I've been living in a fantasy world

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I came across this post in my research about AS and I feel like I can sorta relate to this person to a degree.

IDK If I have a problem on the autistic spectrum, the schitzo spectrum, a personality disorder and in all my research I still dont understand what these things trully mean and how they even differ. But I, my brother and mother are all socially inept, completely and the other day I heard my uncle tell ym mother that she lives in a fantasy world and not in reality.

I am completely sane enough to pass Highschool (as in, not Special ED) but I do feel like I spend alot of my time in my own head and it makes it difficult for me to relate with or even empathise with others. I always felt like I can relate with the main character from scrubs (J.D) in that I spend a 1/3rd of my day daydreaming. I dont see any of these day dreams visually or ever believe that they are real but I believe the fact that I have them has crimpled my ability to "Mesh with other's and makes me extremely socially awkward.

Specificlly I fantasise that im a super hero from dragon ball Z. Saving lives and being loved and respected. I hear many serial killers have fantasies of granduer. But I trully feel that i never wished bad on anyone. I have spent alot of my life in pain because of my deppression, but I wish everyone I encounter in life well, even if they treat me poorly because I understand that the reason they treat me bad is because they dont udnerstand me and see my difference as a problem.

I just wanted to know how many of you can relate to this.

I do that to as long as it's not affect what you do in let's say school or the work place then don't worry about that. As making you socially awkward that's kind of what happens. You just have to try to get it under contorl. It's hard heck I have a hard time doing it but it's better then being out with someone and being in you're own fantasy world when they are talking to you.

I live in my own fantasy world too.

In it, I'm a superhero whose awesomeness is so off the charts that it makes me normal again.

Its called reality.

No, but really, there is a huge difference between imagining and wanting to be a fantasy character and living the fantasy to the exclusion of reality.

I've lived in a fantasy world, imagining that I was Sid, from Flushed Away, for two and a half years, until just this past September. Sid was all that I thought that I had hope of being. A dirty, incontinent sewer rat. I came out of that fantasy in Late September, Early October. I found myself a good role model, and I haven't gone back to that fantasy. I hope that I never go back to that fantasy.

I've always been in a fantasy world. As a child I pretended to be animals, mostly horses. Then I'd pretend I was the heroine of novels, or some greek goddess, or a gnome, and I'd pretend everyone else was to but didn't tell anyone. I had secret friends and secret lovers until my mid-teens. After that I've pretended to live in other cultures, which I find more appealing for one reason or another. I still catch myself doing that sometimes, but it's typically only expressed in my clothing.

Basically, I'd read a book or watch a movie and become so consumed by it that I lived and breathed a fantasy every wake moment until the next one came along. The real world, real people and real interaction, always seemes so boring and empty to me. It still does sometimes, but through reading about buddhism (especially zen) I've found beauty in the details of the world. I watch the colours and shimmer and shapes around me and try to be right in the moment, like when I was little. But I'm still "in my own world" because I rarely share it with anyone. Whenever I try people just don't seem to get it so there's really no point anyway.

I read this same post on revolution health a while back and was stunned by it. There is a certain fantasy component to my stimming that is just as vivid as this person describes. I am basically making up new story lines all the time. I know the difference between reality and fantasy, of course. I have college degrees, and I am raising my daughter, helping out my mom. You can live in a fantasy world and still be a responsible adult.

I have been doing this all my life, and I kept it to myself because I was embarrassed, as an adult, to be doing something I thought a child was more likely to do. But I am not sure NT kids do this, LOL.

Wow... I had no idea other people did this. I love my little fantasy world.. I put on music and play out some story in my head and dance around.. it's very relaxing, and a nice break from the world and from stress and whatever else is going on in my life.. plus makes the occasional good story or fanfiction. As long as it's not interfering with your life or seems more real than reality, I don't see anything wrong with it.

this is why I said I related to data and living on the holodeck in the other thread. yes. I do it. I think we have overactive brains and daily life is mundane even for the most unimaginative people. I think I have had such problems with dyspraxia and being awkward in general that fantasy allows me escape from those things.

It would be nice if there was a term for this. Schitzotypal seems to represent magical thinking, but also beliefes that what you are fantasising about is true. I never thought my dailly fantasies were real. like in the show scrubs I can tune in and out of them. I just know that it's hampering my social skills.

I always seem to socialise with antisocial kids. The very quiet kids with a very stern personality. I think the reason for this is because I can talk, talk, talk about my s**t and they judst consume it and advise me about what's real. It'd be nice, if I can eventually find a wife in my life who can fill that gap.

A career would be even nicer though.

I've always been told that as well and sometimes I wonder if it is true. As a child I was the fantasy type. Some phycologists even thought I was phycotic because I was so imaginative. Silly phycologists. When the bullying at school continued to get worse, I just retreated further and further into a fantasy world. When I found out that people really did want to kill themselves after watching Avatar and knowing they could never live with the Navi (blue, cat people) I remember I felt the same way as a child because I could never live with the Lion King characters. As older, I learned how to turn my fantasy world into a reality. My parents tell me I am living in one becuase I want to be a vet and they think that is impossible for someone with learning disabilities. They keep telling me I need a "plan B" but they won't let me have plan a because they constantly harp and neg about having a Plan B and NEVER encorage my plan A.

I've lived in a fantasy world my whole life. I just turn on my music and start pacing or running around, and I'm completely lost in my own world. Typically, the more bored or stressed out I am, the further I retreat into my world.

My favorite thing to imagine is that I'm friends with/related to my favorite movie characters, and we go on adventures together.

I have to say this to I thought I was the only one that ever did this. I think I have better contorl of it then I did as a kid. The only time I have go there is when I'm by myself at work doing something I already know how to do. It never messes with my work so I just go with it. I do it a bit when I'm driving though and I need to contorl that even better.

I fear I will one time go so deep that something bad will happen when I'm driving.

I do this too, but it doesn't intrude into my life. I can turn it on and off whenever I want. I'm not a character in my stories, it's more like a long-running soap opera, with the same characters and storylines lasting for years. And they are regular people (maybe a bit unrealistic), not fantasy-type characters. To me it just relieves boredom, and it's really good for anxiety.

I've been doing this my whole life, since I was about 6 or 7. For me it's not a problem, but a very useful coping style. I don't ever tell anyone about it, because the stories wouldn't really stand up as actual, coherent stories, but that's one of the nice things about it: they don't have to.

I think that as long as you are not confused between fantasy and reality, it's okay. And if it intrudes into your life when it's inopportune, you could try some strategies to focus, like snapping a rubber band around your wrist?

I think this is a very interesting topic. I have never known that other people did this.