calling all contented people with an ASD

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Most of the time yes. I am fine where I live but I would like a job. I would not take a cure or else I wouldn't be me anymore. I am lucky to have a wonderful guy who understands me 95% of the time. He keeps me grounded.

Once I saw my life through the lens of AS, everything made sense. Once I was able to accept this explanation, I was able to accept myself for the first time in 30 years. It was freeing.

Do I want a cure? No. I could do without the bad side of NT existence, especially the kind that involves mind games and unwritten rules. With me, what you see is what you get.

Sure.

I mean, I get to have fun with my interest, among other things.

Sure, I don't work, I don't know anyone in person (peers), don't drive, need a carer, and attending classes makes me want to pull my eyes out and deafen myself, but I haven't known any different.

I am always happy to respond to questions like these. I am very happy with myself with my autism. Sure, my life is eccentric and quite different from those around me, but I love it that way. At 45 years of age, my life has been made fun and enjoyable because of my special intense interests. I have learned to accept my challenges (sensory issues, social awkwardness, etc.) as a part of my being and accept them willingly---because they are a part of the autism that has gifted me. I would definitely refuse a cure for autism---I love my autism. I have learned music because of my autism. I am an autistic savant in music (skills/talent savant). Before my official diagnosis as an adult, I used to wonder why I was the way I was. After the diagnosis, my life made sense. So self-acceptance comes naturally now---it is autism that makes me the way I am. I gladly accept it. I accept autism because the things in my life that I enjoy (besides family) are a result of autism. It has always been a part of me. If autism were not a part of me, then I would not be me---I would be some other personality/person---no longer the glider18 that is me.

I definitely believe that the way I am is the best way to be for me. I consider my tendency to have strong interests to be one of my greatest strengths, and if I weren't autistic, I probably wouldn't have it.

I would love to cure the problems I have with AS, the social interaction and Eye contact. But I enjoy the obsessions and the way that I don't need human comapanions to be happy.

So, a customized cure would be nice. Keep the good and get rid of the bad,

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ASPire to the best one can be.

These replies are awesome, as are the people who posted them. I am going to print out this thread and keep it on my nightstand and read it when I get down on myself. I hope others will benefit from this thread as well.

Thanks so much!! !

My life could be better, but for the most part I'm happy with what I've got. I don't consider being an Aspie a curse, I just accept it as a part of me, no more no less.

Someone recently said to me that a "positive approach" to life is worthless. I disagree wholeheartedly.
I work at a positive approach - spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically and I reap the benefits and the rewards.
Life gets REALLY hard sometimes - usually when i have too much to do with other people because it is exhausting and confusing to me - but other than that, life can be ok.

I am very encouraged when I read positive threads because they help me to challenge the deep-set negativity I have in me (which if left unchecked, turns into cynicism, bitterness and loathing of self and others.) I have a long history of negativity and depression as well as AS and I slumped a bit into it again recently, online with a couple of people. I don't like seeing this happen in myself and when i realise, i work to change the circumstances and the issues that are leading to the negative mindset.

But it is a new day and there is plenty to live for, be grateful for and there is plenty for me to enjoy.

Life for me is high-maintenance. But it is worth it.