League_Girl wrote:
I often don't know what to say or how to say things because I am always afraid of coming off wrong. Like today I called my cousin to tell her she didn't need to come anymore to watch my baby. I had in mind "I don't need you anymore" but I was afraid that would sound rude so I was thinking in my head how do I say it. So instead I said she doesn't need to come to watch my baby but if she wants she can still come over to see him and that we are going to order a pizza so she can maybe have some with us so she can spend time with him.
I think this a great way to let anyone know you "don't need them anymore."
By the way, how did your cousin respond?
I struggle with the same issues now and then. I just would love to be to the point, get it over and done with.... However, I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
So, I often end up telling someone that I am grateful that they helped me out but that I need to start doing it on my own (which tells them more or less that they are 'not a problem' ...)
And for the last time they do this something for me, I will make it special (like you with the pizza) and give them a (small) gift or invite them to dinner.... as a thank you. I think people always appreciate thank yous