Lene wrote:
I think most people are pretty selfish. NTs are better actors though.
I agree with Lene quite a bit. Although one can make the argument that we see everything subjectively, that should not make us any more selfish than the next person. It just causes all experiences to be colored by our own perception.
NTs do cover their selfishness far better in the same way that they can do a better job of deception. We tend to be sometimes ridiculously truthful and so we are just as honest about our selfishness as anything else. But we are also more honest about our self
lessness, meaning that we don't tend to expect a public pat on the back for it.
Personal example: A few years ago I won a drawing at a company event. The first prize was a really great camcorder. I already had one and I thought it would be wrong for me to accept it, even if I could have sold it. I just did not go up to claim it and they drew again. I figured someone else could have it who really wanted it. That's certainly not selfishness.
I think autism is just responsible for my getting frustrated when my needs don't get met right away and to sometimes forget to express appreciation.
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