I am fat

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Why is your mom threatening to cancel your gym membership? It is good for you, so I cant think of a good reason besides finances.

Anyway- you can run or walk anywhere and do push-ups, crunches, jump rope, etc. anywhere, so the loss of the membership may not be a total loss! Enjoy the outdoors!

And you are not fat- I was expecting to see a lot more of you than that!

I get this way myself- feeling down on myself and thinking I am fat when I am not even in the red zone for my height. The important thing is to be healthy, get your exercise and rest and eat good foods that give you energy and keep up your protein to build muscle and help concentration.

I hope you feel better soon!

To be honest, after seeing your picture, I don't think you're fat at all. You look about average. I don't think any potential employer or date would care that you have a bit of a belly, just like every other guy walking out there who's older than 20. In fact I myself wouldn't have dated a man who's any skinnier. I don't like scrawny guys. Somehow I don't trust them.

your actually not fat have some faith in yourself if you think your really that fat and you mum is about to cancel gym membership why not ask her to buy an exercise machine or wieghts to do home workouts

I'm not pulling your chain when I say this - I think you're really cute. Then again, my husband weighs about 270.

I suggest making a rational case to your mom about how good a gym membership is for you and how it would be counterproductive to punish you by taking it away (if that is her motivation.)

If you're not seeing the results you were hoping for at the gym, try talking to the people who work there or reading up on how to make workouts more effective.

One last thing. A lot of people will tell you that working out decreases your appetite. More recent studies have shown this is crap. Working out can really make you hungry. I work out every day and I have to control what I eat too, or I gain weight. (I've lost 80+ pounds over the last few years but it piles on again in no time if I'm not careful.) Try to find the amount of workout that will benefit you without making you overeat (if you do.)

But seriously, I agree with everyone else here. You may be heavier than the media standard, but no way are you so heavy that it needs to be a serious concern.

You're overthinking this, you should see how obese some people are, you'd feel slim next to them. At least that's how i felt when i visited New Jersey a few years ago .

I feel pretty slim and attractive, compared to the 300+lb unkempt women around the area, where I live.

I appreciate all the support.

I suppose I just get frustrated at times... I have been unemployed for close to a year and a half and it's difficult. I've always worked out, but recently I've began a real push... the past two weeks I've been doing more intense workouts (2+ hours of cardio on ellipticals and treadmills followed by at least an hour of weight training) plus a restricted diet (basically cabbage, onions, fish, and chicken breasts)...

I have a nice education... wonderful family... a good car... my own apartment...

Sometimes as I sit on my futon watching the Maury show and watch these poor slobs parade across the stage arguing about money and babies I think to myself... gee, they're actually pretty lucky. Sure those women DNA test 50 guys she slept with who claim to hate her as much as she claims to hate them... but in the end I know she wouldn't spend more than 10 minutes in a room with me before getting bored.

I guess I'm just really boring as a person and I need to get a better body to compensate.

Getting a better body does not compensate for being boring. My 'special interest" for a time was a kind of dance and I practiced every single day for many hours, often in the double digits. I got very slim and toned, yet remained "busty" and kept the well rounded hips. I certainly attracted more intial attention than when I had a more average shape, but only a minority retained interest when I proved to be "boring", and that minority are not the kind of people that it is beneficial or worthwhile to have interested in you.

You need to make yourself more interesting to others by making yourself more interesting. Your body will only hold the attention of anyone whose attention is worthwhile, for a very short period of time, somewhere in the region of minutes or less.

People find themselves interesting, so maybe it would help if you learned some techniques to get people talking fluidly and contentedly about themselves to you.

I posted another long one only to have it null and void. Bollocks. But I realized the brunt of it was simply this. PERSIST! PERSIST! PERSIST! Use common sense and PERSIST. You will have results. I read a few of preceeding posts and none considered you 'fat' anyhow. Noone here considers me fat either but I know I still have a way to go to truly fit. Now when I'm 50 I may not give a, but until then. To avoid effort what is this pic everyone is seeing?