what you hear is what you get

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ever had people not take the exact simple barebones of what you say and try to read in between the lines, change or add meaning to it? It fusterates me, especially as when what they get turns out wrong they come back to me, which is a good reason for me speaking that way so there are no misunderstangs so I dont have to deal with that person afgain, or at least I can limit the encounters

That happens to me, quite a bit. I'll tell a person, something like it is. It really irritates me, when that person, usually an Nt female asks, "Are you serious?" Yes, I am serious, or else I wouldn't have said it, in the first place.

exatcly, I also hateit when they say you must be kidding..or..really? As if my answaer was less so i need to give it twice to make it complete

This happens to me a lot but I tend to speak in sayings of wisdom and the saddest/funniest is when people take it literally.

communication via any human language is fraught with pitfalls. people's own minds get in the way of the clear reception of messages from other folk. even if one speaks monosylabalistically, there can be problems, such as what ex-president clinton endured over the manifold meanings of the word "is."

Ugh yeah, my mum does this to me all the time, and some other people do too. No wonder I rather not speak to people.

It pisses me off. At least my husband takes my words in exact but sometimes he will misread me when I speak. Like one time I said he left crumbs on the counter and I wipe them off. He gets up to do it anyway and sees I have gotten it. I never told him to wipe them up or else I would have said so. But he told me what I said implies for him to do it. I told him I did not mean that or else I would have told him to wipe them up. But he told me that's what it means to NTs.

Yes, it definitely happens to me. It even happens online. I had to email the caseworker for Section 8 (a government agency that helps low income people pay rent) the other day about me & my mom trying to find a place to move & she completely misread what I wrote, even though it was in plain writing right in front of her. It's bad enough when someone takes what I have verbally said out of context, but when they do it to something that's very clearly written, it's a million times worse because it plainly stated exactly what I meant & she added things to it that I never even said.

i feel the same as you. i hate people misinterpret me, especially if they are trying to be clever.

Yes that's happened to me. I used to get quite angry about it with my first serious girlfriend who did that a lot. It's a long time ago but I can remember saying "why can't you just take me literally?"

What I hate about it is that I can't seem to just come out with an objective bit of information without people thinking I'm personally in league with whatever pressure group that bit of info might seem to support.

On the other hand, I've learned to read between lines myself to some extent, and it's often useful in decyphering some of the things I've heard from (presumably) NTs. I wish I'd known about that when a girl I asked out in 1968 had said "perhaps some other time?" - I thought I was still in with a chance.

It seems like when I stick up for my friends or defend them, people think I want them to like them because they are my friends. Aspies did this to me so even they put words in my mouth. I just do comebacks like "Where did I say ....?"
God it's annoying when words get put in my mouth.