Do you feel really proud of yourself for socialising well?

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I was just thinking, I always feel proud of myself for handling a social situation well, especially if I felt confident enough to actually initiate it myself.

For example, yesterday I went into a Vodafone shop and asked if I could have a go at a Nexus One. For an NT, it's pretty standard and easy to walk into a shop and ask for a demo of a phone, but I actually feel happy that I was able to go and do that without any problems. Of course, it's possible (maybe even probable) that I came off weird somehow, but the great thing about shop assistants is that they are paid to be nice to you, and they did that especially well since they thought I was considering the phone on a Vodafone contract

Anyone else feel proud of themselves after doing things like this?

Yeah I get proud of myself too and very excited when I have a social victory. On Friday I hung out with someone I have always wanted to speak to at college and we got on well and I had a load of fun talking even though there was a group of us. I was brimming with excitement and when I was in the toilets I was literally doing a dance and mouthing to myself "you're amazing, you're so cooool" and stuff like that. Well I had been waiting since November to finally meet this person.

Even if I handled something well socially, there is always thoughts nagging me, because my perception of doing well and the perceptions of others are not always in harmony with eachother. And furthermore I don't have the comfort of a diagnosis so if I handled something well its normal, and when I messed up, I failed.

I am proud sometimes when I stood up for myself.

I know the feeling . It's like a mental high.

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I'm very proud of myself, for doing really well, at my niece's 1st birthday party. I didn't say much, as usual but when I did talk, I did really well.

When I go to unofficial meeting, I'm proud. Yesterday I was invited to girls party, you know - talking, laughing and alcohol. I'm proud and I'll go and I'll pretend normal
I'm proud when I go to the concert or fest and I talk with some people. Or when I travel by train and I talk with unknown people. One day I met a girl in the train, she was going to Depeche Mode concert too. She didn't know the city, me too, and I had a map and GPS-inside, so we were walking and talking about DM, we also were in restaurant. She was impressed by my leading skills and I was proud that I can be so sweet and nice NT. She didn't know I'm not normal, I seemed to be helpful, nice and intelligent girl.

I'm always proud when I can socialise myself. I know it's good for my social skills and life in NT-world.

socializing for me usually leaves people miffed or at least confused.
i do not feel pride i think, but i feel an amount of happiness when someone seems to have fun with me for a short while.

for example: there is a girl in a cake shop where i go to buy cakes, and she is one of 2 employees there. she seems to understand that my apparent formality is not borne from malice or snobbery and i like her a lot. she understands that i am different and i am not being difficult on purpose and she thinks it is funny and entertaining.
the other cashier seems to be very short and unfriendly with me.

when anyone says "hi! how are you?" ,my stock response is either "fair to moderate" or "moderate to mild" or few other variants, and then i immediately get to the point of my visit without waiting to see what their response is.

the unfriendly cashier last week said "hi how are you" and i said "reasonable. 2 iced doughnuts and a vamilla slice thankyou", and the nice girl who was standing next to her started to laugh and i also started to laugh, and we looked at each other and there was a good feeling.

then the next time i went there, the nice girl served me but she did not ask how i was, but she said "fair to moderate?", and i said "no. moderate to mild", and she laughed and i said "you know don't you" and she said "of course i know! it's such a f*cking stupid question" and i said "and that's why i give such a f*cking stupid answer" and we both went into a belly laugh and i realised that she knew where i was coming from and she put my change in my hand after i bought the cake and i let her touch my hand and we both felt good.

i did not feel pride, but i felt happy that there was someone who did not see me as a complete mystery.

I always feel really great and proud of myself after I know I've socialized well. When I'm done, I walk away with a big smile on my face.

Once at a party I was getting attention from all the guys. I felt just like Scarlett O'Hara at the big barbecue. Then I noticed I was the only female there.

Ya I do. I really value successfully connecting with someone.

Insanely proud/happy. When I can pull it off, that is

It is the hardest thing in my life to do and when I do it well of course I'm proud of myself. I've worked extremely hard to improve that area of my life so that feeling of pride comes the satisfaction of a job well done.

Yeah! I get super proud and happy, and brim with a grin. I do the little bathroom dance, too. XD Very few of my friends understand why I would be so excited.

Sometimes.

I get a buzz when things work out like that, too, although it's very rare. Feeling like I've earned points with colleagues instead of losing them is always something to feel pleased about. Likewise, when I make a mistake I tend to beat myself up over it and it can very easily ruin my day.