"Can't get a word in!"......

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Ever been told that, or am I the only one.......

For years I have been SO mindful of listening, of making the other person feel VALIDATED and IMPORTANT......which is crucial sometimes.......but so intensely tiring and boring and just downright painful.......but I do it because it is POLITE!

So, to give myself a break, I shut the cognition off and just be myself........and get told by my mother "I couldn't get a word in edgewise/edgeways(whatever it is) in that whole conversation." Like I was being rude......when I was just following my brain.

I felt devestated......

Mics

*hugs*

Don't mind her ignorant comment. You know you were right.

Sometimes it's the only way we can speak, if we just monologue and not let the other person in. I mean if you didn't she'll probably say 'oh you don't say much?' Usually in conversation I can't get a word in unless I interrupt someone. So what will she prefer: you speak too little or too much (and be seen as rude)?

On switch....or ......OFF switch. No mid range.

I say nothing or barrage people with information.
I can pretend a bit of one on one small talk - but I HATE having to do so.

It is very difficult, and extremely boring, to engage in small talk. I can do it for a few minutes, but soon feel like running away, screaming! It is a very unnatural activity for me, and I literally start to feel like I can't breathe, if I don't fully talk the way that I want to.

Ugh, hang in there When your brain turns off like that, the best thing to do is just escape the conversation.

People have been known to complain, and yes, I can ramble on if nobody else is talking.

But - leave us be fair - how often do I stand trying to find a space to insert one short word into a conversation and CANNOT, so I give up and walk away?

I think on the whole I have swallowed more useful and interesting utterances than I have thwarted others. After all, I have to START talking before I can go nonstop.