot (trunk) of our car which we use to carry things such as our toolkit and some extra oil and things. It was getting old and shabby so we went to the store today and bought one that is made of that hard fabric and it's got a lid on it. It's really great and got all the compartments in it. I will like using it.

We brought it home and hubby opened it up and straight away put all the new stuff in it and threw the old box away. Sorted through it all and left some things out and put different things in there as well. Any NT person would have done this I suppose.

I didn't expect him to do it straight away though Normally when I buy things, I like to just look at them for a couple of days and get used to them before using them. Now as it stands, there is no trace of the old box or how it used to be. The entire boot (trunk) of our car looks completely different to how it used to look.

I was helping with the transition, as we were cleaning our whole car out at the same time and then all of a sudden, I felt awful, started crying and carrying on. My goodness, it was so embarrassing to be acting that way over a silly thing like the way our car is arranged.

I wish wish wish I could learn to do something when I feel this way instead of having a meltdown. I want to learn to take a breath before I start or something but I always forget and have the meltdown instead. Then I end up feeling terribly embarassed

My meltdowns are only embarrassing if they are in public. If I have them with my husband or family, I don't get embarrassed.

I have them too. I know what you mean.

Same here. I don't think about them when they
are happening, but if it is awhile later, and it
is at my favourite restaurant, I know the owner
so he understands that it was abad customer that
caused me to tantrum and throw the sauce on that
one guy who was mean to me and madem e throw
saucs on him and bonk the bowl aginst his head
because he poked me because I wood not look
at him.

The owner kicked him out because he just comes
in and does not buy much of anything and that day
I guess owner got mad at the guy for making me
tantrum/meltdown and kicked him out, he even ask
me if I'm ok and said I did not have to pay but
I said "no I came here for a long time, I enjoy
your food, its Not
Your fault HE was being a terrorist." and I insisted
on paying full price, so owner gave me a free sweet,
I can't argue with that. I told him Do Not Apologise
for something that is not your fault, I said blame the
bad customer, even some of the other customers there
agreed and said the bad customer was wrong and should
not have bent the seat over and made me react and
kick it because it bent into my back and made me
kick it.

We still go to that restaurant and the owner said he
is glad I still come back, I told him I cannot let one
stupid bad customer stop me from it, even if it caused
me to tantrum, it was embaressing, but at least the
owner knows us and welscomes us there any time, he
knows I am this way and it is the way I react.
He is a good man with a good honest business
who makes good food.

I have been very embarrassed by the ones that have happened in public.
My partner is very used to my meltdowns though...

I am also not fond of the meltdowns that take place in my own home but in front of other people. I do not seem to have the tact to avoid having them happen....

I know the feeling; I hate throwing old stuff away, especially if it's being replaced.

If you don't want to melt down in public, maybe you could dash inside and lock yourself in the bathroom until you feel better?

This is why I have trouble holding down a job and have a job coach. I have had some spectacular and embarrassing public meltdowns.

I once put my head through a wall during a meltdown.

Are you scared of what others will think of you when / after you have a meltdown? We cannot control how others judge us. If it happens again, explain to people what happened and how / why. And don't take it too seriously, even if you have to laugh it off. You know you're not yourself when it happens, that you have no control and didn't want it to happen.