Wondering - my wife and I - both frequently identified by the world at large as misfits, and we certainly feel we are - have some similar traits, but also a number of differences. Does anybody have any ideas on where her profile belongs?
Both of us:
prefer solitude, dislike physical contact, are unclear on how we affect others and have difficulty reeading their thoughts and intentions, have our own words and intentions frequently misunderstood, have high [usually unfulfilled] expectations of our friends, are stressed by emotion, avoid eye contact, put a high value on honesty and tend to interpret words literally, have a sense of superiority [though aware of wherewe fall short], are somewhat inflexible and engage in bodyrocking and other repetitive behaviors, and are resistant to peer pressure.
I am also rather secretive and disinclined to ask questions, where she is neither.
She is more reactive and affected by sensory input than I am.
In three areas we are complementary:
I have special interests in things, constantly making lists and classifying.
She has special ambitions involving people and action, constantly devising projects.
I have limited empathy and tend to withdraw from personal involvement.
She has heightened empathy and tends to get involved even though it hurts.
I tend to blame situations and other people more than myself.
She tends to blame herself more than anything outside.
Is any of this familiar? Your input would be greatly appreciated.
01 Feb 2010, 1:13 am
