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Do any of these traits apply to you ?
Most of these traits apply to me 46%  46%  [ 27 ]
Some of these traits apply to me 51%  51%  [ 30 ]
None of these traits apply to me 3%  3%  [ 2 ]
Total votes : 59

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26 Apr 2010, 5:29 pm

1. Autistic People Rarely Lie
We all claim to value the truth, but almost all of us tell little white lies. All, that is, except people on the autism spectrum. To them, truth is truth -- and a good word from a person on the spectrum is the real deal.

2. People on the Autism Spectrum Live in the Moment
How often do typical people fail to notice what's in front of their eyes because they're distracted by social cues or random chitchat? People on the autism spectrum truely attend to the sensory input that surrounds them. Many have achieved the ideal of mindfulness.

3. People with Autism Rarely Judge Others
Who's fatter? Richer? Smarter? For people on the autism spectrum, these distinctions hold much less importance than for typical folks. In fact, people on the spectrum often see through such surface appearances to discover the real person.

4. Autistic People are Passionate
Of course, not all autistic people are alike. But many are truly passionate about the things, ideas and people in their lives. How many "typical" people can say the same?

5. People with Autism Are Not Tied to Social Expectations
If you've ever bought a car, played a game or joined a club to fit in, you know how hard it is to be true to yourself. But for people with autism, social expectations can be honestly irrelevant. What matters is true liking, interest and passion -- not keeping up with the latest social demands.

6. People with Autism Have Terrific Memories
How often do typical people forget directions, or fail to take note of colors, names, and other details? People on the autism spectrum are often much more tuned in to details. They may have a much better memory than their typical peers for all kind of critical details.

7. Autistic People Are Less Materialistic
Of course, this is not universally true -- but in general, people with autism are far less concerned with outward appearance than their typical peers. As a result, they worry less about brand names, hairstyles and other expensive but unimportant externals than most people do.

8. Autistic People Play Fewer Head Games
Who was that woman, and why were you looking at her? I know I TOLD you I didn't mind if you went out, but why did you believe me? Most autistic people don't play games like these -- and they assume that you won't either. It's a refreshing and wonderful change from the Peyton Place emotional roller coaster that mars too many typical relationships!

9. Autistic People Have Fewer Hidden Agendas
Most of the time, if a person on the autism spectrum tells you what he wants -- he is telling you what he wants. No need to beat around the bush, second guess, and hope you're reading between the lines!

Do any of these trait apply to you please answer!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!


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26 Apr 2010, 5:44 pm

All of these traits apply to me, as a person. :)


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26 Apr 2010, 5:50 pm

Only point 2 does not apply



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26 Apr 2010, 5:55 pm

These are over-idealized traits. Even many autistic people who think they apply don't necessarily apply. Rarely judge others? I wish. The autistic communities would be way less elitist if only that were true.


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26 Apr 2010, 6:18 pm

None of these are true.
My memory for sensory input is horrible.
My memory for anything written is very much better.
Not passionate, except about myself.
I judge others a lot, but mostly it is for jokes.
I am very materialistic, which is necessary when one does not get much pleasure from relationships.
Okay, one of these fits.
The 1st one.
I do tell people exactly how it is, because to me, avoiding getting caught saying something inappropriate is of less priority than getting the message across.



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26 Apr 2010, 6:32 pm

tolu wrote:
1. Autistic People Rarely Lie
We all claim to value the truth, but almost all of us tell little white lies. All, that is, except people on the autism spectrum. To them, truth is truth -- and a good word from a person on the spectrum is the real deal.

2. People on the Autism Spectrum Live in the Moment
How often do typical people fail to notice what's in front of their eyes because they're distracted by social cues or random chitchat? People on the autism spectrum truely attend to the sensory input that surrounds them. Many have achieved the ideal of mindfulness.

3. People with Autism Rarely Judge Others
Who's fatter? Richer? Smarter? For people on the autism spectrum, these distinctions hold much less importance than for typical folks. In fact, people on the spectrum often see through such surface appearances to discover the real person.

4. Autistic People are Passionate
Of course, not all autistic people are alike. But many are truly passionate about the things, ideas and people in their lives. How many "typical" people can say the same?

5. People with Autism Are Not Tied to Social Expectations
If you've ever bought a car, played a game or joined a club to fit in, you know how hard it is to be true to yourself. But for people with autism, social expectations can be honestly irrelevant. What matters is true liking, interest and passion -- not keeping up with the latest social demands.

6. People with Autism Have Terrific Memories
How often do typical people forget directions, or fail to take note of colors, names, and other details? People on the autism spectrum are often much more tuned in to details. They may have a much better memory than their typical peers for all kind of critical details.

7. Autistic People Are Less Materialistic
Of course, this is not universally true -- but in general, people with autism are far less concerned with outward appearance than their typical peers. As a result, they worry less about brand names, hairstyles and other expensive but unimportant externals than most people do.

8. Autistic People Play Fewer Head Games
Who was that woman, and why were you looking at her? I know I TOLD you I didn't mind if you went out, but why did you believe me? Most autistic people don't play games like these -- and they assume that you won't either. It's a refreshing and wonderful change from the Peyton Place emotional roller coaster that mars too many typical relationships!

9. Autistic People Have Fewer Hidden Agendas
Most of the time, if a person on the autism spectrum tells you what he wants -- he is telling you what he wants. No need to beat around the bush, second guess, and hope you're reading between the lines!

Do any of these trait apply to you please answer!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!


All of these apply to me.

1. I can't lie. Even if and when I"ve wanted to and in some instances told a white lie in order to be courteous and "nice", it's obvious. Like I've said before, I absolutely lack the deceptions gene.

2. This is very true for me. It has an amazing upside that NTs miss out on big time and have to work diligently at. On the downside, I can be so attuned to details that I miss out important social cues.

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Who's fatter? Richer? Smarter? For people on the autism spectrum, these distinctions hold much less importance than for typical folks. In fact, people on the spectrum often see through such surface appearances to discover the real person.


This one is a "very yes" and "partly no" answer. I don't judge (sometimes to my detriment, in the past) and I do see through people to a certain extent. I can see through artifice and surface appearance, in the general sense. However, when it comes to intent and manipulation, I can never see that coming.

4. Definitely. Again that one has it's good and bad sides too. Passionate can attain greatness. It can also become addictive.

5. ha that one's a no brainer.

6. The memory for details is certainly totally correct. My memory for social lessons sucks though.

7. Yes, this one is really true. Being concerned with outward appearance re: labels stems from needing to fulfill social roles, which I've never cared about. I wouldn't go so far as to say that I don't care how I look. I think that's an overstatement and stereotype. I am actually leaning toward finicky and obsessive about what I will and won't wear. It has nothing to do with social prestige however.

8. True. Period.

9. True.



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26 Apr 2010, 7:30 pm

Traits 4, 5, 7, 8 and 9 apply to me.

Traits 1, 2, 3, and 6 do not, unfortunately.



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26 Apr 2010, 8:00 pm

most, #3 is hard because its badly expressed, it is talking about comparisons (richer/fatter) then talks about that as 'judging' which doesn't make sense because to me judging is about actions (moral/immoral) not about what is visible or known about a person in the sense of appearance, wealth, etc. Autistics see and know the same things other people do, it's probably just not taken into account with us in the same way because there is a different (or no) agenda.



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26 Apr 2010, 8:56 pm

2. Kinda
3. I don't judge on appearances, but I am judgmental (personality thing, you know!)
Others. Yes, so I suppose it's me!! !

ursaminor wrote:
None of these are true.
I am very materialistic, which is necessary when one does not get much pleasure from relationships.


Interesting comment. I can understand the sentiment. My experience is totally opposite, I get a lot of pleasure out of relationships, I'm just not good at relationships, so don't have many good ones! But we are all different!



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26 Apr 2010, 9:11 pm

anbuend wrote:
These are over-idealized traits. Even many autistic people who think they apply don't necessarily apply. Rarely judge others? I wish. The autistic communities would be way less elitist if only that were true.


I agree. A "cookie-cutter" list of traits, at best. It's like saying all NT's are:

Liars
Always are in social herds
Not passionate
Etc, etc...

Going by your post since you've been here, I'm curious. Are you doing a thesis on Aspergers, or just researching for curiousity. If I'm going to be a participating lab rat, I usually like to know.


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26 Apr 2010, 9:24 pm

2. Yes and no, it's not exactly what I call living in the moment.

3. This is not true at all for me. Everyone has prejudice. I act somewhat harshly to people in general, but when I find out for a fact that someone is not a good person, THAT is how I remember and judge them.

5. All I ever wanted to be was more of myself!

7. Not really. I love to have things and study them. I suspect it ties into the OCD hording thing.

8. I play mind games... but I reserve the harsher ones for people that deserve them.


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26 Apr 2010, 9:24 pm

spooky13 wrote:

I agree. A "cookie-cutter" list of traits, at best. It's like saying all NT's are:

Liars
Always are in social herds
Not passionate
Etc, etc...

Going by your post since you've been here, I'm curious. Are you doing a thesis on Aspergers, or just researching for curiousity. If I'm going to be a participating lab rat, I usually like to know.


I am actually doing both if you want you can read my thesis on Autism and Aspergers, and no i am not researching for curiosity in fact quite the opposite also i would never think of people as lab rats as i find that highly unethical and degrading to human nature.



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26 Apr 2010, 10:20 pm

tolu wrote:
1. Autistic People Rarely Lie
We all claim to value the truth, but almost all of us tell little white lies. All, that is, except people on the autism spectrum. To them, truth is truth -- and a good word from a person on the spectrum is the real deal.

2. People on the Autism Spectrum Live in the Moment
How often do typical people fail to notice what's in front of their eyes because they're distracted by social cues or random chitchat? People on the autism spectrum truely attend to the sensory input that surrounds them. Many have achieved the ideal of mindfulness.

3. People with Autism Rarely Judge Others
Who's fatter? Richer? Smarter? For people on the autism spectrum, these distinctions hold much less importance than for typical folks. In fact, people on the spectrum often see through such surface appearances to discover the real person.

4. Autistic People are Passionate
Of course, not all autistic people are alike. But many are truly passionate about the things, ideas and people in their lives. How many "typical" people can say the same?

5. People with Autism Are Not Tied to Social Expectations
If you've ever bought a car, played a game or joined a club to fit in, you know how hard it is to be true to yourself. But for people with autism, social expectations can be honestly irrelevant. What matters is true liking, interest and passion -- not keeping up with the latest social demands.

6. People with Autism Have Terrific Memories
How often do typical people forget directions, or fail to take note of colors, names, and other details? People on the autism spectrum are often much more tuned in to details. They may have a much better memory than their typical peers for all kind of critical details.

7. Autistic People Are Less Materialistic
Of course, this is not universally true -- but in general, people with autism are far less concerned with outward appearance than their typical peers. As a result, they worry less about brand names, hairstyles and other expensive but unimportant externals than most people do.

8. Autistic People Play Fewer Head Games
Who was that woman, and why were you looking at her? I know I TOLD you I didn't mind if you went out, but why did you believe me? Most autistic people don't play games like these -- and they assume that you won't either. It's a refreshing and wonderful change from the Peyton Place emotional roller coaster that mars too many typical relationships!

9. Autistic People Have Fewer Hidden Agendas
Most of the time, if a person on the autism spectrum tells you what he wants -- he is telling you what he wants. No need to beat around the bush, second guess, and hope you're reading between the lines!

Do any of these trait apply to you please answer!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!
1. I lie a lot. I value knowing the truth, but I don't value sharing it lol.
2. Yes I live in the moment, but I don't understand why you define living in the moment as noticing your surroundings instead of social cues. If you're on top of what's happening socially, that could also be considered living in the moment.
3. Yes I judge people. Judging is a human trait...
4. Ohhh yeah, I'm the ambitious type.
5. I am, but not merely out of insecurity. I like the power that comes with being connected.
6. I remember things in a random and disorganized way, so I dunno if this is good or bad memory lol.
7. That stuff matters to me. I don't like looking like a slob, and I'm not trying to repel women lol
8. I f*** with people's heads if I need to, but I don't do it for it's own sake.
9. Well I'm pretty much trying to climb the social ladder as a prospect for women, parties, and weed so it's not something I say out loud...



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26 Apr 2010, 10:33 pm

1. Well, for the most part, I don't lie (but when i do, it's fairly obvious and I wince)
2. not sure
3. Well, on certain things, guilty, but the last sentence holds very true.
4. yes.
5. Pretty much.
6. not sure
7. well, it would be nice to have a trillion dollars (seriously, who doesn't privately wish they were trillionaires) however, on the whole, I'm not all that materialistic.
8. even if I wanted to, I don't think I'd be successful.
9. true



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26 Apr 2010, 10:49 pm

1. I basically never lie (I hesitate to say never because there's a chance that could be a lie, lol)
2. Nah...I'm always planning for the future
3. I really try not to and people say I'm extremely non-judgmental, but I think I am
4. I'm passionate but change interests a lot
5. I think this fits me, but I don't really understand what it's saying
6. Not me...but I also have some things that affect my memory not related to AS
7. This applies to me
8. I don't think I even know how to play head games, lol
9. Same here



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27 Apr 2010, 12:36 am

1. Lying is uncomfortable, and useless in my opinion.

2. I annoy people sometimes when I "pause" a conversation to point out a rare bird, or an interesting alignment of shadows on a wall.

3. I only make judgments if they are funny.

4. Life without passion is like cereal without milk, dry, crunchy, and much less enjoyable overall.

5. There are social expectations? Why didn't I get the memo?

6. I recall crying when Challenger blew up, saying to myself "what about the astronauts in there, why did that happen", the carpet at my grandmothers house was a green shag carpet at the time, I liked running my fingers through it.

7. Generic items with the same construction material/method/contents are always better, for they are more accurately priced. Paying for a brand is ridiculous.

8. If I want to play a game, I'll go get a PS3.

9. I mean what I say, and do my best to say it as clearly as possible, when you have a stutter, you value making yourself understood a bit more than normal.

They fit well.