Ever been wronged and found no one was on your side?

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I will never forget being bullied in high school and thought the teachers, counselors, etc. were on my side, only to find a chilly turnaround SUDDENLY.

Who knows what the bully said to the counselors. Who knows who they believed. Of course, there are two sides to every story. However, I clearly recall being followed around in high school and continually being called "fat ***", "whale" and "elephant". .

The school counselor seemed sympathetic at first but a week later I lost all that support without warning. Of course, I could still see the counselor but it was clear who she believed.

I will never forget the incident to this day. It has caused severe trust issues.

Have you ever felt supported by people, only to find that they suddenly withdrew that support and you were left out in the cold?

If so, how did it make you feel?

I rarely even get the support to lose it in the first place so this isn't a major issue for me as I have learned that you can't trust most people at all and only a very small minority up to a point

In any kind of social group people invariably end up siding with the most popular person, so that's never me! lol

You shouldn't take this type of stuff to heart as people can often be incredibly shallow and stupid in terms of who they decide to support and like so it's no bad judgement on yourself

You just have to learn to be self-sufficient so you can look out for yourself and then if/when
supportive, trustworthy people ever do come along, you need to recognise that they are,
befriend them and appreciate them - because you won't find many in this life that's for sure!

that's a big reason why i'm a hermit.

That's so true. Whether you are the victim or not often doesn't matter. If you are not popular, you won't get the support. That's part of the bullying. People will be on the side that will benefit them. There's no justice. It's just awful. I feel the world consists mostly of hypocrites and bul**it. I stopped caring about people in general because of that.

It's not all bad though - there are a few decent people out there

It's better to keep searching for them than give up altogether - that's my policy and also be open to offering friendship and support to others as it works both ways

i can not understand your question so my answer is "no".

My teachers were total dicks when I was in school. Honestly I think I intimidated them, it's not often you meet a six year old who's smarter than you! But I can't say there was nobody on my side.

EVERY SINGLE TIME!

I encountered a similar situation in Junior High. It was like the teachers suddenly saw the sky as red as they completely ignored and downplayed everything that happened. I thought I was going crazy until I realized it was a combination of three things: 1)all my teachers were new and feared for their jobs should they intervene, 2)there were FAR more bullies than victims (i.e. just little ol' me) and 3) the 'ringleaders' were' (and still are) master manipulators and can have you believing something absurd like I'm a KGB spy from Russia without breaking a sweat. Of course they all work in commission sales and are all highly successful.

I also had a supportive friend until he was forced to pick a side, as he was friends with a few bullies. He proceeded to trip me from behind and join the gang in making fun of my clumsiness. Yes, the amount of people I trust can be counted on one hand sad to say.

Actually, yes I have, and it caused the severe trust issues that I have today. I used to be part of a group of people who looked at paranormal things and assessed them, usually through means of the Bible. So, about 6 months into apparent "friendship" with some of these people, I find out that they considered my beliefs to be a "problem" and proceeded to try to discredit everything I said, regardless of truth (not just about paranormal stuff, even about their actions and words) and backspin everything back to me as if I was the one causing everything, even though I was only reacting because of their dishonesty and lies about the whole mess. At first, there was one person who I thought was on my side who was supposedly appalled at their actions against me, only to later find out the truth about her too. She in the end, stopped talking to me, and the reason she gave as to why was the biggest lie of them all.
Needless to say, I don't bother trusting anyone I meet anymore, because everyone is like that, lying even to the end, and no-one I meet deserves my trust until they've earned it.

Yes, that happens to me all the time

I got accused of betraying my ex-best friend by other people even though it was completely the other way around. How do I know it was the other way around? Well not only was it her idea to begin with, but she didn't mind it when she found out about it before everyone else. The betrayal comes from the fact that she never told anyone that it was her idea nor did she do anything to stop the false accusations or get people to apologize.

Yeah, pretty much. Been there, done that. Fifth grade the principal's daughter didn't like me... then later on I got fired because the manager's daughter didn't like me. What is it with me and messing with the bitchy relatives of people in power, anyway?

Anyway, I learned an important lesson: My value does not depend on the opinions of people who dislike me, especially if they dislike me because I won't kiss their butts and/or show them up by being a better and harder-working employee than they are.

Yeah, ever since a church elder on the selection committee interviewed me and then started a rumor that I was mentally ill, I really have not had many real friends in church at all.

Stupid Christians.

I learned very early on that I was on my own. First week of kindergarten, I told my mom the kids were making fun of me. She talked to the teacher, who said that was silly, of course they weren't, and my mom spanked me for lying. So from then on I figured it was best to just deal with it on my own.

If you ever have someone like a school counselor who is supposed to be listening turn on you suddenly and stop hearing you out, sometimes it could be because of advice or instruction they're getting from a colleague or higher-up, someone in a position of power.