Trouble with hellos and byes

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I don't know if this is a common trait among people on the autism spectrum but it is a difficulty I've always had. I find saying hello to people when I first see them then saying bye to them when I'm leaving really hard. I know that I'm supposed to do this and its bad manners if I don't but I find it pretty unnatural and weird and never know exactly when to do it. I prefer to skip the greeting BS when I can what I do with friends at college is I just walk up to them and I'm there and when I'm leaving I like to just walk off without saying anything. This kinda thing seems to be acceptable for people my age but I can see as I'm growing up its becoming less and less acceptable. Does everyone including NT's has trouble with this, is it an autism thing or is it just an oddity of my own?

I don't have a hard time, saying hello, but when it comes time to say goodbye, I become very tearful.

I have some problems, because these phrases in Polish are hard to speak. So I don't like to speak them. And when I must, I always pray I could do it correctly
Fortunately, it's only formal form. When I meet f.e. friends from school, I can say Hey! and it's all right.

Nevermind pronunciation, sometimes I don't want to speak and it's hard time. I force myself, because it's better for me.

I have a hard time with it as well, especially when I walk into the lobby at work and everyone starts saying hello, or they get upset if I don't say goodbye even though they see me clock out. I don't see the point, but moreover, it's one of those moments where I find it easier to motion (in this case, wave) than to talk. So I do. And the people who are still offended are jerks.

hellos...well, I often try and duck people I know, so I don't have to start up a conversation. But once I catch their attention, hello is inevitable, and isn't hard.


Goodbyes...if anyone ever figures out a non-awkward way to end a conversation, let me know. Until then, I'll stick with "well, that's that. See you later!"

I find those painfully long goodbuys
hard work. when I say goodbuy, I mean
it, but others non-autistic folk
seem to think it is an invitation
to chit-chat about things. I find this rude
and hard to take as I am v routined
and measure my time very discerningly.

I understand this is considered polite
etiquete, but to me it is a rather silly
affair.

I often have trouble with greetings. Knowing the right way to greet people can be a big struggle for me, and for some reason sometimes my voice goes really quiet when saying "hello" or "goodbye."

Same problem here, hello/goodbye both seem uncomfortable for me. I am ok when someone comes and says hello specifically to me, then I can usually respond all right, but I have had many uncomfortable encounters when I could not work out how to greet someone properly. Goodbye actually tends to be more of a problem for me, conversations often end up with awkward silences when it is obvious it is over, I just don't know how to officially end it.

I'm usually the one being greeted, and whenever someone greets me I either say "hey" or I wave at them. Every now and then I'll greet somebody first. It depends on how I feel at the particular moment.

I don't have trouble saying "hello" or "good morning", but I've always had trouble saying "goodbye" or "goodnight". I don't like to be the first one to end it, so it becomes a long, drawn out process where I say it multiple times and, if they're family, hug and kiss them multiple times. It's like I'm afraid I'll never see them again, and I want them to know how much I love them.

But I've been teaching myself that quick goodbyes are better, so I limit myself to saying goodbye three times and hugging/kissing once.