I wish my family supported me more!! !! !

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I'm sitting here in tears!! !! !! One issue I have (that I've read some other Aspies have) is to focus on small interest for example you can't wait to see a new movie or buy a product or whatever!! I heard about the show The Big Bang Theory and wanted the Season 1&2 DVDs and wouldn't you know Best Buy has them on sale this week. I call and finally reach a local one and they had them I went to tell dad and he snapped at me he didn't want to hear it. SHEESH! I'm so confused and lost if I try to be myself (special interest either long such as playing a videogame or small really want to buy DVD's) it's an ISSUE!! !! It seems EVERYTHING I do upsets them!! ! Sorry for venting it just makes me feel better. Thanks for listening (I hope later on in life I can find a friend/boyfriend that's understanding of my AS and issues and doesn't MIND my different interest no matter how out there!! !! !! !!) (Because if it wasn't a DVD or videogames it'd be writing research papers in College) So NO MATTER WHAT my interest ARE AN ISSUE!! !! !! !! !! !

cheer up. just pretend im your boyfriend, do you feel any better? what you need is to make maor money so you can buy video games, dvds and anything electronic you want without your parents upsetting you. if you figure that one out im shure this will no longer be a problem for you

I dunno, it sounds more like zelda's dad was getting mad at just being asked, instead of saying "no" and leaving it at that. You'd think he could be a little more polite about it. Either that or he was having a really bad day at the time or something.

Can you earn the money on your own?

What was your dad doing when you asked him? I can get snappish if people ask me to do things for them when I obviously have my hands full doing something else, like cooking dinner or scrubbing the floor. It makes me cranky, and I'm not likely to be "supportive" at those times.

Oh I have the money that's not a concern. He was actually busy and he hates my behavior ways of obsessive over small stuff (I can't wait to see a movie (so that's all I talk about) OR buy a new item (DVD/Videogame etc. all I talk about until I buy it.) I do this for everything it seems and he hates the behavior I'd call it having small interest. He does get snappy sometimes which I hate. I do feel better now.

You're not going to want to hear this but you need to get your own place. All you do is come here & complain about your family, how difficult your life is, how no one understands and how easy it is for you to have meltdowns. I'm suspecting that you are very difficult & draining to be around. Dramarama all the time. If your family loses patience with you at times who could blame them.

Make it easier on everyone. Get a job & move into your own place. It will be better for you as well because your family won't be bugging you all the time. You need your own space. You're an adult.

I've had a few issues like that, until I've moved out. I can now indulge and roll around in my special interests, all I want. I can go around town, looking like The Kinks did from 64 to 68, and I don't have to answer to anyone. Independence is sweet.

Moving out changes the problems rather than fix them, there's a whole ton of things your family will be doing for you you likely won't appreciate until you're not there.

I try to remember that i break every single rule everyone else has learnt about people, so it's no wonder others, even when they're trying, don't respond based on me and my needs.

Not much of a fix or answer but maybe something to try help understand.

Personally in that situation i'd likely download it, but that's not something that should be encouraged or is even safe or a good idea in the current climate.

I agree. Learn about torrenting or how to find direct downloads.

If you simply download the show it won't cost you any money, leaving the house, etc.

I went ahead and bought the DVD's I like the idea of moving out. I'm sorry if my complaining of family is a problem it's IMO nice to mention my issues and hear others views. Thanks.

Gotta agree with this.

Being difficalt to be around is an aspie trait, even if it's not in the diagnostic manual. Of course she's difficult to be around, of course her parents struggle and lose patience. That doesn't mean she should move out and go isolate herself so she's not causing anyone any problems.

This forum is different things to different people, for some it's a chance to go into a soundproof room and scream, or in other words "dramarama" about the things that are bothering you without having to worry about upsetting or putting on RL people that matter.

Feel free to carry on moaning if it helps and feel free to give people the standard forum responce for threads they don't like.

Right now all we hear about is how crappy her parents are and how little they understand her. Perhaps she does need a little dose of hard reality to see how much they really do for her. If she thinks it stinks having her parents harp after her I suspect she wouldn't think her parents were so bad if she had to pay $600 a month rent + food + car/car insurance + have to work some crappy minimum wage job all week to pay for it instead of watching her Big Bang Theory dvds.

I appreciate life can be difficult at times. But if the main source of her trama (which it seems to be by what she posts) is her parents then[i] move out[/i] already.

Idiot...this place is for discussion and SUPPORT!

Granted all the above may well be true, but i consider forums as seperate to reality and therefore just becuase she's ranting here, it doesn't mean she isn't appreciative. I don't know about anyone else but often get fed up of being accepting and rational and balancing things out, and realising my difficulties are mine and everything else and i just want to b***h about something. This is the perfect place for it.

While i accept it's possible/likely to happen, i hope to come here for either support or constructive/usefull/interesting discussion, not yet another place where i get told the realities of life.

Agreed.